nope...no co sleeping for us. I mean sure sometimes in the wee hours of the morning my 3 year old will climb in and I actually love that. He would sleep with us every night if I let him but...there's just not enough room. I def don't sleep well when he's with us, with an elbow to the head or the scrap of bed I have left it's just not good for me.

I think it's most detrimental to a marriage....and could be the reason some mums want the baby in the bed.

IF I were a single mom....I'd probably have the boys in bed with me more often, cause it is great snuggling.

Shanti0608 said:

I some times wonder why my son will not sleep anywhere but his own bed. I breast fed and did the skin on skin contact when he was first born.

He tends to be pretty independent with some things like wanting to feed himself. He never let me swaddle him when he was small. He is not big on being comforted when he hurts himself or does not feel well. He wants a quick hug or pat that he is ok and then he is off to deal with it himself.

Well, your kid is half-Brit afterall.

Shanti0608 said:

I some times wonder why my son will not sleep anywhere but his own bed. I breast fed and did the skin on skin contact when he was first born.

He tends to be pretty independent with some things like wanting to feed himself. He never let me swaddle him when he was small. He is not big on being comforted when he hurts himself or does not feel well. He wants a quick hug or pat that he is ok and then he is off to deal with it himself.

Babies/children are funny little creatures. No two are alike.

I still hope to take a cuddly nap with my son, some day.

Daisy was like this.

I thought I had done something 'wrong' since Noah had been so cuddly. She's just more independent.

You'll get the cuddly nap. She's five now and she likes me to lay with her now, just when she was a baby, she took her sleep very seriously and wanted to be left alone.

Shorty said:

nope...no co sleeping for us. I mean sure sometimes in the wee hours of the morning my 3 year old will climb in and I actually love that. He would sleep with us every night if I let him but...there's just not enough room. I def don't sleep well when he's with us, with an elbow to the head or the scrap of bed I have left it's just not good for me.

I think it's most detrimental to a marriage....and could be the reason some mums want the baby in the bed.

IF I were a single mom....I'd probably have the boys in bed with me more often, cause it is great snuggling.

I always wondered how married couples have sexy time when they co-sleep with their children.

good point Lammstide

Good to hear I did not do anything wrong Dani

Vanillah said:

I think that parents should do what's best for their family. Every circumstance is different. My son is disabled and slept in the bed with me for many years because he woke up multiple times during the night. But as for healthy kids, I still say, it's up to that parent. I mean, whatever works, do it!

I think it's weird, and since I am not a parent I think you should all listen to me

i tried it once when i was frightened as a kid. my dad told me to fuck off back to my room.

whistle said:

i tried it once when i was frightened as a kid. my dad told me to fuck off back to my room.

This explains a lot.

NDRU said:

I think it's weird, and since I am not a parent I think you should all listen to me

NDRU said:

I think it's weird, and since I am not a parent I think you should all listen to me

You have to keep context and culture in mind when having a discussion like this. I slept in a bed with adults who are family for so many years on and off throughout my childhood, so I don't see the big deal. I sort of laughed at the mj joke though it was mean, but we all know he's innocent and why he was having fun, let's not get into that, plus I'm sure all of his family sharing space was normal, I slept with 3 adults in the room till I was 7 for example.

If you have an issue with your kids sleeping with you than don't allow it. If you don't have an issue with your kids sleeping in your bed than do. To each his or her own, mind your own business or get some.

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alphastreet said:

You have to keep context and culture in mind when having a discussion like this. I slept in a bed with adults who are family for so many years on and off throughout my childhood, so I don't see the big deal. I sort of laughed at the mj joke though it was mean, but we all know he's innocent and why he was having fun, let's not get into that, plus I'm sure all of his family sharing space was normal, I slept with 3 adults in the room till I was 7 for example.

To the first part, no we don't. So if you don't want to get into it don't make statements like that one. To the second part

I slept in the same bed as my parents most nights until I was four... then my little sis came along, and I got booted to my own bed. But I didn't really mind, I wanted my own space.

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JustErin said:

whistle said:

i tried it once when i was frightened as a kid. my dad told me to fuck off back to my room.

This explains a lot.

he was a macho guy, he didn't like it if we showed fear outwardly.

mimi2 said:

JustErin said:

My son slept in his own bed until he was about 2 1/2 and we went on a 2 week vacation. He slept in the bed with me on the trip and it just became a habit. He has slept in his own bed sometimes, but he usually stays with me.

He's 5. But he knows that he will be back in his own bed when we get to the new house in January.

So the times when he sleeps by himself, do you know if he sleeps just as well as when he's with you?

DaphneLovesPR1NCE said:

I think its fine for me...I will probably have my baby in the bed with me because I'm to scared not to. I think co-sleeping is fine if it works. I slept with my mom until I was about 3, after that I would venture into the bed with one of my older siblings until I was like 6 or 7. And one day, I wanted to sleep alone and have been that way since then. I don't see any long term problems. Except in the area of mom and dad getting busy...now that can be an issue. So I guess it just depends on the couple and what they agree on. I know alot of people that do natural parenting(co-sleeping, homeschooling, cloth diapering, baby wearing, etc.) so its not that big a deal to me.

