So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

well....there are a few ways to look at it:

1) some females are just naturally inclined to become mothers. it's their life's goal. so it's not surprising to see them become mommies at a young age.

2) some females (especially of the high school/college age) are infatuated with babies and when one has a baby...the rest want something equally cute to love and play with.

3) Maybe they envy your situation and you just don't know it. Perhaps they wish they would have waited like you are doing.

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

They had nothing better to do than to open their legs - oops - up the duff and wow grow up fast cos they are stoopid!

^^ Why is it stupid? I had my first at 20 and dont regret a single minute of it...

I've seen this too. I'm 21 and a lot of girls from my old class seem to have children.

Rivy said:

I've seen this too. I'm 21 and a lot of girls from my old class seem to have children.

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tinaz said:

^^ Why is it stupid? I had my first at 20 and dont regret a single minute of it...

too many kids having kids. No stable relationship, thats it - babies, babies, babies...with taxpayers having to pick up the ticket. You may be one the exceptions but most kids are stoopid! and I dont renage on my thinking either.

tinaz said:

^^ Why is it stupid? I had my first at 20 and dont regret a single minute of it...

but how old are ?? if you dont mind my asking

my generation is not as mature...

i still feel like a kid and being a mother is a big responsibility , which i dont think im ready for

It certainly isn't wise to have a child you can't take care of and to not allow the child the advantage of growing up with both a mother and a father...on the other hand...some situations can't be helped and if the mother does the best she can and rears a good kid...who is society to argue with that?

Meh....i dunno. There are an awful lot of brats runnin' round with little discipline.

Gettin' teenaged boys to stop fuckin and duckin' is like gettin' it to rain in the desert...aint happenin' any time soon.

There seriously needs to be a male birth control pill. That's right...I don't fault these girls as much as these dang boys.

PicklesMcMillan said:

tinaz said:

^^ Why is it stupid? I had my first at 20 and dont regret a single minute of it...

but how old are ?? if you dont mind my asking

my generation is not as mature...

i still feel like a kid and being a mother is a big responsibility , which i dont think im ready for

I am 43...

Its great that you know your not ready! That in itself is a very mature way of thinking!

DesireeNevermind said:

well....there are a few ways to look at it:

1) some females are just naturally inclined to become mothers. it's their life's goal. so it's not surprising to see them become mommies at a young age.

2) some females (especially of the high school/college age) are infatuated with babies and when one has a baby...the rest want something equally cute to love and play with.

3) Maybe they envy your situation and you just don't know it. Perhaps they wish they would have waited like you are doing.

yeah, they just wanna have play thing a baby is not a play thing

but alot of them always say " all i have is myself and my baby and i dont need anyoone else"

which makes me think these girls have babies so they can have that unconditional love....

so sad

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Bromide oh yes Bromide that will put their peckers down!!!

DesireeNevermind said:

It certainly isn't wise to have a child you can't take care of and to not allow the child the advantage of growing up with both a mother and a father...on the other hand...some situations can't be helped and if the mother does the best she can and rears a good kid...who is society to argue with that?

Meh....i dunno. There are an awful lot of brats runnin' round with little discipline.

Gettin' teenaged boys to stop fuckin and duckin' is like gettin' it to rain in the desert...aint happenin' any time soon.

There seriously needs to be a male birth control pill. That's right...I don't fault these girls as much as these dang boys.

i know. these boys think their invincible these days

DesireeNevermind said:

It certainly isn't wise to have a child you can't take care of and to not allow the child the advantage of growing up with both a mother and a father...on the other hand...some situations can't be helped and if the mother does the best she can and rears a good kid...who is society to argue with that?

Meh....i dunno. There are an awful lot of brats runnin' round with little discipline.

Gettin' teenaged boys to stop fuckin and duckin' is like gettin' it to rain in the desert...aint happenin' any time soon.

There seriously needs to be a male birth control pill. That's right...I don't fault these girls as much as these dang boys.

Couldn't trust the males to take it. I would advocate that they invent that birth control in which is inserted under the arm and lasts for about 3 or 5 years I can't remember which. If my son started the rush of hormones and felt like he had to have a bonk then he would get this ASAP. No grandkids for me until he has grown up enough to look after them himself!

(Having a bitch of a day good to vent!)

Babies are a lot of work. I can't think of anything that requires more attention and care. I don't have any...not emotionally equipped and plus I like my body too damned much.

My younger cousins (teen and college age) have kids and they'd have no social life were it not for their parents and single cousins who offer to baby sit.

Plus rearing kids takes so damn long and cost a lot of money....you're talking birth to college graduation and sometimes beyond since the economy is fucked up.

