at the age of 36! Hilarious.

My life is soooo drama free and then this stupidness happens. It even came to the point that I asked people who know this person (only knew through me very casually) to delete her from their friends' list.

How high school is that? But I had deleted her and was sick of her having a way into seeing my life through them (pictures, wall posts, etc).

They all did it except one person...the dude I have had a casual thing with for like a billion years. And now I am pissed off at him about it.

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

Does this mean you're cured?!?!

I understand though... I've culled all the bullshitters from my life. Not enough life left to have to deal with their shit too...

JustErin said:

at the age of 36! Hilarious.

My life is soooo drama free and then this stupidness happens. It even came to the point that I asked people who know this person (only knew through me very casually) to delete her from their friends' list.

How high school is that? But I had deleted her and was sick of her having a way into seeing my life through them (pictures, wall posts, etc).

They all did it except one person...the dude I have had a casual thing with for like a billion years. And now I am pissed off at him about it.

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

You can always join the "Fuck Facebook" club. I did it and now everyone I want out of my life is out of my life.

RenHoek said:

Does this mean you're cured?!?!

I understand though... I've culled all the bullshitters from my life. Not enough life left to have to deal with their shit too...

Cured of what?

FauxReal said:

JustErin said:

at the age of 36! Hilarious.

My life is soooo drama free and then this stupidness happens. It even came to the point that I asked people who know this person (only knew through me very casually) to delete her from their friends' list.

How high school is that? But I had deleted her and was sick of her having a way into seeing my life through them (pictures, wall posts, etc).

They all did it except one person...the dude I have had a casual thing with for like a billion years. And now I am pissed off at him about it.

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

You can always join the "Fuck Facebook" club. I did it and now everyone I want out of my life is out of my life.

I still like facebook. I'm just a little cheesed about this.

I got a text from dude tonight and after texting a bit he asked me (again) what happened between us. I replied with, "She's ur friend, why don't you go ask her".

I suppose I should not have said that. I used to say things like that all the time but I thought I had since grown up...guess not!

sometimes friends grow apart...their lives change or they meet some one that the other does not like ete etc etc

and it hurts - but people move on

and make new friends

Good luck with the new friend thing

JustErin said:

FauxReal said:

You can always join the "Fuck Facebook" club. I did it and now everyone I want out of my life is out of my life.

I still like facebook. I'm just a little cheesed about this.

I got a text from dude tonight and after texting a bit he asked me (again) what happened between us. I replied with, "She's ur friend, why don't you go ask her".

I suppose I should not have said that. I used to say things like that all the time but I thought I had since grown up...guess not!

It happens to us all.

Shit I mailed someone their shit back when I work with them just cuz I didn't want to talk to them. I sent it Priority Mail though because I'm not an asshole.

Was it high schoolish...maybe.

I had a falling in with one last week... if ya know what I'm sayin'. *nudge*nudge*wink*wink*

FauxReal said:

You can always join the "Fuck Facebook" club. I did it and now everyone I want out of my life is out of my life.

Yaaay! So glad to hear it worked for you. It's a growing trend, too.

We didn't grow apart. She did something stupid that showed me how selfish she really is...but I let it go. She then came to me with a ton of paranoid accusations and stupid drama saying I wasn't there for her anymore and blah, blah, blah (without knowing a damn thing about the shit I have been dealing with the last few months or even asking how I was) and I really realized that it really was just all about her, her her.

I had done so much to help this girl and I suddenly realized none of it was appreciated. When she then didn't invite me to her wedding and was constantly posting about it and all her awesome friends that were going...I had enough and decided to cut her out of my life.

I'm not used to dealing with people like that.

Cerebus said:

I had a falling in with one last week... if ya know what I'm sayin'. *nudge*nudge*wink*wink*

Say no more, say no more.

JustErin said:

RenHoek said:

Does this mean you're cured?!?!

I understand though... I've culled all the bullshitters from my life. Not enough life left to have to deal with their shit too...

Cured of what?

Ok, maybe not cured, but feeling better?

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

I had a falling in with one last week... if ya know what I'm sayin'. *nudge*nudge*wink*wink*

Say no more, say no more.

