I have this couple who comes and parties at our house on the weekends...they are awesome dont get me wrong....the dude is hot, and his girlfriend is cool too. However after Friday, Sat. and Sunday of partying them looking in eachothers face and being all lovey and shit gets old and tired after a while. Sometimes I want to tell them they need to get a room or go home with all that but I dont want to be mean.

Seriosuly they are a young couple in their early 20's but COME ON..it is not like they are new or anything. I dont be all up on my partner every five minutes to two hours at a time almost non sociable with the rest of the group. What should I say?

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paisleypark4 said:

I have this couple who comes and parties at our house on the weekends...they are awesome dont get me wrong....the dude is hot, and his girlfriend is cool too. However after Friday, Sat. and Sunday of partying them looking in eachothers face and being all lovey and shit gets old and tired after a while. Sometimes I want to tell them they need to get a room or go home with all that but I dont want to be mean.

Seriosuly they are a young couple in their early 20's but COME ON..it is not like they are new or anything. I dont be all up on my partner every five minutes to two hours at a time almost non sociable with the rest of the group. What should I say?

If they're not exhibiting gratuitous physicality in front of everyone what's so offensive? I mean, they're just looking, right?

If the issue is about them being non-social in the group settings you create then focus on that. But it's not your place to say how much they should be in love or lovey dovey with each other at their age or relationship phase. I do agree though that if it's a matter of ettiquette , and wanting everyone to feel comfortable at your parties when they have over the top behavior that's preventing this...okay then you should address it. But first you have to determine what is the root issue here that's making you uncomfortable with them:

a. they don't engage with other party go-ers and focus soley on themselves (which is sort of a diss to you as the host).

b. you don't like couples displaying affection in your presence

c. you don't like couples having gratuitous displays of affection (and define what is gratutious in your eyes with clear, concise examples)

If you start there and get at the root of what really gets under your skin about this, then it might be easier to find the right words and tone to address this with your friends. Hope that#s semi-helpful, for a start

mine acts like that, but I HATE it and get annoyed, yet it doesn't stop....it has toned down from before, but I've hated the smothering for quite awhile

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

yeah I know, I just want to smash something when thinking of how we were like that though I didn't like it

Spinlight said:

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

yeah that ^^

Ottensen said:

paisleypark4 said:

I have this couple who comes and parties at our house on the weekends...they are awesome dont get me wrong....the dude is hot, and his girlfriend is cool too. However after Friday, Sat. and Sunday of partying them looking in eachothers face and being all lovey and shit gets old and tired after a while. Sometimes I want to tell them they need to get a room or go home with all that but I dont want to be mean.

Seriosuly they are a young couple in their early 20's but COME ON..it is not like they are new or anything. I dont be all up on my partner every five minutes to two hours at a time almost non sociable with the rest of the group. What should I say?

If they're not exhibiting gratuitous physicality in front of everyone what's so offensive? I mean, they're just looking, right?

If the issue is about them being non-social in the group settings you create then focus on that. But it's not your place to say how much they should be in love or lovey dovey with each other at their age or relationship phase. I do agree though that if it's a matter of ettiquette , and wanting everyone to feel comfortable at your parties when they have over the top behavior that's preventing this...okay then you should address it. But first you have to determine what is the root issue here that's making you uncomfortable with them:

a. they don't engage with other party go-ers and focus soley on themselves (which is sort of a diss to you as the host).

b. you don't like couples displaying affection in your presence

c. you don't like couples having gratuitous displays of affection (and define what is gratutious in your eyes with clear, concise examples)

If you start there and get at the root of what really gets under your skin about this, then it might be easier to find the right words and tone to address this with your friends. Hope that#s semi-helpful, for a start

Yes they are ...taking 'pictures' in the side room in the dark..always hugging and kissing all over from time to time. I caught them at one moment..but we were all supposed to be sleeping..and actually I didnt care about that part at all..but still it all wraps into one. They socialize with us ...but there are times...plus they stay over three days when most everyone else goes home.

