paintedlady said:

RebirthOfCool said:

I disagree. Anything that gets you int he mood is considerd an afrodisiac.

Tomato - tomato

SherryJackson said:

RebirthOfCool said:

I disagree. Anything that gets you int he mood is considerd an afrodisiac.

Is it on iTunes?

CarrieMpls said:

RebirthOfCool said:

Romance - strictly for the benefit of the female. If women didn't like/require romance, men wouldn't indulge in it.

I don't think that's true of all men. Some men like romance very much.

i like it.

i have no time for cynical know-it-all women who think romance is lame or not masculine.

whistle said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't think that's true of all men. Some men like romance very much.

i like it.

i have no time for cynical know-it-all women who think romance is lame or not masculine.

whistle said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't think that's true of all men. Some men like romance very much.

i like it.

i have no time for cynical know-it-all women who think romance is lame or not masculine.

I knew it.

see?

ZombieKitten said:

DexterDayglo said:

I have always believed in quality over quantity. How else does it not become an obligation?

Could be that is where i went wrong. Maybe marriage is an obligation, in which case its not for me.

being romantic on queue always felt like an obligation to me, and i cant trust anyone who would accept such a loaded proposition.

I don't know I think when if simply feels like obligation and you just don't want to do something nice for your SO any more, you came to the end of the road. That's pretty sad

A couple of bottles of champagne and some porn always works for me

Oooh you tart !!!

DexterDayglo said:

CarrieMpls said:

Well hello, Mr Bitter.

How is romance dishonest? If you honestly don't want to do nice things for your partner, then yes, I suppose any gesture is dishonest. But just 'cause you don't doesn't mean everybody works that way.

And no one said romance was effortless. Just because you have to put some effort it doesn't make it any less romantic. If anything, it makes it more so - Look what my partner is willing to do for me! etc.

I suppose the only thing i might be bitter about is how romance has been reduced to a cookie cutter package. In the dog house? Buy some flowers/ chocolates/dinner blah blah. Romance allows us to get away with being thoughtless otherwise, knowing it can be fixed with a 'traditional' gesture. You were right when you said earlier about the little something other/extra that shows thoughtfulness (foresight and imagination). As for effort, well, therein lies the rub: it shouldn't have to an effort if its part of an organic process of loving the other. One shouldn't have to feel grateful (or touched) by the actions of a so called loved one, even if it is satisfying. Having said that: Romance is too easy, because most receipients only have a tick list of expectations. Whers the fun (and honesty) in that?

RebirthOfCool said:

Romance - strictly for the benefit of the female. If women didn't like/require romance, men wouldn't indulge in it.

Not entirely true. My Aries male needs his gestures of affection or he turns into a pouting toddler. It's kind of cute actually because he's such a man's man, totally renaissance, and a person of action, so the contrast is nice. He exhibits a lot of alpha male chracteristics but doesn't mind easing up a bit . He needs his romance, and he needs to lavish it on me as well, and it works just fine. I'm a nurturer by tendency, but I do like to be catered to here and there, so I do for him as he does for me...

...aaarg, this is making me miss him right now!!!!!!!!!!!

Come home baby, please come home

TD3 said:

My man polishing the furniture and cleaning the windows/mirrors.

that can be romantic also, my husband is obsessed with our new wood floors, he cleans and mops them everyday!!

and before the day is over he will go over them one more time with a dry mop.

romance: CRAP!

why do they say "romance" when they mean jokes, kisses, adulation, movies, oral sex, condoms, champagne, promises, lies, and kicking the leaves during a walk through the park???

of that list, I only fancy oral sex & champagne...

JoeTyler said:

romance: CRAP!

why do they say "romance" when they mean jokes, kisses, adulation, movies, oral sex, condoms, champagne, promises, lies, and kicking the leaves during a walk through the park???

of that list, I only fancy oral sex & champagne...

Romance is also hugs, kisses, playful glances, holding hands, stolen moments, saying "I Love You", looking into each others eyes, lovingly touching each other (depending on situation), etc...

I didn't know head was considered romantic

SherryJackson said:

JoeTyler said:

romance: CRAP!

why do they say "romance" when they mean jokes, kisses, adulation, movies, oral sex, condoms, champagne, promises, lies, and kicking the leaves during a walk through the park???

of that list, I only fancy oral sex & champagne...

Romance is also hugs, kisses, playful glances, holding hands, stolen moments, saying "I Love You", looking into each others eyes, lovingly touching each other (depending on situation), etc...

I didn't know head was considered romantic

The greatest romance ever sold.

Ottensen said:

ZombieKitten said:

I don't know I think when if simply feels like obligation and you just don't want to do something nice for your SO any more, you came to the end of the road. That's pretty sad

A couple of bottles of champagne and some porn always works for me

Oooh you tart !!!

PaisleyPark5083 said:

TD3 said:

My man polishing the furniture and cleaning the windows/mirrors.

that can be romantic also, my husband is obsessed with our new wood floors, he cleans and mops them everyday!! :lug:

and before the day is over he will go over them one more time with a dry mop.

