even though we will never be in our 30s together you have a kid that's older than my kid, so that makes it kind of sound OK | |
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Yup. And you are not older than half my mom's siblings.
So I mean, that's perfectly okay. | |
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I'll think about it some more | |
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same here | |
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Well, I've been sort of counting on that. | |
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Tremolina said: will "never" cheat or anything. I say it and I mean it. This shit doesn't just happen by me. | |
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XxAxX said: we all fuck up. Speak for yourself, XxAxX. | |
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oh hell yes i fuck up i have never cheated on a lover but that's besides the point. made plenty of other mistakes | |
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XxAxX said:
oh hell yes i fuck up i have never cheated on a lover but that's besides the point. made plenty of other mistakes Oh! Sorry. | |
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see, disclaimer. :fallof: | |
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You mean the difference between physical and emotional cheating.
Yeah sharing personal stuff is bad, but actually having feelings for the other man/woman would make it really bad. That would make it impossible to dismiss it as just a one time physical fling. That would fuck up the relationship for good.
But shit happens. Sometimes somebody falls in love with somebody else. If that somebody would be honest about it I would have less problems with it than when I would be lied to as well. If the truth is told, I can have room to forgive, but not when I am being lied to.
Forgiving cheaters was what this thread was about right?
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Oh, great. There's also "emotional cheating" now. | |
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The thing that bothers me about a cheater just "falling in love" with somebody else is that it shouldn't be possible. How could a person already in a relationship give a third party that type of access to their personal time? IMO, falling in love with another person takes an investment of time. Its the equivalent of walking around with a name tag that says "I'm available"
Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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^^^^ this right there is why I never believed it when he said "It just happened."
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To me, there are no grey areas with this. I expect the same loyalty/dedication that I give my partner. Once the trust is broken, it's over...finished. If you're unhappy with the relationship and want someone else, just tell me to my face and we can part amicably. But fucking around behind my back? Sorry, you are now dead to me. Goodbye. have a nice life and lose my number. | |
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well, what if you have to work very closely with someone? Actually, no I'd still not believe it, because I define falling in love as a 2 sided thing. That would just be a crush | |
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That's me to a T. To me, sex is just sex. It's the intimacy and the soul sharing etc. that would make me angry. =0P Brace yourself
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No! Big resounding no! Especially in a marriage. I wouldn't tolerate it. i'd throw him out on his ass and let him fend for himself. My cousin's husband a cheater and she's still with him thinking he'll change. She's losing her damn mind, always checkin' in on him, not trusting him at all. A relationship should be built on trust...and if it's not there...then what's the point in being together? Trust is soooo important. You violate it...you lose it.
To the left To the left...
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I have never cheated....once I seriously thought about it, but it wasn't worth the risk of losing everything to me. Dude was truly eye candy for real.....
[Edited 10/24/10 23:58pm] Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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