If you have a husband/bf when you have a baby, what would you say if your guy didn't want the baby to sleep with you?

Hmmm, that's a good question. I mean if my hubby were really against it, I'd have to put the baby in a cradle, hopefully right by the bed! And to be honest, I'll probably never sleep that first year with constantly checking on the baby. I'm a night owl anyway, so it won't be hard to stay up all night if the baby has to sleep on its own cause hubby don't agree with co-sleeping.

Cerebus said:

alphastreet said:

You have to keep context and culture in mind when having a discussion like this. I slept in a bed with adults who are family for so many years on and off throughout my childhood, so I don't see the big deal. I sort of laughed at the mj joke though it was mean, but we all know he's innocent and why he was having fun, let's not get into that, plus I'm sure all of his family sharing space was normal, I slept with 3 adults in the room till I was 7 for example.

To the first part, no we don't. So if you don't want to get into it don't make statements like that one. To the second part

space my friend, research will add the cherry on top

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alphastreet said:

Cerebus said:

To the first part, no we don't. So if you don't want to get into it don't make statements like that one. To the second part

space my friend, research will add the cherry on top

You realize that your last statement makes not one lick of sense, right?

go research what happened to mj, dumbass!

alphastreet said:

go research what happened to mj, dumbass!

Why are you insulting me? Do you really think that makes you seem intelligent, or that it somehow validates your point? Speaking of points, you seem to be completely missing mine. What happened to MJ? What, he had a tough childhood and then became a hugely succesful pop star with the money to do whatever pay off whoever he wanted. I don't care about what happened to MJ, I care about what he did to a bunch of little boys who were sleeping in his bed. Our environment shapes us, but it doesn't make decisions for us or force us into doing things we know are wrong. As adults those decisions are 100% free will.

lmao poor thing...

alphastreet said:

lmao poor thing...

Sorry, but the tone of bemused condescension here is not working for you...at all.

whistle said:

i tried it once when i was frightened as a kid. my dad told me to fuck off back to my room.

My parents did not allow it. They kept their door shut and locked. We had a bathroom that had two doors, one that went to their room. If I got scared, I would go into the bathroom with my blanket and sleep proped up against the door. My dad would get pissed if I woke him up so I would say "mommy" over and over really quiet hoping she would hear me until I fell asleep. I usually only did that when we had a really bad lightening/thunder storm.

Shanti0608 said:

whistle said:

i tried it once when i was frightened as a kid. my dad told me to fuck off back to my room.

My parents did not allow it. They kept their door shut and locked. We had a bathroom that had two doors, one that went to their room. If I got scared, I would go into the bathroom with my blanket and sleep proped up against the door. My dad would get pissed if I woke him up so I would say "mommy" over and over really quiet hoping she would hear me until I fell asleep. I usually only did that when we had a really bad lightening/thunder storm.

Awwww!

Bless your little heart!

If my mum heard any of us out of our beds, she's shout 'Monsters!' We'd leg it straight back to bed in fright and hide under our covers.

Lisa10 said:

Shanti0608 said:

My parents did not allow it. They kept their door shut and locked. We had a bathroom that had two doors, one that went to their room. If I got scared, I would go into the bathroom with my blanket and sleep proped up against the door. My dad would get pissed if I woke him up so I would say "mommy" over and over really quiet hoping she would hear me until I fell asleep. I usually only did that when we had a really bad lightening/thunder storm.

Awwww!

Bless your little heart!

If my mum heard any of us out of our beds, she's shout 'Monsters!' We'd leg it straight back to bed in fright and hide under our covers.

Yes, probably a good things my parents only had one child

I do not want to be that harsh. Though I think when our little monster is in a bed, we will have trouble keeping him there.

Maybe I will try what your mum did.

Lisa10 said:

Shanti0608 said:

My parents did not allow it. They kept their door shut and locked. We had a bathroom that had two doors, one that went to their room. If I got scared, I would go into the bathroom with my blanket and sleep proped up against the door. My dad would get pissed if I woke him up so I would say "mommy" over and over really quiet hoping she would hear me until I fell asleep. I usually only did that when we had a really bad lightening/thunder storm.

Awwww!

Bless your little heart!

If my mum heard any of us out of our beds, she's shout 'Monsters!' We'd leg it straight back to bed in fright and hide under our covers.

i'm sorry really sorry for your suffering ... but

XxAxX said:

Lisa10 said:

Awwww!

Bless your little heart!

If my mum heard any of us out of our beds, she's shout 'Monsters!' We'd leg it straight back to bed in fright and hide under our covers.

i'm sorry really sorry for your suffering ... but

I know. My mum is an evil cow! I often tell my kids how lucky they are that they don't have her as their mother.

I had all of my kids in the bed with me until they were weaned off the breast. It never interfered with my marriage or sex life, in fact it enhanced it. My husband loved to watch me breast feed and after they were sleep we made love. They spent only 2 years in the bed with us, I had no problem getting them in their own bed.

nammie said:

I had all of my kids in the bed with me until they were weaned off the breast. It never interfered with my marriage or sex life, in fact it enhanced it. My husband loved to watch me breast feed and after they were sleep we made love. They spent only 2 years in the bed with us, I had no problem getting them in their own bed.

... nevermind

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