These girls need to think about where they will get the money to feed and cloth these kids, put them in daycare while mommy works, pay for tutoring if the school is lacking, pay for health/dental care etc.

Plus kids need attention and positive reinforcement...if they don't get it they're bound to turn into the baddest brats you've ever seen and they will get the attention from unscrupulous individuals.

Then you have to watch out for the child predators who often go after single mothers.

Then when the kids are teens you have to deal with all that rebellion shit and worry about other kids influencing them to undo everything you've taught them.

Honestly...whoever thought human child rearing was a one-person job is out their mind.

I give props to those that are doing it though....lord knows it can't be easy.

DesireeNevermind said:

Babies are a lot of work. I can't think of anything that requires more attention and care. I don't have any...not emotionally equipped and plus I like my body too damned much.

My younger cousins (teen and college age) have kids and they'd have no social life were it not for their parents and single cousins who offer to baby sit.

Plus rearing kids takes so damn long and cost a lot of money....you're talking birth to college graduation and sometimes beyond since the economy is fucked up.

These girls need to think about where they will get the money to feed and cloth these kids, put them in daycare while mommy works, pay for tutoring if the school is lacking, pay for health/dental care etc.

Plus kids need attention and positive reinforcement...if they don't get it they're bound to turn into the baddest brats you've ever seen and they will get the attention from unscrupulous individuals.

Then you have to watch out for the child predators who often go after single mothers.

Then when the kids are teens you have to deal with all that rebellion shit and worry about other kids influencing them to undo everything you've taught them.

Honestly...whoever thought human child rearing was a one-person job is out their mind.

I give props to those that are doing it though....lord knows it can't be easy.

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

Pickles, I know what you talkin' about. I know some girls who have children already and still manage to go to college...brave, strong women. Some of them are on their own.

Raising children ain't easy. I'm 20 myself and I dream of the day I become a mother. But at this point in time, I also have goals to reach, my own fortunes to build and the like. So I compensate by being around children ( I volunteer with them) and they seem to like me. Although, a friend of mine (35 years old) told me recently her 16 year old son knocked up his girlfriend and they're expecting their first child!! Now THAT'S early! The woman just had a baby (her 4th), and now she's gonna be a grandma! People just don't know when to have children. And now, you start seeing a very young generation of parents....

I think this is because parents refuse to talk to their children about sex and the consequences, lack of sex ed in school, and the unavailability of contraceptives to young people. Although abstinence at this age is HIGHLY recommended, if you can't control it, at least know the consequences and be prepared for it. Children are a blessing, but when you're still a child, they can be a burden and can prevent you sometimes from pursuing your full potential.

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

Just curious...where do you live? (No, not your street address, just the city and/or state you live in.) Is it a small to mid-sized town in the middle of nowhere? Is it in the Deep South? I ask that because it seems that girls from small towns are always getting knocked up really early while those who live in big cities and don't live in the ghetto wait a long time to hook up with a significant other, let alone have children.

728huey said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

Just curious...where do you live? (No, not your street address, just the city and/or state you live in.) Is it a small to mid-sized town in the middle of nowhere? Is it in the Deep South? I ask that because it seems that girls from small towns are always getting knocked up really early while those who live in big cities and don't live in the ghetto wait a long time to hook up with a significant other, let alone have children.

i live on the east side of Atlanta

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

1) That's NOT grown up!

2) That's just depressing...

I Agree pregnant and getting engaged!

I Am 19 right now, and i swear every few week's i find out somebody new is pregnant or engaged. i found out two of my good friend's [Who are dating each other...]

Are getting married in may?, they have barely been together a year, they have had lot's of issues and she even admitted she wanted concealing. And now they want a baby to , he work's a job as security guard at a prison, the pay is good not great. And she doesn't work, and they live in a one bedroom apartment...

I Just don't see this going to workout

Do what YOU wanna do and FUCK what everyone else is doing!

If anyone puts any sort of pressure on you to "fit in", brush it off as if it's cat fur on your jumper and don't think a damn thing of it, even if it's your own mother talking that shit

It's your life, make your own decisions, and be confident in your own instincts.

[Edited 9/20/10 22:58pm]

PicklesMcMillan said:

So ive been out of high school for about three years now and in between those three years it seems like all the girls i graduated with are pregnant or have children. Sometimes it makes me feel like im moving to slow but dont get it twisted, im not thinking about having children at this age (20 )im to young and i have goals i wanna reach, but these girls make seem like their sooo grown up because they have a babies , what is their problem ?? i dont get it

plus, the father is nonexistent in most of these relationships

i know how you feel

PicklesMcMillan said: