why be jealous of anyone?....jealousy is a useless emotion/feeling whatever you want to call it.....i tell my girlfriend all the time...why get jealous ?....if i think you want or are with someone else....then bye bye....why waste my time worring about it....if i aint wanted then its goodbye and we move on...life is too short...she can stay out all night if she wants....thats fine by me....but if i find out or feel she wants or has been with someone else then its time to turn the page....makes life soo much easier...

Jealousy is a totally natural emotion, and I do not believe when people say they do not feel any jealousy at all. It's how you deal with that jealousy that matters. I can absolutely feel jealous but I recognize it for what it is and never, EVER take it out on my partner.

I get jealous, but I know how to deal with it in a non-destructive way.

Agreed with Erin.

Some people get jealous a lot faster than others or to a greater degree, but I don't think anyone has ever made it through life without an inkling of jealousy at some point.

But what I do agree with Bob about is in how he deals with it. Rather than go into a jealous rage, I would much rather do away with the person in a non-chalant manner that leaves them thinking "Did he ever really give a fuck?"

Most of my jealousy comes from my insecurity which is MY problem. I try to remember this before I say something really stupid and make a complete ass of myself.

Jealousy is a natural emotion in this flawed human race. It's a part of our nature.

it's one of those things I feel is uncool in admitting. Sometimes I wonder if that might be misconstrued as not caring? Dunno

Arguably, if it gets to a point where those feelings need airing it's probably for good reason and it's about time to have a talk about the whole situation.

I'm really a non-jealous type. I used to be very jealous of the master's time and attention at the point where my kids were babies and I felt at the end of my tether and really needed him. I could have stabbed people with forks if they took him away from me at that point.

JustErin said:

Jealousy is a totally natural emotion, and I do not believe when people say they do not feel any jealousy at all. It's how you deal with that jealousy that matters. I can absolutely feel jealous but I recognize it for what it is and never, EVER take it out on my partner.

I get jealous, but I know how to deal with it in a non-destructive way.

it may be natural to feel it but it aint natural for it to take over your life.....if you feel jealousys ugly hands on your shoulder... tell it to go find some other saddo....it aint ruling your life....dismiss it and get on with your life...anger can be good for you sometimes...sadness/ grief is sometimes needed .....love can be the best feeling in the world.....lust can get your blood going but jealousy does nobody any good....just my two cents worth...

JuliePurplehead said:

Most of my jealousy comes from my insecurity which is MY problem. I try to remember this before I say something really stupid and make a complete ass of myself.

we all have our insecurities but you are too good to have jealousy bringing you down....tell it to f**k off..

Like posted above, jealousy is an emotion like every other emotion. I think it shows you care about somebody. I always find it strange how people can be in a relationship and not have some kind of jealous feelings sometimes. And i mean that in a healthy way.

Your post "if i think you want or are with someone else....then bye bye" is way to easy. Do you really think like that if you're really in love with somebody?

btw, jealousy should never rule your life, just as anger or sadeness should never rule your life. But it's an emotion and i think every emtion has its cause

robertlove said:

Like posted above, jealousy is an emotion like every other emotion. I think it shows you care about somebody. I always find it strange how people can be in a relationship and not have some kind of jealous feelings sometimes. And i mean that in a healthy way.

Your post "if i think you want or are with someone else....then bye bye" is way to easy. Do you really think like that if you're really in love with somebody?

btw, jealousy should never rule your life, just as anger or sadeness should never rule your life. But it's an emotion and i think every emtion has its cause

well i think you can be in love with someone without having to feel jealous...reality is only how you perceive it....if you are in love with someone and they are in love with you then thats the way it is....if something breaks how you perceive that....the person you thought loved you didnt by cheating on you or wants to cheat with somone else then the reality you thought was real was wrong and you move on....you will hurt but you move on....what you thought was real wasnt.....find yourself another reality..

Sometimes, sometimes not.

I might get jealous sometimes and if it's the unreasonable kind of jealousy,

I gotta step back and look at myself and realize I'm only making myself suffer so I stop.

In that case it is the useless type of jealousy.

blackbob said:

robertlove said:

Like posted above, jealousy is an emotion like every other emotion. I think it shows you care about somebody. I always find it strange how people can be in a relationship and not have some kind of jealous feelings sometimes. And i mean that in a healthy way.

Your post "if i think you want or are with someone else....then bye bye" is way to easy. Do you really think like that if you're really in love with somebody?

btw, jealousy should never rule your life, just as anger or sadeness should never rule your life. But it's an emotion and i think every emtion has its cause

well i think you can be in love with someone without having to feel jealous...reality is only how you perceive it....if you are in love with someone and they are in love with you then thats the way it is....if something breaks how you perceive that....the person you thought loved you didnt by cheating on you or wants to cheat with somone else then the reality you thought was real was wrong and you move on....you will hurt but you move on....what you thought was real wasnt.....find yourself another reality..

i see your point, but there's a big space between being jealous and the actual cheating. If you're in a bar with your partner and you see her getting close with another guy, you don't feel any jealousy or worry? You just let it be?

robertlove said:

blackbob said:

well i think you can be in love with someone without having to feel jealous...reality is only how you perceive it....if you are in love with someone and they are in love with you then thats the way it is....if something breaks how you perceive that....the person you thought loved you didnt by cheating on you or wants to cheat with somone else then the reality you thought was real was wrong and you move on....you will hurt but you move on....what you thought was real wasnt.....find yourself another reality..

i see your point, but there's a big space between being jealous and the actual cheating. If you're in a bar with your partner and you see her getting close with another guy, you don't feel any jealousy or worry? You just let it be?

i wouldnt say anything....no..if there aint trust then the reality is broken and its over...if i lose my trust then its over....her getting close to a guy aint going to break that.....if she overstepped the mark and i thought she was actually wanting something with this guy....then its over...i wouldnt do it to her so i expect the same back...i trust her totally ...if i lose that then its over...no jealousy involved.....i will hurt like hell but its better than living a lie...you move on...

blackbob said:

robertlove said:

i see your point, but there's a big space between being jealous and the actual cheating. If you're in a bar with your partner and you see her getting close with another guy, you don't feel any jealousy or worry? You just let it be?

i wouldnt say anything....no..if there aint trust then the reality is broken and its over...if i lose my trust then its over....her getting close to a guy aint going to break that.....if she overstepped the mark and i thought she was actually wanting something with this guy....then its over...i wouldnt do it to her so i expect the same back...i trust her totally ...if i lose that then its over...no jealousy involved.....i will hurt like hell but its better than living a lie...you move on...

Now i'm jealous of you! LOL

robertlove said:

yes , but it's really painful , degrading , heartbreaking and depressing when your gf is a slut

it's not easy when you love someone who's like that

because of what i went through with her i'll always be a bit suspicious i suppose

(ex gf , thank god)

walking away is easier said than done

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There is no jealousy, only misguided love.

Not really a jealous person. If something were to bother me (in a relationship) I would just tell the lady. I think most jealousy comes out of insecurity and selfishness. When it comes to jealousy of material things I just don't get jealous. You could have a billion dollars and I would be happy for you.