It's called show and tell.

2freaky4church1 said:

It's called show and tell.

I've seen enough of theirs believe me..and it wasnt even all that

mine has no brain, sometimes he doesn't care if my family is there and I just tell him off...idiot

people think me talking like that means I love him and I'm in denial AAAAARRRRRGGGHHHH

paisleypark4 said:

Ottensen said:

If they're not exhibiting gratuitous physicality in front of everyone what's so offensive? I mean, they're just looking, right?

If the issue is about them being non-social in the group settings you create then focus on that. But it's not your place to say how much they should be in love or lovey dovey with each other at their age or relationship phase. I do agree though that if it's a matter of ettiquette , and wanting everyone to feel comfortable at your parties when they have over the top behavior that's preventing this...okay then you should address it. But first you have to determine what is the root issue here that's making you uncomfortable with them:

a. they don't engage with other party go-ers and focus soley on themselves (which is sort of a diss to you as the host).

b. you don't like couples displaying affection in your presence

c. you don't like couples having gratuitous displays of affection (and define what is gratutious in your eyes with clear, concise examples)

If you start there and get at the root of what really gets under your skin about this, then it might be easier to find the right words and tone to address this with your friends. Hope that#s semi-helpful, for a start

Yes they are ...taking 'pictures' in the side room in the dark..always hugging and kissing all over from time to time. I caught them at one moment..but we were all supposed to be sleeping..and actually I didnt care about that part at all..but still it all wraps into one. They socialize with us ...but there are times...plus they stay over three days when most everyone else goes home.

I don't think the problem is your guests. I think the problem is the kind of parties you're having. Three days? Really?!

My wife and I are very lovey-dovey and I don't care who gets mad.

Genesia said:

paisleypark4 said:

Yes they are ...taking 'pictures' in the side room in the dark..always hugging and kissing all over from time to time. I caught them at one moment..but we were all supposed to be sleeping..and actually I didnt care about that part at all..but still it all wraps into one. They socialize with us ...but there are times...plus they stay over three days when most everyone else goes home.

I don't think the problem is your guests. I think the problem is the kind of parties you're having. Three days? Really?!

tell me about it..finally not having a party this friday; thank god

A little over the sweater action never hurt anyone.

Spinlight said:

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

CarrieMpls said:

Spinlight said:

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

I agree Carrie. This couple is almost....we cant seperate them half the time...I like both of them but the girl (her name is Ellie) just sometimes is not too sociable as much as her boyfriend. He is alot more relaxed and carefree abotu whom he talks to, he likes to talk to me about art, music and poetry alot too and I enjoy that but it's hard to even get a word in half the time.

CarrieMpls said:

Spinlight said:

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

Agreed.

Ain't nobody wanna see you droolin' all over your boo. Get over yourselves.

Acrylic said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

Agreed.

Ain't nobody wanna see you droolin' all over your boo. Get over yourselves.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I've had people tell me I'm just bitter

CarrieMpls said:

Spinlight said:

I can't stand public displays of affection beyond hand-holding for anyone - myself, or other people. It seems fairly inappropriate. At the very least, it's disruptive.

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

I'm right there with you.

RodeoSchro said:

My wife and I are very lovey-dovey and I don't care who gets mad.

Spinlight said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't mind quick kisses or even lingering hugs, such as part of a greeting or a goodbye. Those happen between friends just as often.

Much more than that is when it's a bit too much.

I'm right there with you.

it becomes then a knowing act, FOR the benefit of the audience and that's icky - to wow them? to make them jealous?

Six years ago my roommate started seeing a guy and they became instantly attached. They drove me insane with the lovey dovey shit. My roommate also didnt care if he was laid out asleep nekkid in the bed and left the door open. They really annoyed me. He also lived by himself but was ALWAYS at our place. Annoyance number two. They were SOO far up each other's butts. I play it cool with a guy in the beginning, just my nature, so she drove me nuts with her over the top lovey shit. Always been one to hold off on all of your cards until you KNOW he's in it for the long haul.

