Cerebus said:

johnart said:

Just cuz you don't participate it doesn't make it nonsense.

Nonsense. Nonsense I say! (in a stuffy British accent)

As a business tool, it has it's uses. As far as finding, identifying, keeping in touch with or track of friends - nonsense! It's nothing more than a giant time suck. Pick up the phone and call somebody. Sit down and write some letters. Go outside and do something with your friends. Shit, get on a forum with like minded people (like this one) and have some group conversations. I still find that (this) infinitely more valuable than every social networking site combined, because at least there's still something slightly communal about it. Social networks have taken so much away from real interpersonal relationships and they've done it SO fast. Just, not my thing.

Sit down and write a letter....oh come on now! Who does that?

but i think the social networking increases your social life, catching up with people you lost track with, finding new people who are friends of your friends, keeping up with what everybody is doing...i even think i read in a study social networking increases your social life. Doesn't mean you stay behnd your computer all the time.

johnart said:

Cerebus said:

Nonsense. Nonsense I say! (in a stuffy British accent)

As a business tool, it has it's uses. As far as finding, identifying, keeping in touch with or track of friends - nonsense! It's nothing more than a giant time suck. Pick up the phone and call somebody. Sit down and write some letters. Go outside and do something with your friends. Shit, get on a forum with like minded people (like this one) and have some group conversations. I still find that (this) infinitely more valuable than every social networking site combined, because at least there's still something slightly communal about it. Social networks have taken so much away from real interpersonal relationships and they've done it SO fast. Just, not my thing.

I do find it to be a very important/effective business platform.

But I've also connected with old friends and some folk I wouldn't have otherwise so I'm quite pleased.

I can understand the excitement people get from finding old friends online, even if I don't participate in that adventure. There are reasons why I'm Cerebus (or a couple other aliases) online. I stayed in touch with everyone who matters to me. Everyone else can take a flying leap. However, I don't understand finding them and then just communicating via facebook. That's a weirdness to me.

And again - not judging anybody. Just being a different voice in the crowd. There's always at least one!

So anyhoo...back to the shallow talk.

Creeping the pages of my friends, I've just realized something that makes me even more uncomfortable than having hot friends, it's them having even hotter friends.

Especially my male friends/exes and their hot friends.

I think I'm going through a middle life crisis or something.

robertlove said:

Cerebus said:

Nonsense. Nonsense I say! (in a stuffy British accent)

As a business tool, it has it's uses. As far as finding, identifying, keeping in touch with or track of friends - nonsense! It's nothing more than a giant time suck. Pick up the phone and call somebody. Sit down and write some letters. Go outside and do something with your friends. Shit, get on a forum with like minded people (like this one) and have some group conversations. I still find that (this) infinitely more valuable than every social networking site combined, because at least there's still something slightly communal about it. Social networks have taken so much away from real interpersonal relationships and they've done it SO fast. Just, not my thing.

Sit down and write a letter....oh come on now! Who does that?

but i think the social networking increases your social life, catching up with people you lost track with, finding new people who are friends of your friends, keeping up with what everybody is doing...i even think i read in a study social networking increases your social life. Doesn't mean you stay behnd your computer all the time.

It increases your online social life. It's a time suck. I'd be very interested in seeing a study that has proven social networking leads to people being more social in the real world.

And I write letters. Very long ones. A couple of my friends and I actually keep all of them, too. We've each got a box with all the letters we've remembered to toss into it. So when we're old and grey we can sit down with each other and go over our letters, like memories.

Cerebus said:

robertlove said:

Sit down and write a letter....oh come on now! Who does that?

but i think the social networking increases your social life, catching up with people you lost track with, finding new people who are friends of your friends, keeping up with what everybody is doing...i even think i read in a study social networking increases your social life. Doesn't mean you stay behnd your computer all the time.

It increases your online social life. It's a time suck. I'd be very interested in seeing a study that has proven social networking leads to people being more social in the real world.

And I write letters. Very long ones. A couple of my friends and I actually keep all of them, too. We've each got a box with all the letters we've remembered to toss into it. So when we're old and grey we can sit down with each other and go over our letters, like memories.

Maybe, but I also get out to more things now that I always know what everyone is attending.

It's cool. I'm just being me and I'm happy to be that way. Didn't mean to shit in the parade route. Back to shallow is fine. Beautiful friends suck. Falalalala.

JustErin said:

So anyhoo...back to the shallow talk.

Creeping the pages of my friends, I've just realized something that makes me even more uncomfortable than having hot friends, it's them having even hotter friends.

