he's tired of being married and wants a divorce. after 10 years. i'm stumped. i didn't know anything was wrong...he never said anything.

Sorry to hear that for you. Remember one mans lost is another ones gain!

as i don't know you or the situation, i don't want to speculate on anything. but i do wish you the best and know that there is support out there through friends, family, faith, etc. i don't know what to say, but i wish you love, strength and support. you WILL be fine.

I am so sorry, it sounds like you really still love your husband, and you may be in shock right now... but this may be the first step in a journey towards happiness in the long run for every one involved.

I hope your heart heals quickly and you begin a new life full of grand possibilities.

I'm really sorry to hear this...

any chance counseling might help?

If he ever said "'til death do us part" you'll have to kill him

A promise is a promise

I wish u all the best...and understand how hard this may b 4 u

but u cannot force him 2 stay, u need 2 let go so u 2 can start a new life

sorry to hear of your news. check his cell phone records, WATCH the bank accounts immediately and get a good lawyer.

Sorry to hear this

I'm sorry

What is his problem??

BlackAdder7 said:

sorry to hear of your news. check his cell phone records, WATCH the bank accounts immediately and get a good lawyer.

watch the bank accounts and get a lawyer, 10 years is a long time and this initial period of shock is enough time for him to take advantage of. Take care of yourself, you don't have to be vindictive, just business like, oh and get to a counselor/therapist NOW.

here's to new beginnings.

butterfli25 said:

BlackAdder7 said:

sorry to hear of your news. check his cell phone records, WATCH the bank accounts immediately and get a good lawyer.

watch the bank accounts and get a lawyer, 10 years is a long time and this initial period of shock is enough time for him to take advantage of. Take care of yourself, you don't have to be vindictive, just business like, oh and get to a counselor/therapist NOW.

here's to new beginnings.

that's some good, solid advice right there...

double post...

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Wow.....out of the blue? Sorry 2 hear that.

Do u want 2 be with someone who does not want u?

That's too bad. Did your sig have anything to do with it?

suzysue said:

he's tired of being married and wants a divorce. after 10 years. i'm stumped. i didn't know anything was wrong...he never said anything.

hang in there

suzysue said:

he's tired of being married and wants a divorce. after 10 years. i'm stumped. i didn't know anything was wrong...he never said anything.

butterfli25 said:

BlackAdder7 said:

sorry to hear of your news. check his cell phone records, WATCH the bank accounts immediately and get a good lawyer.

watch the bank accounts and get a lawyer, 10 years is a long time and this initial period of shock is enough time for him to take advantage of. Take care of yourself, you don't have to be vindictive, just business like, oh and get to a counselor/therapist NOW.

here's to new beginnings.

And, I'm sorry you're going through this. Praying for you.

[Edited 9/7/10 21:44pm]

Sorry that you're in this situation. The only advice I could give might sound a little bad, but be sure to get any and all documentation you can that might be useful in court. Because even the most civil of divorce proceedings can get ugly in a heartbeat and it's better that you be prepared if it comes to that than to endure even more stress, heartbreak, etc. that could come with being underprepared for the divorce hearing.

I say this simply because there are things I wish I had recorded, kept, and so on that could've possibly changed a lot of things in my own divorce. I was too busy being nice and trusting though to realize you could do both, be nice and cover your ass.

Thanks everyone for the sentiment and advice. I will keep it all in mind.

He never said anything was wrong and I didn't know I was supposed to be a mind reader. It's been hard but all I can do is take it all one day at a time.