But I moved and they moved in with each other and man if he didn't immediately start getting cold feet. Intense up each other's butts couples always scream out to me that it will be over fast and someone is really insecure anyway. But man was it annoying as hell when I was around it. I love my boo-bie, but over the top PDA is a no no. Unless I'm drunk, I'll steal a kiss in public...grab his ass...

I told XxAxX you looked familiar!!!!! damn. next time, we draw curtains around us.

BlackAdder7 said:

I told XxAxX you looked familiar!!!!! damn. next time, we draw curtains around us.

curtains! where we going to find THOSE on the playground?

Is there some reason or reasons why this couple is staying at your home days after the party has ended? Is everyone else annoyed or put off with this couple PDA?

If something must be said . . .

He's the "friend", right? Pull him aside before your group has another get together and state the postives first. You are glad that he's happy and in love, you like her as well, and you look forward to their company on Fridays but . . . . something along the lines of what Ottensen has said.

Or you could ignore it and wait for them to cool down, they will cool down at some point, you hope.

KatSkrizzle said:

Six years ago my roommate started seeing a guy and they became instantly attached. They drove me insane with the lovey dovey shit. My roommate also didnt care if he was laid out asleep nekkid in the bed and left the door open. They really annoyed me. He also lived by himself but was ALWAYS at our place. Annoyance number two. They were SOO far up each other's butts. I play it cool with a guy in the beginning, just my nature, so she drove me nuts with her over the top lovey shit. Always been one to hold off on all of your cards until you KNOW he's in it for the long haul.

But I moved and they moved in with each other and man if he didn't immediately start getting cold feet. Intense up each other's butts couples always scream out to me that it will be over fast and someone is really insecure anyway. But man was it annoying as hell when I was around it. I love my boo-bie, but over the top PDA is a no no. Unless I'm drunk, I'll steal a kiss in public...grab his ass...

TD3 said:

Is there some reason or reasons why this couple is staying at your home days after the party has ended? Is everyone else annoyed or put off with this couple PDA?

If something must be said . . .

He's the "friend", right? Pull him aside before your group has another get together and state the postives first. You are glad that he's happy and in love, you like her as well, and you look forward to their company on Fridays but . . . . something along the lines of what Ottensen has said.

Or you could ignore it and wait for them to cool down, they will cool down at some point, you hope.

Well they kind of only just stay over because no one tells them to leave..its one of those non verbal things. I could pull him aside and say something, that's a good idea. Better than doing nothing. I have nothing against their relationship..just against them being non social in a bar like enviornment...for 3 days straight.

paisleypark4 said:

TD3 said:

Is there some reason or reasons why this couple is staying at your home days after the party has ended? Is everyone else annoyed or put off with this couple PDA?

If something must be said . . .

He's the "friend", right? Pull him aside before your group has another get together and state the postives first. You are glad that he's happy and in love, you like her as well, and you look forward to their company on Fridays but . . . . something along the lines of what Ottensen has said.

Or you could ignore it and wait for them to cool down, they will cool down at some point, you hope.

Well they kind of only just stay over because no one tells them to leave..its one of those non verbal things. I could pull him aside and say something, that's a good idea. Better than doing nothing. I have nothing against their relationship..just against them being non social in a bar like enviornment...for 3 days straight.

Your home has "a bar like environment?"

I think we just hit on another problem.

Genesia said:

paisleypark4 said:

Well they kind of only just stay over because no one tells them to leave..its one of those non verbal things. I could pull him aside and say something, that's a good idea. Better than doing nothing. I have nothing against their relationship..just against them being non social in a bar like enviornment...for 3 days straight.

Your home has "a bar like environment?"

I think we just hit on another problem.