for a man and a woman to be friends, the woman has to be fugly.
I don't think so. Even if the woman is cute and the man wants to do her, that doesn't mean he will act on it or that she would be responsive to it if he did.
If you have self control, you can be friends with a woman and be attracted to her and have it not be an issue, too.
for a man and a woman to be friends, the woman has to be fugly.
I don't think so. Even if the woman is cute and the man wants to do her, that doesn't mean he will act on it or that she would be responsive to it if he did.
If you have self control, you can be friends with a woman and be attracted to her and have it not be an issue, too.
That's just means that you're willing to wait until that other person is over all their bullshit and it can be your turn. When you realy like somebody and are physically attracted to them, you will be their friend but you will always have it on your mind that one day they will see how perfect you are for each other. It's the oldest song and dance in the world.
I don't think so. Even if the woman is cute and the man wants to do her, that doesn't mean he will act on it or that she would be responsive to it if he did.
If you have self control, you can be friends with a woman and be attracted to her and have it not be an issue, too.
That's just means that you're willing to wait until that other person is over all their bullshit and it can be your turn. When you realy like somebody and are physically attracted to them, you will be their friend but you will always have it on your mind that one day they will see how perfect you are for each other. It's the oldest song and dance in the world.
I don't know, I have had attractive female friends for the better part of a decade and nothing has happened.
If they threw themselves at me I might have a problem saying no, but in my life I can count on one hand the number of women that have thrown themselves at me.
As long as I keep it friendly, I don't think there is any danger of it crossing the line.
That's just means that you're willing to wait until that other person is over all their bullshit and it can be your turn. When you realy like somebody and are physically attracted to them, you will be their friend but you will always have it on your mind that one day they will see how perfect you are for each other. It's the oldest song and dance in the world.
I don't know, I have had attractive female friends for the better part of a decade and nothing has happened.
If they threw themselves at me I might have a problem saying no, but in my life I can count on one hand the number of women that have thrown themselves at me.
As long as I keep it friendly, I don't think there is any danger of it crossing the line.
But u see........this is the DANDER of a scrub giving advice and writing books about it.
Most men are friends with women because they would jump at more if they were given the chance. Not every guy of course, but come on....generally speaking it's true. I tried to convince myself for years that it's not true...but it totally is.
But I don't agree that men and women can't be or shouldn't be friends because of it.
it's true I might have trouble saying no to an attractive friend (I am a gross man after all), but what I really want from them is their company, not to screw up my life by having an affair with a friend.
And so far I have not done the latter. As I get older I think it's safer and more normal to have female friends. I have been in a committed relationship for a dozen years, what am I supposed to never talk to other women?! It's crazy.
There is a risk, but there is a risk if you DON'T have female friends, too.
Steve Harvey has been married 3 times and has only been married to wife #3 since 2007. He can't tell me ANYTHING about relationships.
If I want relationship advice, I am going to ask someone who's been in one for 20+ years, not a marginally talented comedian. But hey, to each his own. His books seem to be selling so someone must be listening to this guy.
I will not eat anything that walks, runs, skips, hops or crawls. God knows that I've crawled on occasion, and I'm glad that no one ate me. ~Alex Poulos
Most men are friends with women because they would jump at more if they were given the chance. Not every guy of course, but come on....generally speaking it's true. I tried to convince myself for years that it's not true...but it totally is.
But I don't agree that men and women can't be or shouldn't be friends because of it.
it's true I might have trouble saying no to an attractive friend (I am a gross man after all), but what I really want from them is their company, not to screw up my life by having an affair with a friend.
And so far I have not done the latter. As I get older I think it's safer and more normal to have female friends. I have been in a committed relationship for a dozen years, what am I supposed to never talk to other women?! It's crazy.
There is a risk, but there is a risk if you DON'T have female friends, too.
The other problem that I have is he's implying that women have nothing really to offer to a man but sex - that guys are only friends with females because they are only interested in getting their turn.
it's true I might have trouble saying no to an attractive friend (I am a gross man after all), but what I really want from them is their company, not to screw up my life by having an affair with a friend.
And so far I have not done the latter. As I get older I think it's safer and more normal to have female friends. I have been in a committed relationship for a dozen years, what am I supposed to never talk to other women?! It's crazy.
There is a risk, but there is a risk if you DON'T have female friends, too.
The other problem that I have is he's implying that women have nothing really to offer to a man but sex - that guys are only friends with females because they are only interested in getting their turn.
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Exactly, I know it might sound crazy, but I enjoy a woman's company. There may be a sexual component to it because women are different than men, but it does not mean that their company is only a prelude to sex.
Similarly, dancing with a partner might be sexual in nature, but it does not mean a man and woman cannot enjoy a dance with each other without having sex.
That's just means that you're willing to wait until that other person is over all their bullshit and it can be your turn. When you realy like somebody and are physically attracted to them, you will be their friend but you will always have it on your mind that one day they will see how perfect you are for each other. It's the oldest song and dance in the world.
I don't know, I have had attractive female friends for the better part of a decade and nothing has happened.
If they threw themselves at me I might have a problem saying no, but in my life I can count on one hand the number of women that have thrown themselves at me.
As long as I keep it friendly, I don't think there is any danger of it crossing the line.
