Have you ever felt forced to have a baby with your girlfriend or wife?

I know it does take two to tango (ladies); however have you ever felt like you did it because it was the "right thing to do" or any other reason?

wow

I know I'm not a fella, but I know if I'd not said I wanted kids (which I didn't YET at the time) the master would have left me, since he was looking for the mother of his children. I was only 24 - I didn't know any better. Now I find myself with THREE

I like them though they are sometimes quite nice!

nope. one of me is already one too many and the missus agrees wholeheartedly.

I was begged to make a child with my then boyfriend... I should have seen right through that, ( his sorry insecure ass) instead I was all infatuated by the idea, making plans with him like a dummy. He tried for 6 months to get me preggers, only to then NOT marry me, get me knocked up a second time with my youngest and complain about it... and then he cheated... repeatedly!

Yes, he even cheated on me with a 60+ year old tattooed skank with a navel ring... I was 34 he was 35 at the time. THAT was the final nail in his coffin.

I dated a girl who would say "I want to have your babies" and it was really scary as we were only 19

NDRU said:

I dated a girl who would say "I want to have your babies" and it was really scary as we were only 19

I hope you ran in the opposite direction!

NDRU said:

I dated a girl who would say "I want to have your babies" and it was really scary as we were only 19

Why am I envisioning this chick with a knife?

DesireeNevermind said:

NDRU said:

I dated a girl who would say "I want to have your babies" and it was really scary as we were only 19

Why am I envisioning this chick with a knife?

she actually said it in the heat of the moment, which might have been even worse than with a knife

oooh the stories..keep em coming

No.

no

i was ready... finally... and my son is awesome beyond description

[Edited 11/19/10 2:05am]

NDRU said:

DesireeNevermind said:

Why am I envisioning this chick with a knife?

she actually said it in the heat of the moment, which might have been even worse than with a knife

I don't know if this counts...

After the birth of our first child, my husband was pretty much forced into having our 2nd child.

I guess men want kids, but not before they are 36-38 years old...

Lisa10 said:

I don't know if this counts...

After the birth of our first child, my husband was pretty much forced into having our 2nd child.

Opposite for me. I forced him to get fixed.

Actually, we were both in a mutual agreement that one would be more than enough.

We were right!

I commend all of you for doing it more than once.

Though how many of you started at 38?

I 've always liked kids, so when my wife told me that "her clock was ticking" I was like; "Let's do it!".

No pressure, and there should never BE any.

I know too many guys that are forced/coerced/tricked into becoming fathers...and rarely ever works out good. Sometimes women foolishly think that a baby can fix or even CREATE a relationship, when it's usually the opposite. Eventually the man may grow bitter and resent the woman and sometimes even the child.

Of course, we're not even going to TOUCH the issue with all the "baby mama" whores that prey upon pro athletes.

PurpleJedi said:

paisleypark4 said:

Have you ever felt forced to have a baby with your girlfriend or wife?

I know it does take two to tango (ladies); however have you ever felt like you did it because it was the "right thing to do" or any other reason?

Tried.......I gave her ass the BOOT!

Graycap23 said:

paisleypark4 said:

Have you ever felt forced to have a baby with your girlfriend or wife?

I know it does take two to tango (ladies); however have you ever felt like you did it because it was the "right thing to do" or any other reason?

Tried.......I gave her ass the BOOT!

I've been asked if I wanted to be a father. My answer is always the same - HELL NO!

And if a gf keeps badgering me about it - read Graycap's post.

I can understand how some women can be a little pushy when it comes to having babies. It's a natural instinct to want to have babies and some women just feel that they aren't complete until they've done it.

I couldn't wait to have babies, but I didn't push my husband into it at all. I didn't see the point in bringing kids into our lives if one of us wasn't entirely sure about it. He knew how I felt and I was happy to wait. Plus I felt that it was important to be financially stable and I wanted to achieve stuff for 'me' before I brought any kids into the world. Nevertheless I couldn't help feeling left out every time friends and relatives announced their pregnancies.

ZombieKitten said:

wow

I know I'm not a fella, but I know if I'd not said I wanted kids (which I didn't YET at the time) the master would have left me, since he was looking for the mother of his children. I was only 24 - I didn't know any better. Now I find myself with THREE

I like them though they are sometimes quite nice!

Look at him, coveting other people's babies. How much would he just LOOOOOOOOOVE another one

Nope....I fuck...therefore I am....

Having a kid was definitely my wife's -- and not my own -- priority. My wife said she's always "known" my daughter and needed, therefore, to bring her into being. I was cool with the idea -- and having a daughter has been one of the most transformative things to happen to me -- but I was less deterministic about it as I've never felt somehow destined to be a dad.

So, no, I wasn't forced. But I did know it was something very, very important to my wife when I decided to get married.

Nice responses!

Zombie - Love the picture awww.

It was the other way around. I was pushed hard by everyone around me...bf, family, friends. The only one that didn't want a baby was me.

But I'm glad things turned out the way they did.

Yes, by both of my high school gf's. I was having none of that, though.

My ex and I knew we wanted one, she just wanted one a lot sooner than I did. I wanted to wait a couple years. She wanted one like 3 months into our marriage. So that's what happened.