OK. But I realized when I re-read it that it sounded bad. Um... it wasn't. I'm going to go watch Boardwalk Empire and some other show *cough* I have recorded now. Be good late nighters.... or... ya know, don't!

RenHoek said:

JustErin said:

Cured of what?

Ok, maybe not cured, but feeling better?

About the situation with her. Sure.

But this jerk that would rather find out what happened than just dump her (remember he's my friend met her like 2 times and thought she was "weird") is what's making me annoyed. Everyone else did it no questions asked.

I guess I'm just being pissy.

But as revenge....I won't give it up to him anymore.

JustErin said:

We didn't grow apart. She did something stupid that showed me how selfish she really is...but I let it go. She then came to me with a ton of paranoid accusations and stupid drama saying I wasn't there for her anymore and blah, blah, blah (without knowing a damn thing about the shit I have been dealing with the last few months or even asking how I was) and I really realized that it really was just all about her, her her.

I had done so much to help this girl and I suddenly realized none of it was appreciated. When she then didn't invite me to her wedding and was constantly posting about it and all her awesome friends that were going...I had enough and decided to cut her out of my life.

I'm not used to dealing with people like that.

Sounds like part of growing up, becoming "mature" and all that nonsense. You're probably lucky to still be dealing with it now, though. I got rid of all those people in my mid twenties.

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

We didn't grow apart. She did something stupid that showed me how selfish she really is...but I let it go. She then came to me with a ton of paranoid accusations and stupid drama saying I wasn't there for her anymore and blah, blah, blah (without knowing a damn thing about the shit I have been dealing with the last few months or even asking how I was) and I really realized that it really was just all about her, her her.

I had done so much to help this girl and I suddenly realized none of it was appreciated. When she then didn't invite me to her wedding and was constantly posting about it and all her awesome friends that were going...I had enough and decided to cut her out of my life.

I'm not used to dealing with people like that.

Sounds like part of growing up, becoming "mature" and all that nonsense. You're probably lucky to still be dealing with it now, though. I got rid of all those people in my mid twenties.

I had too. But I obviously was way off on this one. She caused so many issues since I met her. And caused a HUGE situation between my brother and I which led to issues with my mother as well. I should have just walked away at that point but I made the big mistake of not thinking much of it until it was drama towards me.

It's classic really.

JustErin said:

RenHoek said:

Ok, maybe not cured, but feeling better?

About the situation with her. Sure.

But this jerk that would rather find out what happened than just dump her (remember he's my friend met her like 2 times and thought she was "weird") is what's making me annoyed. Everyone else did it no questions asked.

I guess I'm just being pissy.

But as revenge....I won't give it up to him anymore.

THAT is the most painful thing I've read all evening...

RenHoek said:

JustErin said:

About the situation with her. Sure.

But this jerk that would rather find out what happened than just dump her (remember he's my friend met her like 2 times and thought she was "weird") is what's making me annoyed. Everyone else did it no questions asked.

I guess I'm just being pissy.

But as revenge....I won't give it up to him anymore.

THAT is the most painful thing I've read all evening...

He has a girlfriend now so he's not even supposed to be contacting me anyway. I'm a little confused on what he wanted tonight in the first place.

Cerebus said:

FauxReal said:

You can always join the "Fuck Facebook" club. I did it and now everyone I want out of my life is out of my life.

Yaaay! So glad to hear it worked for you. It's a growing trend, too.

I'm so late to the game. I've never had a Facebook page to begin with.

I just think it took you a bit longer to reach your "breaking point" with her. Nothing high school about it if you told her straight out about herself and kept it moving.

I call it "purging", sometimes, ya gotta do it. And you know what? You'll be doing it again in the future with some other heffa that has issues you don't care to deal with. "Fool" comes in all ages, and some people love attract drama in their lives by making repeated bad choices. Those people cause stress to those around them who don't live their lives the same way.

Its just how life is, I don't blame you, I only keep positive people around me, no use in keeping a friend that has that opera singer mentality.

Ottensen said:

Cerebus said:

Yaaay! So glad to hear it worked for you. It's a growing trend, too.

I'm so late to the game. I've never had a Facebook page to begin with.

I am on FB and so are 20,000 other women with my exact name, so when people try to friend me that I know are assholes, I act as if I don't know them.

