make a thread where I can bitch about it instead of in here.
I wish I had gone out longer. I took off abruptly when a friend started telling me how I need to bang this 49 year old. No offense to the older folks on the boards. But she has 25 year old kids. I am 28.
I left the 49 year old to him.
even though we will never be in our 30s together you have a kid that's older than my kid, so that makes it kind of sound OK
I wish I had gone out longer. I took off abruptly when a friend started telling me how I need to bang this 49 year old. No offense to the older folks on the boards. But she has 25 year old kids. I am 28.
I left the 49 year old to him.
even though we will never be in our 30s together you have a kid that's older than my kid, so that makes it kind of sound OK
Yup. And you are not older than half my mom's siblings.
Now why would a man want to do that? Does a woman?
It bothered me more when my guy had an emotional connection... the physical act of having sex was bad but not nearly as bad as the other woman learning intimate details about my relationship and me.
So during a confrontation that was what I focused on,
" how could you tell her those things about me... about us? How could you confide in her and not me??"
not "You put your penis in that!???"
Every guy I knew that had a woman cheat on him was like
"She kissed him... they had sex!!"
It is something I noticed in dealing with males friends. I know women do this also, but not as often in my experience.
You mean the difference between physical and emotional cheating.
Yeah sharing personal stuff is bad, but actually having feelings for the other man/woman would make it really bad. That would make it impossible to dismiss it as just a one time physical fling. That would fuck up the relationship for good.
But shit happens. Sometimes somebody falls in love with somebody else. If that somebody would be honest about it I would have less problems with it than when I would be lied to as well. If the truth is told, I can have room to forgive, but not when I am being lied to.
Forgiving cheaters was what this thread was about right?
The thing that bothers me about a cheater just "falling in love" with somebody else is that it shouldn't be possible. How could a person already in a relationship give a third party that type of access to their personal time? IMO, falling in love with another person takes an investment of time. Its the equivalent of walking around with a name tag that says "I'm available"
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The thing that bothers me about a cheater just "falling in love" with somebody else is that it shouldn't be possible. How could a person already in a relationship give a third party that type of access to their personal time? IMO, falling in love with another person takes an investment of time. Its the equivalent of walking around with a name tag that says "I'm available"
^^^^ this right there is why I never believed it when he said "It just happened."
If your the cheater, the person who's been cheated on or the homewrecker...whats your take on this? Should a cheater be forgiven by the spouse or boyfriend? Will they keep cheating?
To me, there are no grey areas with this. I expect the same loyalty/dedication that I give my partner. Once the trust is broken, it's over...finished. If you're unhappy with the relationship and want someone else, just tell me to my face and we can part amicably. But fucking around behind my back? Sorry, you are now dead to me. Goodbye. have a nice life and lose my number.
The thing that bothers me about a cheater just "falling in love" with somebody else is that it shouldn't be possible. How could a person already in a relationship give a third party that type of access to their personal time? IMO, falling in love with another person takes an investment of time. Its the equivalent of walking around with a name tag that says "I'm available"
^^^^ this right there is why I never believed it when he said "It just happened."
well, what if you have to work very closely with someone? Actually, no I'd still not believe it, because I define falling in love as a 2 sided thing. That would just be a crush
Depends on the cheating. If it's just sex I can get past it. If he's out there sharing real intimacy and time with someone, then I would be cuttin some bitches.
That's me to a T. To me, sex is just sex. It's the intimacy and the soul sharing etc. that would make me angry.
No! Big resounding no! Especially in a marriage. I wouldn't tolerate it. i'd throw him out on his ass and let him fend for himself. My cousin's husband a cheater and she's still with him thinking he'll change. She's losing her damn mind, always checkin' in on him, not trusting him at all. A relationship should be built on trust...and if it's not there...then what's the point in being together? Trust is soooo important. You violate it...you lose it.
I have never cheated....once I seriously thought about it, but it wasn't worth the risk of losing everything to me. Dude was truly eye candy for real.....
[Edited 10/24/10 23:58pm]
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you have a kid that's older than my kid, so that makes it kind of sound OK 
Sorry. 
see, disclaimer. 
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