Especially my male friends/exes and their hot friends.

I think I'm going through a middle life crisis or something.

You're getting old and one day you're going to need to rest your tits up on a table in order to get a decent avi shot.

Breathe. Deal with it. At least you're hot.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

So anyhoo...back to the shallow talk.

Creeping the pages of my friends, I've just realized something that makes me even more uncomfortable than having hot friends, it's them having even hotter friends.

Especially my male friends/exes and their hot friends.

I think I'm going through a middle life crisis or something.

You're getting old and one day you're going to need to rest your tits up on a table in order to get a decent avi shot.

Breathe. Deal with it. At least you're hot.

Yeah. Think positive. As long as you've got a neck, you can still be choked!

Cerebus said:

johnart said:

You're getting old and one day you're going to need to rest your tits up on a table in order to get a decent avi shot.

Breathe. Deal with it. At least you're hot.

Yeah. Think positive. As long as you've got a neck, you can still be choked!

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

Yeah. Think positive. As long as you've got a neck, you can still be choked!

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

At least you know yourself and are honest about it. That's actually a good thing IF you can balance it with what reality actually gives you. I'm sure there's somebody out there who is absolutely perfect for you. Finding him, that's another thing.

Or you could think about it like this. Someone out there is looking at your page thinking the same thing you are thinking about everyone else's. To someone else, you're that friend's hot friend.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

Yeah. Think positive. As long as you've got a neck, you can still be choked!

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

noooooo don't do that, for the sake of your child!

it was soooooooo boring growing up in a country town nevermind the employment options (none).

You should get some friends who are 10 years older than you so you can be the youngest and hottest one

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

At least you know yourself and are honest about it. That's actually a good thing IF you can balance it with what reality actually gives you. I'm sure there's somebody out there who is absolutely perfect for you. Finding him, that's another thing.

People are always saying that they are worried about me because I'm never looking for my perfect one. And now, I think they may have gotten to me. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking even though I really still have no interest.

FauxReal said:

Or you could think about it like this. Someone out there is looking at your page thinking the same thing you are thinking about everyone else's. To someone else, you're that friend's hot friend.

Ya, like Stifler's mom.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

noooooo don't do that, for the sake of your child!

it was soooooooo boring growing up in a country town nevermind the employment options (none).

You should get some friends who are 10 years older than you so you can be the youngest and hottest one

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

At least you know yourself and are honest about it. That's actually a good thing IF you can balance it with what reality actually gives you. I'm sure there's somebody out there who is absolutely perfect for you. Finding him, that's another thing.

People are always saying that they are worried about me because I'm never looking for my perfect one. And now, I think they may have gotten to me. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking even though I really still have no interest.

you never find someone when LOOKING for them

oh wait, I was totally looking for my husband the night I met him, but that's only because I was curious to see if my horoscope that day was correct, being as specific as it was.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Yes, but by who?? By who?? and will they be hot?

This is what I get for being emotionally immature and running around with people younger than me.

Maybe I just need to get a chubby, bearded husband and move out to the country and just realize that this is it.

noooooo don't do that, for the sake of your child!

it was soooooooo boring growing up in a country town nevermind the employment options (none).

You should get some friends who are 10 years older than you so you can be the youngest and hottest one

I'm not moving to the country, I'm moving to a small coastal town but I imagine it's much the same.

I think I do need older friends, but they are soooooooo boring.

Cerebus said:

ZombieKitten said:

noooooo don't do that, for the sake of your child!

it was soooooooo boring growing up in a country town nevermind the employment options (none).

You should get some friends who are 10 years older than you so you can be the youngest and hottest one

don't knock it until you tried it

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

People are always saying that they are worried about me because I'm never looking for my perfect one. And now, I think they may have gotten to me. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking even though I really still have no interest.

you never find someone when LOOKING for them

oh wait, I was totally looking for my husband the night I met him, but that's only because I was curious to see if my horoscope that day was correct, being as specific as it was.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

noooooo don't do that, for the sake of your child!

it was soooooooo boring growing up in a country town nevermind the employment options (none).

You should get some friends who are 10 years older than you so you can be the youngest and hottest one

I'm not moving to the country, I'm moving to a small coastal town but I imagine it's much the same.

I think I do need older friends, but they are soooooooo boring.

well just don't pick BORING ones

I can't say ANY of my older friends are boring

(there is also something to be said for being the most boring of your group of friends, and that is that everyone else seems soooo interesting! )

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

At least you know yourself and are honest about it. That's actually a good thing IF you can balance it with what reality actually gives you. I'm sure there's somebody out there who is absolutely perfect for you. Finding him, that's another thing.