I love FB for that... I'm like a Jane Smith there.

paintedlady said:

I just think it took you a bit longer to reach your "breaking point" with her. Nothing high school about it if you told her straight out about herself and kept it moving.

I call it "purging", sometimes, ya gotta do it. And you know what? You'll be doing it again in the future with some other heffa that has issues you don't care to deal with. "Fool" comes in all ages, and some people love attract drama in their lives by making repeated bad choices. Those people cause stress to those around them who don't live their lives the same way.

Its just how life is, I don't blame you, I only keep positive people around me, no use in keeping a friend that has that opera singer mentality.

I totally agree.

It's not "high school" to completely want someone out of your life.

I got rid of my MySpace page when my ex and I stopped seeing each other. I didn't want any connections to him at all. When I got a FB page in July, I would not except anyone who was a mutual friend. I even changed my name on there to avoid them.

It happens... you have the right to eliminate her from your life.

JustErin said:

at the age of 36! Hilarious.

My life is soooo drama free and then this stupidness happens. It even came to the point that I asked people who know this person (only knew through me very casually) to delete her from their friends' list.

How high school is that? But I had deleted her and was sick of her having a way into seeing my life through them (pictures, wall posts, etc).

They all did it except one person...the dude I have had a casual thing with for like a billion years. And now I am pissed off at him about it.

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

yeah, i'm disappointed in you. i expect a much higher level of maturity and sophistication.

so, what else are we talking about today: your clothes or your hair?

You're not childish; things like this happen time to time. Even the most "adult" and "mature" people have moments. And honestly, for her to get YOU to this point, the bitch must have really fucked up, lol.

36? Please. I dropped someone last year and I'm way older than you.

I did not, however, ask any mutual friends to drop her. My issues with this person are my issues. They're real - and my position is totally reasonable. But I'm not going to make my friends adopt them.

This shit has been happening to me too, lately in the past three months or so. I'm constantly trying to knock some sense into people and they get all bent about it. I delete people so quickly out of my life, especially when they pull the high school drama.

Bah-bye! If they want to apologize to me, great. If not, they don't talk to me anymore.

The way I see it, not growing up is the best thing you can do.

JustErin said:

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

yes you are. You are not used to admitting to your childish feelings

JustErin said:

at the age of 36! Hilarious.

My life is soooo drama free and then this stupidness happens. It even came to the point that I asked people who know this person (only knew through me very casually) to delete her from their friends' list.

How high school is that? But I had deleted her and was sick of her having a way into seeing my life through them (pictures, wall posts, etc).

They all did it except one person...the dude I have had a casual thing with for like a billion years. And now I am pissed off at him about it.

I'm not used to these childish feelings!

Thats nutts. But I get it. You feel betrayed by him for not de-friending her. I didn't read the thread. Whats the fight about?

JustErin said:

We didn't grow apart. She did something stupid that showed me how selfish she really is...but I let it go. She then came to me with a ton of paranoid accusations and stupid drama saying I wasn't there for her anymore and blah, blah, blah (without knowing a damn thing about the shit I have been dealing with the last few months or even asking how I was) and I really realized that it really was just all about her, her her.

I had done so much to help this girl and I suddenly realized none of it was appreciated. When she then didn't invite me to her wedding and was constantly posting about it and all her awesome friends that were going...I had enough and decided to cut her out of my life.

I'm not used to dealing with people like that.

Oh okay, I read it now.

I have a friend who used to get bent out of shpae over FB stuff, and I always thought she was so lame for getting worked up over FB and I told her that openly.

But now, since loosing a lot of my really good friends (not just ppl you only talk to on fb ) through my divorce, I get it. I'd see them posting how they had done this, and their kids went to that together, and l'm like you F'n bitches. Like I have tried to remain in contact with you's and keep the friendships going even though we hardly have a thing in common anymore, and yet you didn't invite my daughter to 'blah'. So I deleted them, cuz I'm like, what is wrong with me.

Anyways, that was a long way of saying, I get what your saying, even thought its childish and completely ridiculous. You did the right thing to delete her. Either you's'll eventually hash it out, or you don't have to look at her anymore. win, win.