Most of my good friends happen to be females and are pretty attractive. But if they were to make some kind of move on me I'd say no, although there is one that would make me think twice This probaly doesn't make any sense, but I guess in my case while I can say they're attractive, cute or whatever I'm not particularly attracted to them.
chill..prince doesnt like men being front row, makes it hard to sing the ballads
Wait, did she call him a poot butt??? Man I loves me some Chaka!
Oh god, I wish he pulled that shit on her 20 years ago, I swear she would've went after his 33 front teeth with a revolver. I'm talking about a woman who kicked the living shit out of Miles Davis & Rick James' asses for messing with her.
I'm happy that she's in a "low bullshit maintenance" mode these days but man, sometimes I just wish the "wild child" alter ego pops out every now and then on the motherfuckers who need to SEE it in action such as this "foot in the mouth" junkie.
Wait, did she call him a poot butt??? Man I loves me some Chaka!
I'm still trying to understand WTF Chaka is talking about.
It didn't help that the interview was severely edited, the questions seem vague, so even if you understand what she was saying, you'll end up lost
That being said, Chaka is a funny interviewee. That "bitch mode" moment when she was interviewed by Sherree(from Video Soul) was hilarious, she looked like she was about to burst and raise hell at any giving moment.
I'm still trying to understand WTF Chaka is talking about.
It didn't help that the interview was severely edited, the questions seem vague, so even if you understand what she was saying, you'll end up lost
That being said, Chaka is a funny interviewee. That "bitch mode" moment when she was interviewed by Sherree(from Video Soul) was hilarious, she looked like she was about to burst and raise hell at any giving moment.
Thats my "Anti-Hollywood" Yvette
I dunno what ya'll talkin' about she made perfekt sense to me.
It didn't help that the interview was severely edited, the questions seem vague, so even if you understand what she was saying, you'll end up lost
That being said, Chaka is a funny interviewee. That "bitch mode" moment when she was interviewed by Sherree(from Video Soul) was hilarious, she looked like she was about to burst and raise hell at any giving moment.
Thats my "Anti-Hollywood" Yvette
I dunno what ya'll talkin' about she made perfekt sense to me.
She made sense to me too, but I wish the interview wasn't edited. It looked like they were having a good time and whoever edited this shit made a sloppy job doing it.
it's true I might have trouble saying no to an attractive friend (I am a gross man after all), but what I really want from them is their company, not to screw up my life by having an affair with a friend.
And so far I have not done the latter. As I get older I think it's safer and more normal to have female friends. I have been in a committed relationship for a dozen years, what am I supposed to never talk to other women?! It's crazy.
There is a risk, but there is a risk if you DON'T have female friends, too.
The other problem that I have is he's implying that women have nothing really to offer to a man but sex - that guys are only friends with females because they are only interested in getting their turn.
That isn't what he said - or even implied. He was talking about the way guys think. They might think a woman is kind, intelligent, pretty...and have any number of redeeming qualities. But all that goes out the window (at least temporarily) if a woman they find attractive gives them the "opportunity."
And men and women who won't at least acknowledge that are liars - or kidding themselves.
We all want to think we're better than we really are.
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
The other problem that I have is he's implying that women have nothing really to offer to a man but sex - that guys are only friends with females because they are only interested in getting their turn.
That isn't what he said - or even implied. He was talking about the way guys think. They might think a woman is kind, intelligent, pretty...and have any number of redeeming qualities. But all that goes out the window (at least temporarily) if a woman they find attractive gives them the "opportunity."
And men and women who won't at least acknowledge that are liars - or kidding themselves.
We all want to think we're better than we really are.
Really? So every guy wants 2 hit every female that he can?
That isn't what he said - or even implied. He was talking about the way guys think. They might think a woman is kind, intelligent, pretty...and have any number of redeeming qualities. But all that goes out the window (at least temporarily) if a woman they find attractive gives them the "opportunity."
And men and women who won't at least acknowledge that are liars - or kidding themselves.
We all want to think we're better than we really are.
Really? So every guy wants 2 hit every female that he can?
B.S.
Who said that?
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
The other problem that I have is he's implying that women have nothing really to offer to a man but sex - that guys are only friends with females because they are only interested in getting their turn.
That isn't what he said - or even implied. He was talking about the way guys think. They might think a woman is kind, intelligent, pretty...and have any number of redeeming qualities. But all that goes out the window (at least temporarily) if a woman they find attractive gives them the "opportunity."
And men and women who won't at least acknowledge that are liars - or kidding themselves.
We all want to think we're better than we really are.
I agree with all you said, except I do think that is what he is exactly what he's implying.
Steve doesn't bother to acknowledge that some men and women manage to enter into and maintain romantic , or even platonic, relationships with little or no advice/help from him. Honestly, did he think the world was just waiting with bated breath for his oh so sound advice? That's what irks me about him....he actually thinks that the shit he says is somehow new. Yeah don't have sex with a man for a month after your first date...gee never heard that one before.
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N*gga I was NOT tryin' to be there,,,,,STEEEEEVE! 
@ the interviewer though, he was cracking up.
Most of my good friends happen to be females and are pretty attractive. But if they were to make some kind of move on me I'd say no, although there is one that would make me think twice 
Wait, did she call him a poot butt??? Man I loves me some Chaka! 
At the Ritz Carlton in Jamaica no less. 