That is special . . . .

I hate to polish furniture and clean windows / mirrors but I like things clean and dust free too, he knows it and does it. Thoughtfulness is romantic to me.

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JoeTyler said:

romance: CRAP!

why do they say "romance" when they mean jokes, kisses, adulation, movies, oral sex, condoms, champagne, promises, lies, and kicking the leaves during a walk through the park???

of that list, I only fancy oral sex & champagne...

all I ever ask

ZombieKitten said:

JoeTyler said:

romance: CRAP!

why do they say "romance" when they mean jokes, kisses, adulation, movies, oral sex, condoms, champagne, promises, lies, and kicking the leaves during a walk through the park???

of that list, I only fancy oral sex & champagne...

all I ever ask

I'd go with the kicking of leaves

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

all I ever ask

I'd go with the kicking of leaves

lucky it's nearly fall then!

A single red carnation for her

A nice restaurant near or on the shore

Warm conversation

Slow dance

Hold her hand

marvel at the beauty of her smile

Whisper sweet nothings

Late in the evening

Walk her to her door

Accept invitation to stay awhile

Long kiss

Lots of foreplay

Enjoy the 69 position

Put her in the buck

wear out the headboard

Make her breakfast in the morning

That's romance

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Identity said:

A single red carnation for her

A nice restaurant near or on the shore

Warm conversation

Slow dance

Hold her hand

marvel at the beauty of her smile

Whisper sweet nothings

Late in the evening

Walk her to her door

Accept invitation to stay awhile

Long kiss

Lots of foreplay

Enjoy the 69 position

Put her in the buck

wear out the headboard

Make her breakfast in the morning

That's romance

Did you say "put it in her butt"? Now THAT'S romance!

"In the buck" is a slang term for a sexual position when the guy is on top and her ankles are near her ears.

Identity said:

"In the buck" is a slang term for a sexual position when the guy is on top and her ankles are near her ears.

Toe-may-toe, toe-mah-toe .

Genesia said:

My birthday was pretty romantic. We went to Minneapolis - played golf that day, then he dropped me at the hotel so I could get ready while he did some "birthday" stuff.

He came back to the hotel and got ready, and we went to a lovely, romantic dinner at the Oceanaire Room. We sat on the same side of the booth (which we nearly always do) and our wonderful Portuguese waiter, Ricardo, sang fado for us.

We stopped at the Dakota for a nightcap (I don't remember who was playing that night), then went back to our hotel. I waited downstairs for a few minutes while Sweetie went upstairs. When he called me up, I walked into a room that was lit with candles, with rose petals sprinkled on the bed. He gave me an emerald and diamond ring and then we

It was pretty wonderful.

you cursed?

poor Sweetie

I am a simple guy. For me, a bag of Funyuns, a 2-Liter of Orange Crush, and Eddie Murphy's Beverly Hills Cop DVDs is all I need.

JellyBean said:

I am a simple guy. For me, a bag of Funyuns, a 2-Liter of Orange Crush, and Eddie Murphy's Beverly Hills Cop DVDs is all I need.

dare I ask?

something to do with onions, right?

I've only heard of Fundies

My idea is that what someone considers romantic changes over time, plus a lot of deprogramming our social conditioning along the way. As children and teens, we are inundated with images of bringing flowers and candy or sprinking rose petals from the front door all the way to the bedroom, and while those can be romantic, it's awfully limited.

I think romance comes from doing little things that the other person would deeply appreciate, and are usually spontaneous in nature. Like massaging your woman's feet or her back after a long day of work when she is exhausted, or running errands with your significant other on the weekend and turning in into a spontaneous date with a picinic in the park or walk along the beach, etc. Or even cooking dinner for your loved one when they are expecting to pop something in the microwave or make Hamburger Helper. Or like in ZK's case, washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen.

Yes, most guys would fuck at any given moment if given the opportunity, but don't assume all guys want from romance is a roll in the sack; we need love and appreciation too.

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728huey said:

Or like in ZK's case, washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen.

I just looked at the state of my kitchen, it's not looking promising

ZombieKitten said:

JellyBean said:

I am a simple guy. For me, a bag of Funyuns, a 2-Liter of Orange Crush, and Eddie Murphy's Beverly Hills Cop DVDs is all I need.

dare I ask?

something to do with onions, right?

I've only heard of Fundies

These are Funyuns. I used to like them when I was a kid:

That Fundies pic looks a lot more exciting though.

sextonseven said:

ZombieKitten said:

dare I ask?

something to do with onions, right?

I've only heard of Fundies

These are Funyuns. I used to like them when I was a kid:

That Fundies pic looks a lot more exciting though.

wtf!! onion rings!

ZombieKitten said:

sextonseven said:

These are Funyuns. I used to like them when I was a kid:

That Fundies pic looks a lot more exciting though.

wtf!! onion rings!

There is no actual onion in those rings

Couch cuddling, private jokes and stupid nicknames.