Oprah On Her Relationship With Gayle: ‘I’m Not a Lesbian.

An emotional Oprah Winfrey teared up as she spoke to Barabara Walters about her relationship with rumored lover Gayle King.

“I have said we are not gay,” she tells Barbara Walters on “A Barbara Walters Special: Oprah, The Next Chapter,” airing Thursday on ABC. “I’m not lesbian. I’m not even kind of lesbian. And the reason it irritates me is because somebody must think I’m lying. That’s number one. Number two, why would you want to hide it? That’s not the way I run my life.”

Oprah says that despite rarely being seen in public together, Stedman is still “the love… the lover… the man… the partner… the mate” of her life.

“[Gayle] is the mother I never had, she is the sister everybody would want, she is the friend everybody deserves,” she says. “I don’t know a better person. It’s making me cry because I’m thinking about how I’ve probably never told her that.”

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

http://sandrarose.com/

banks said:

Oprah On Her Relationship With Gayle: ‘I’m Not a Lesbian.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

An emotional Oprah Winfrey teared up as she spoke to Barabara Walters about her relationship with rumored lover Gayle King.

“I have said we are not gay,” she tells Barbara Walters on “A Barbara Walters Special: Oprah, The Next Chapter,” airing Thursday on ABC. “I’m not lesbian. I’m not even kind of lesbian. And the reason it irritates me is because somebody must think I’m lying. That’s number one. Number two, why would you want to hide it? That’s not the way I run my life.”

Oprah says that despite rarely being seen in public together, Stedman is still “the love… the lover… the man… the partner… the mate” of her life.

“[Gayle] is the mother I never had, she is the sister everybody would want, she is the friend everybody deserves,” she says. “I don’t know a better person. It’s making me cry because I’m thinking about how I’ve probably never told her that.”

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

http://sandrarose.com/

Anne Heche comes into my mind.

Ricky Martin denied it for yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeears...

Nikademus said:

Ricky Martin denied it for yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeears...

Ricky never answered the question.. he just avoided it... he never said I'm Not Gay!!!

banks said:

Nikademus said:

Ricky Martin denied it for yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeears...

Ricky never answered the question.. he just avoided it... he never said I'm Not Gay!!!

That's how I remember it. He never confirmed nor denied when asked that question, he would simply say he didn't want to answer it.

Though in regards to Oprah... ... I mean, I WANT to believe she's telling the truth, and I have no intimate knowledge of any aspect of that womans life, but I have trouble believing Stedman is supposed to be her boyfriend. I can more easily buy into the possibility of Gayle being just a good friend, before buying into Stedman as her lover, lol.

banks said:

Oprah On Her Relationship With Gayle: ‘I’m Not a Lesbian.

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

http://sandrarose.com/

But does that make her a lesbian? I'm pretty sure I know a few women who are more intimate in every way other than sexual with their girlfriends than they are with their husbands or boyfriends, but I don't think any of them are lesbians.

While I've never been a big fan of O, if she was a lesbian she would be out and proud by now. What does the woman have to lose by staying in the closet? Not a damn thing. If she got any blow back she would just do a "These are my favorite things lesbian edition" and her audience would be back into her bosom.

banks said:

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

It sounds to me like she's known that for years. Somebody should tell that to the rest of the world.

it sounds to me like she's protesting too much.

cinnamongal said:

it sounds to me like she's protesting too much.

That's the feeling I get.

Well she's something. Perhaps that's just not the right word she identifies with. That relationship runs deep. When i see them together, it's like seeing a married couple. They even argue like one. Her time will come. You know Oprah bides her time. Then we get the "revelation" show. It's up to her, though. I personally think there's more to it than what she's willing to divulge.

PDogz said:

cinnamongal said:

it sounds to me like she's protesting too much.

That's the feeling I get.

She's damned either way. People always find fault in others even if there is none. If she says nothing, she's gay. If she publicly denies it, she gay. It doesn't matter what she says because there's always still going to be the mob out there that wants to think they have something on her and will condemn her for what they think they know about her private life.

