Do you enjoy them as adults more than when they were kids?

Or visa versa??

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

I enjoyed the entire phase of parenting each and yes even the bad times/experiences helped me to be come a better person too

what i love MOST about the 2 oldest adult children ( 32 & 30 ) is watching them parent their babies/kids ( we have 6 grands ) ~ Now THERE is a parents reward !

the 21 and 19 yr olds are doing well ~ much better at that age than I was so I feel I did a good job there too ~ and SO MUCH fun to be around them

tinaz said:

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

what a moving reply...

tinaz said:

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

You remind me of "Albert" in "The Birdcage."

HuMpThAnG said:

Do you enjoy them as adults more than when they were kids?

Or visa versa??

I agree with Mach, I enjoyed ever phase of being a parent. I have a tinge of regret of not having more children but my husband said we could've had a jerk, then what? Get back to the queston. Each phases of watching our daughter reach adulthood was comforting, a milestone. All we ever wanted was to make sure we lived long enough to teach her how to defend, be responsible, and take care of herself.

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[Edited 12/13/10 14:32pm]

My son was a pain in the ass brat up until he was 10, then he became a sweet natured young man.

Today he is a 27 year old young professional. He is very successful, and I could not be more proud of him if I tried. He loves his 3 little sisters and spoils them rotten, he donates his time to the animal shelter, and always donates a ton of toys to our local "toys for tots" charity.

I love spending time with him, I am proud that I went through the rough years, never giving in and not letting him get away with crap, because I made him a man.

[Edited 12/13/10 10:25am]

whistle said:

tinaz said:

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

what a moving reply...

Thank you! I get very emotional when I talk about my babies...

Shyra said:

tinaz said:

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

You remind me of "Albert" in "The Birdcage."

!!!

whistle said:

tinaz said:

Thats a hard one to answer.. I loved having them at home and taking care of them and being their entire world... Sometimes I cry when I look at pictures of them when they were small because I miss everything about my life when they were at home. Dont even get me started on the bawl fest when I watch old home movies...I cant decorate my tree without crying anymore because of all the ornaments they made over the years.. I miss them being small terribly! But...

I love spending time with them as adults.. I love when they call me and ask for advise, or just wanna hang out with me because they think im cool! We can talk like grown ups and they can tell me anything and vice versa. Im so proud to watch them live their lives as awesome adults, knowing my husband and I did a good job! I also love that they still wanna come home and be "mommied" even tho they are married and are starting their own families..

I think having them as adults makes me worry a WHOLE lot more about them though.. My son is a marine in Afghanistan, sometimes I feel I cant breathe because I worry about him so much, see... im crying just typing this! I just cant talk about him, I cant cry all the time...

My daughter is newly married, and is having my first granchild!! I worry about her and her happiness, and health, and I dont want her to go without anything, but I have to remember my husband and I started with nothing and half the fun of what we have now was getting there, but I have a hard time hearing her talk about money issues.. But when they were at home I was able to control their lives, and by control, I mean keep them safe, and warm and happy and protect them from things that made them sad...

I cant really answer your question definately because I am loving each phase of their life.. But if truth be told, I would of never let them grow up and leave me!

what a moving reply...

Reading that made me feel all teary!

As a mum of young children, I sometimes feel like I can't wait for them to grow up.

It was nice to read this.

Lisa10 said:

whistle said:

what a moving reply...

Reading that made me feel all teary!

As a mum of young children, I sometimes feel like I can't wait for them to grow up.

It was nice to read this.

A client said to me "hey! I know they annoy you when they tear around the house shrieking and you have a headache, but at least you know WHERE your babies are!" She has 2 teenage sons that she tears her hair out over

ZombieKitten said:

Lisa10 said:

Reading that made me feel all teary!

As a mum of young children, I sometimes feel like I can't wait for them to grow up.

It was nice to read this.

A client said to me "hey! I know they annoy you when they tear around the house shrieking and you have a headache, but at least you know WHERE your babies are!" She has 2 teenage sons that she tears her hair out over

Everyone says, Oh, they don't grow up fast when they are yours; I've found that to be a myth, it went by pretty quickly to use.

Go co-sign with Tinaz on all that she's said.

I actually find myself more concerned about them now that they're older because I can't control (as Tinaz uses the word...keep them safe etc.) their lives like I use to.

I also find I'm worrying more about people they introduce me to. I just feel grateful that I still get to know many of their friends and check them out.

It's a bittersweet thing.

TD3 said:

ZombieKitten said:

A client said to me "hey! I know they annoy you when they tear around the house shrieking and you have a headache, but at least you know WHERE your babies are!" She has 2 teenage sons that she tears her hair out over

Everyone says, Oh, they don't grow up fast when they are yours; I've found that to be a myth, it went by pretty quickly to use.

It goes by in a heartbeat ~