People are always saying that they are worried about me because I'm never looking for my perfect one. And now, I think they may have gotten to me. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking even though I really still have no interest.

"People" don't matter, really. What feels right to you is what matters. I know it's slightly cheesey, but finding a balance in life that makes you happy, maybe even a little content, at peace - that's what matters. Nothing that anybody else has to say about it should be part of the equation. I gave up caring about what "people" think when I was about fifteen and it's allowed me to do far more in my life than I would ever have imagined.

Everybody is different and that's what makes us so damn great. Like I said, you seem to have a pretty good grasp on what you're about. Embrace it and enjoy your life. It's far too short to stress on "could have", "should have", "should be", "but what if" or any kind of judgments that other people put on your life. If you do what you want, the way you want to do it, there should be no regrets. Time machines don't exist - tomorrow is everything.

Anyway... blabbity, blabbity... I'll stop now.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

I'm not moving to the country, I'm moving to a small coastal town but I imagine it's much the same.

I think I do need older friends, but they are soooooooo boring.

well just don't pick BORING ones

I can't say ANY of my older friends are boring

(there is also something to be said for being the most boring of your group of friends, and that is that everyone else seems soooo interesting! )

Well, where are they?

Old people are all married and stay home all the time.

This is what I mean about being immature, I just don't want that....like, ever.

ZombieKitten said:

Cerebus said:

don't knock it until you tried it

I have friends of all ages. And my teenage neice and nephew still think I'm cool... for now!

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

People are always saying that they are worried about me because I'm never looking for my perfect one. And now, I think they may have gotten to me. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking even though I really still have no interest.

"People" don't matter, really. What feels right to you is what matters. I know it's slightly cheesey, but finding a balance in life that makes you happy, maybe even a little content, at peace - that's what matters. Nothing that anybody else has to say about it should be part of the equation. I gave up caring about what "people" think when I was about fifteen and it's allowed me to do far more in my life than I would ever have imagined.

Everybody is different and that's what makes us so damn great. Like I said, you seem to have a pretty good grasp on what you're about. Embrace it and enjoy your life. It's far too short to stress on "could have", "should have", "should be", "but what if" or any kind of judgments that other people put on your life. If you do what you want, the way you want to do it, there should be no regrets. Time machines don't exist - tomorrow is everything.

Anyway... blabbity, blabbity... I'll stop now.

I like you.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

well just don't pick BORING ones

I can't say ANY of my older friends are boring

(there is also something to be said for being the most boring of your group of friends, and that is that everyone else seems soooo interesting! )

Well, where are they?

Old people are all married and stay home all the time.

This is what I mean about being immature, I just don't want that....like, ever.

Soooooo not true! Really, it's not.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

well just don't pick BORING ones

I can't say ANY of my older friends are boring

(there is also something to be said for being the most boring of your group of friends, and that is that everyone else seems soooo interesting! )

Well, where are they?

Old people are all married and stay home all the time.

This is what I mean about being immature, I just don't want that....like, ever.

I think they are in bands

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

Well, where are they?

Old people are all married and stay home all the time.

This is what I mean about being immature, I just don't want that....like, ever.

Soooooo not true! Really, it's not.

Oh ya, I forgot. They do go out. The wives have those weird sex toy parties where they all giggle because it's oh so naughty and the husbands go out for beers with the guys at strip clubs.\

And it's hard to find older single people, I find anyway.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Well, where are they?

Old people are all married and stay home all the time.

This is what I mean about being immature, I just don't want that....like, ever.

I think they are in bands

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

"People" don't matter, really. What feels right to you is what matters. I know it's slightly cheesey, but finding a balance in life that makes you happy, maybe even a little content, at peace - that's what matters. Nothing that anybody else has to say about it should be part of the equation. I gave up caring about what "people" think when I was about fifteen and it's allowed me to do far more in my life than I would ever have imagined.

Everybody is different and that's what makes us so damn great. Like I said, you seem to have a pretty good grasp on what you're about. Embrace it and enjoy your life. It's far too short to stress on "could have", "should have", "should be", "but what if" or any kind of judgments that other people put on your life. If you do what you want, the way you want to do it, there should be no regrets. Time machines don't exist - tomorrow is everything.

Anyway... blabbity, blabbity... I'll stop now.

I like you.

Shew! Never sure how comments like that are going to go over. I like you, too. Now stop worryin' about getting older and having attractive friends! Life is just like that.