If she was a lesbian I would think she would have been outed by someone by now. Even if not, I don't see why she would lie: what does she have to gain or lose at this phase in her life. She has everything. She has endless riches, she has power. She steers her own ship without being at the mercy of bosses, in all forms of media...and she was able to amass all of this while admitting openly she used to smoke crack, was molested, and later sexually promiscuous...do you honestly think that after all the transparency she's shown over so many years, that at this stage in her life she would be afraid to be a (GASP!) power lesbian

Where's the rationale in that?

banks said:

Nikademus said:

Ricky Martin denied it for yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeears...

Ricky never answered the question.. he just avoided it... he never said I'm Not Gay!!!

and anyway it's always been quietly understood by people in music circles (and pretty much the entire city of Miami Beach) that Ricki is gay. He did have a girlfriend once that by all accounts he loved very much, but he also had boyfriends (I guess that actually makes him Bi); but in any event, he was always openly affectionate in public with his boyfriends and always introduced them as such to friends and business colleagues. No one in those those circles really gave a shiggity, so it was just a non-story.

Ottensen said:

banks said:

Ricky never answered the question.. he just avoided it... he never said I'm Not Gay!!!

and anyway it's always been quietly understood by people in music circles (and pretty much the entire city of Miami Beach) that Ricki is gay. He did have a girlfriend once that by all accounts he loved very much, but he also had boyfriends (I guess that actually makes him Bi); but in any event, he was always openly affectionate in public with his boyfriends and always introduced them as such to friends and business colleagues. No one in those those circles really gave a shiggity, so it was just a non-story.

You need to write a damn book Auntie Ottie! I'd preorder it!

bboy87 said:

Ottensen said:

and anyway it's always been quietly understood by people in music circles (and pretty much the entire city of Miami Beach) that Ricki is gay. He did have a girlfriend once that by all accounts he loved very much, but he also had boyfriends (I guess that actually makes him Bi); but in any event, he was always openly affectionate in public with his boyfriends and always introduced them as such to friends and business colleagues. No one in those those circles really gave a shiggity, so it was just a non-story.

You need to write a damn book Auntie Ottie! I'd preorder it!

Now that right thuuur is a sign that my ass is getting too damned chatty. Never fails, it's always right around the holidays

Ottensen said:

bboy87 said:

You need to write a damn book Auntie Ottie! I'd preorder it!

Now that right thuuur is a sign that my ass is getting too damned chatty. Never fails, it's always right around the holidays

I wanna hear more!

Also, how is Oprah's popularity in Germany?

bboy87 said:

Ottensen said:

Now that right thuuur is a sign that my ass is getting too damned chatty. Never fails, it's always right around the holidays

I wanna hear more!

Also, how is Oprah's popularity in Germany?

They don't know of her. She used to air her show here in the 80's and early 90's, but they have no concept of who she is or what she is. She's only been mentioned briefly in the press because she was an Obama supporter, and even then they only know her as "USA Talklady Oprah Winfrey"...they essentially have no clue

I have a very close relationship like that with my best friend, I am not married. I see how a close friendship like this can develop. I think some people just have a hard time believing that a black woman that isn't classically pretty and sporting a darker hue will not or maybe shouldn't deserve the love and loyalty that Stedman (a "pretty" guy) gives Oprah.

I know of a few women that are spoken badly about because other women say, "He's too good looking for her, what does he see in that?" It's just a mean thing to say. I swear if Oprah looked like Halley Berry we wouldn't be having this conversation. Stedman would be so lucky to be able to sniff that when he could. But she's black and ugly... she must be gay! We all know Stead doesn't hit that!

I don't think she is, and besides.. like others have mentioned, she has nothing to lose in saying so. We as a whole can be such very harsh critics towards women in general.

[Edited 12/9/10 1:57am]

Oprah said:

I'm not gay but my girlfriend is

OK

She said her friend is Gayle.

Gayle, not Gay.

Hence the confusion

Yeah, so this topic gave me mental images of a Gayle and Oprah sex tape on their "fishing trip"....

Jesus takes my wheelchair and turbo boost my ass to safety.

Lammastide said:

banks said:

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

It sounds to me like she's known that for years. Somebody should tell that to the rest of the world.

It's quite possible that human relationships don't fit neatly into the boxes it's apparently been decided they should. Perhaps being close to someone of the same sex who's neither a blood-relative nor someone she fucks works for her and the others involved, even if the world hasn't fashioned an appropriate label to stick on that yet.

deebee said:

Lammastide said:

It sounds to me like she's known that for years. Somebody should tell that to the rest of the world.

