Shoewhore said:

There's a branch of our family that I've never had much to do with. Haven't spoken with any of them in at least a decade if not closer to two. When my mom passed away here they come trying to reach out and talking about how we need them.

Don't you know one of those motherfucks already tried to hit me and my dad up for money!!

It's unbeliveable how someone's passing brings out people's greed over something that they're not entitled to.

almost all of my dad's side of the family are assholes. if they would call know they'd only call if they want SOMETHING fixed. (computer tv etc) otherwise you never ever hear from them. In a nutshell my uncles are abusive and cheat on their women...most of my aunts are nutty as well. Anyway if I hear from them I'll just hang up the phone. Only sane from that family is my one aunt, and my dad...

I say family or not fuck em. Better off without em (cuz my mom's side is great)

SCNDLS said:

Shoewhore said:

There's a branch of our family that I've never had much to do with. Haven't spoken with any of them in at least a decade if not closer to two. When my mom passed away here they come trying to reach out and talking about how we need them.

Don't you know one of those motherfucks already tried to hit me and my dad up for money!!

It's unbeliveable how someone's passing brings out people's greed over something that they're not entitled to.

Don't even get me started on the bullshit fights over my mom's stuff!

SCNDLS said:

Question: Why do people tolerate bad behavior from family that they would never in a million years accept from a friend? Is shared DNA that important a factor to excuse someone doing you dirty?

Believe it or not that's exactly how people think. Shared DNA is suppose to excuse any and all bad behavior in some families. It's the whole "blood thicker than water" mentality taken to a new low. IMO, family doing you wrong is far worse than any friend or stranger. Who if not your family is supposed to love you and have your back? When a family member betrays your trust, hits you with the lowest of insults, uses you for their own gain, or is absent from your life because they simply don't give a damn....FUCK 'EM! I have a shiva fo you if you cut me the wrong way.

I aint my brotha's keeper if he acts like my enemy.

DesireeNevermind said:

SCNDLS said:

Question: Why do people tolerate bad behavior from family that they would never in a million years accept from a friend? Is shared DNA that important a factor to excuse someone doing you dirty?

Believe it or not that's exactly how people think. Shared DNA is suppose to excuse any and all bad behavior in some families. It's the whole "blood thicker than water" mentality taken to a new low. IMO, family doing you wrong is far worse than any friend or stranger. Who if not your family is supposed to love you and have your back? When a family member betrays your trust, hits you with the lowest of insults, uses you for their own gain, or is absent from your life because they simply don't give a damn....FUCK 'EM! I have a shiva fo you if you cut me the wrong way.

I aint my brotha's keeper if he acts like my enemy.

Preach!

SCNDLS said:

Shoewhore said:

There's a branch of our family that I've never had much to do with. Haven't spoken with any of them in at least a decade if not closer to two. When my mom passed away here they come trying to reach out and talking about how we need them.

Don't you know one of those motherfucks already tried to hit me and my dad up for money!!

It's unbeliveable how someone's passing brings out people's greed over something that they're not entitled to.

Or bring revisionist history or overall bitchassness

When my grandmother passed away, my aunt, who was in charge and my cousin did the ENTIRE memorial service.

-My aunt wouldn't let my mom sing at the service but let some chick who didn't know my grandma from a can on paint sing

-Some chicks from the church got up during the "Reflections" segment to speak.....but not about my grandma, but to speak the praises of my aunt My entire family was sitting there whispering "Who are these people?"

-With the exception of my mom reciting 1 scripture, NONE of our family participated except my aunt and cousin, BUT folks who didn't know my grandma were all up in it

-My aunt was mocking one of my cousins who broke down during the service and during her speech during the reflections because she felt she didn't care about our grandmother

-When we found out the news, we sat in church and one of the elders said "Please pray for ....., ...., ....., and ....." and forgot to mention my mother, myself, my brothers, and another cousin of mine

-My aunt was acting like her oldest daughter was my grandmother's favorite which is a flat out lie

I could go on and on, but that and other incidents after has basically tore my family apart. My mom and my aunt haven't spoken since April

bboy87 said:

SCNDLS said:

It's unbeliveable how someone's passing brings out people's greed over something that they're not entitled to.

Or bring revisionist history or overall bitchassness

When my grandmother passed away, my aunt, who was in charge and my cousin did the ENTIRE memorial service.

-My aunt wouldn't let my mom sing at the service but let some chick who didn't know my grandma from a can on paint sing

-Some chicks from the church got up during the "Reflections" segment to speak.....but not about my grandma, but to speak the praises of my aunt My entire family was sitting there whispering "Who are these people?"

-With the exception of my mom reciting 1 scripture, NONE of our family participated except my aunt and cousin, BUT folks who didn't know my grandma were all up in it

-My aunt was mocking one of my cousins who broke down during the service and during her speech during the reflections because she felt she didn't care about our grandmother

-When we found out the news, we sat in church and one of the elders said "Please pray for ....., ...., ....., and ....." and forgot to mention my mother, myself, my brothers, and another cousin of mine

-My aunt was acting like her oldest daughter was my grandmother's favorite which is a flat out lie

I could go on and on, but that and other incidents after has basically tore my family apart. My mom and my aunt haven't spoken since April

wow.... I am so sorry for the BS your aunt put you through.

Weddings and funerals bring out the worst in some folks. If I had an aunt like that, I'd wear a red dress to her funeral.... eat up ALL their food... then leave with a smile.

paintedlady said:

bboy87 said:

Or bring revisionist history or overall bitchassness

When my grandmother passed away, my aunt, who was in charge and my cousin did the ENTIRE memorial service.

-My aunt wouldn't let my mom sing at the service but let some chick who didn't know my grandma from a can on paint sing

-Some chicks from the church got up during the "Reflections" segment to speak.....but not about my grandma, but to speak the praises of my aunt My entire family was sitting there whispering "Who are these people?"

-With the exception of my mom reciting 1 scripture, NONE of our family participated except my aunt and cousin, BUT folks who didn't know my grandma were all up in it

-My aunt was mocking one of my cousins who broke down during the service and during her speech during the reflections because she felt she didn't care about our grandmother

-When we found out the news, we sat in church and one of the elders said "Please pray for ....., ...., ....., and ....." and forgot to mention my mother, myself, my brothers, and another cousin of mine

-My aunt was acting like her oldest daughter was my grandmother's favorite which is a flat out lie

I could go on and on, but that and other incidents after has basically tore my family apart. My mom and my aunt haven't spoken since April

wow.... I am so sorry for the BS your aunt put you through.

Weddings and funerals bring out the worst in some folks. If I had an aunt like that, I'd wear a red dress to her funeral.... eat up ALL their food... then leave with a smile.

Most of the chalked it up to her being bossy and overbearing "That's just her thing"

My uncle, my grandmother's brother was PISSED. She had told a story about my grandmother that I can't remember but the next day at a family gathering, he pulled my mom to the side (they're close and she was the only person he discussed it with) and said "Why did you let your sister lie on your mother?" He can't stand my aunt now

and the service program, of all the picture that was included, there was only maybe 2 of her with my mom (although she lived with us for nearly 10 years and was around all the time), 1 of her with me and my brother, and one of her with my uncle, my aunt and mom's older brother.

The rest of them were with my aunt's family, although she didn't want her grandkids around my grandmother

And I'm not even go into how my aunt's 12 year old granddaughter, my younger cousin, got up and faked crying