It's quite possible that human relationships don't fit neatly into the boxes it's apparently been decided they should. Perhaps being close to someone of the same sex who's neither a blood-relative nor someone she fucks works for her and the others involved, even if the world hasn't fashioned an appropriate label to stick on that yet.

How about "friend" ?

Are true friendships that rare that we must assume that Oprah's and Gayle's friendship is based on sexual attraction?

well of course she is not a lesbian... she is bisexual

imagine me on her couch while she is here in oz

i bet there'll b lots of goodies under my chair

why should she tell anyone anyway...it's her private life

[Edited 12/9/10 4:50am]

Cerebus said:

banks said:

Oprah On Her Relationship With Gayle: ‘I’m Not a Lesbian.

Somebody should tell Oprah that she can be in an intimate relationship with another woman and not engage in sexual acts with her.

http://sandrarose.com/

But does that make her a lesbian? I'm pretty sure I know a few women who are more intimate in every way other than sexual with their girlfriends than they are with their husbands or boyfriends, but I don't think any of them are lesbians.

Exactly.

There's a woman I have been dear, dear friends with for over 20 years. We have been through some amazing times (good and bad) together - and have always been there for each other. But the relationship has never been sexual.

If Barbara Walters got me talking about our friendship, I'd probably cry, too. I simply can't imagine my life without this person.

paintedlady said:

deebee said:

It's quite possible that human relationships don't fit neatly into the boxes it's apparently been decided they should. Perhaps being close to someone of the same sex who's neither a blood-relative nor someone she fucks works for her and the others involved, even if the world hasn't fashioned an appropriate label to stick on that yet.

How about "friend" ?

Are true friendships that rare that we must assume that Oprah's and Gayle's friendship is based on sexual attraction?

Good point. From the number of raised eyebrows about whether "friendship" really cuts it in this case, and whispers that it must be 'something more', it would appear so, sadly.

Maybe we just can't imagine a relationship where there's intimacy without sex. A strange quirk of our highly sexualised culture, perhaps, that although we see the physical side of relationships everywhere (endless celebrity sex tapes and crotch shots; hardcore porn always a few mouse clicks away, etc), intimacy has been so consistently elbowed out of the picture, we can only see it as something that's essentially just a supplement to fucking.

paintedlady said:

I have a very close relationship like that with my best friend, I am not married. I see how a close friendship like this can develop. I think some people just have a hard time believing that a black woman that isn't classically pretty and sporting a darker hue will not or maybe shouldn't deserve the love and loyalty that Stedman (a "pretty" guy) gives Oprah.

I know of a few women that are spoken badly about because other women say, "He's too good looking for her, what does he see in that?" It's just a mean thing to say. I swear if Oprah looked like Halley Berry we wouldn't be having this conversation. Stedman would be so lucky to be able to sniff that when he could. But she's black and ugly... she must be gay! We all know Stead doesn't hit that!

I don't think she is, and besides.. like others have mentioned, she has nothing to lose in saying so. We as a whole can be such very harsh critics towards women in general.

[Edited 12/9/10 1:57am]

paintedlady said:

I have a very close relationship like that with my best friend, I am not married. I see how a close friendship like this can develop. I think some people just have a hard time believing that a black woman that isn't classically pretty and sporting a darker hue will not or maybe shouldn't deserve the love and loyalty that Stedman (a "pretty" guy) gives Oprah.

I know of a few women that are spoken badly about because other women say, "He's too good looking for her, what does he see in that?" It's just a mean thing to say. I swear if Oprah looked like Halley Berry we wouldn't be having this conversation. Stedman would be so lucky to be able to sniff that when he could. But she's black and ugly... she must be gay! We all know Stead doesn't hit that!

I don't think she is, and besides.. like others have mentioned, she has nothing to lose in saying so. We as a whole can be such very harsh critics towards women in general.

[Edited 12/9/10 1:57am]

Even here on the org I've seen people refer to her as a Mammy.

I'm amazed that people really care about this.

AMAZED.

Graycap23 said:

I'm amazed that people really care about this.

AMAZED.