Shanti0608 said:

mcmeekle said:

You need to up the stakes. Answer the door in a gimp suit or wearing a strap-on.

Pop-ins will be a thing of the past.

That would certainly cure the problem for good.

tell them you can't answer the door because you are tied-up. Literally.

well... my wife's in-laws (in particular, my mother ) tried to have her deported through the use of our immigration lawyer...

so, you can imagine we have a "special" relationship with them/her...

RenHoek said:

well... my wife's in-laws (in particular, my mother ) tried to have her deported through the use of our immigration lawyer...

so, you can imagine we have a "special" relationship with them/her...

Shanti0608 said:

My in laws "pop in" unannouced all of the time. Moreso now that we have a baby.

Mine live just across the road and up a bit. They don't pop in as often as I thought they would though. If they do call by unannounced and i'm in the middle of doing something, I just carry on doing it while they're there. Not sex though. That would be wrong.

i like my in-laws

it's my parents that drive me crazy

RenHoek said:

well... my wife's in-laws (in particular, my mother ) tried to have her deported through the use of our immigration lawyer...

so, you can imagine we have a "special" relationship with them/her...

Sounds like some shit either my parents or my hubby's parents would do if they could.

BAD!!!

RenHoek said:

well... my wife's in-laws (in particular, my mother ) tried to have her deported through the use of our immigration lawyer...

so, you can imagine we have a "special" relationship with them/her...

damn welcome to the family

Nothinbutjoy said:

What's the big deal? I've been married 21 years and my father-in-law and his wife are coming for a visit in 11 days.

It's their first visit to my home.

Ever.

I'm a little freaked out.

There's still time to move.

kewlschool said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

What's the big deal? I've been married 21 years and my father-in-law and his wife are coming for a visit in 11 days.

It's their first visit to my home.

Ever.

I'm a little freaked out.

There's still time to move.

Shanti0608 said:

My in laws "pop in" unannouced all of the time. Moreso now that we have a baby.

This is some shit which I cannot stand.

Here is my advice, and it has worked for me in the past occasions where i have had to entertain family that i do not particularly enjoy socialising with....

Tan a healthy glass of Jack D, and it should be plain sailing from there. I promise you it will work!

scandalousalan said:

Here is my advice, and it has worked for me in the past occasions where i have had to entertain family that i do not particularly enjoy socialising with....

Tan a healthy glass of Jack D, and it should be plain sailing from there. I promise you it will work!

my mum always gave me and my sister a stiff drink on christmas eve in the afternoon so we wouldn't kill each other. Guests always remarked what lovely girls we were how talkative

Nothinbutjoy said:

What's the big deal?

if they have fun and you have fun then it's not a big deal at all

just be sure to use lots of lubricant

and just so you know it is spelled 'fisting'

Mistadobalina said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

What's the big deal?

if they have fun and you have fun then it's not a big deal at all

just be sure to use lots of lubricant

and just so you know it is spelled 'fisting'

don't forget the safe word

johnart said:

Shanti0608 said:

My in laws "pop in" unannouced all of the time. Moreso now that we have a baby.

This is some shit which I cannot stand.

Me either. I guess it is because his parents have 4 children and 5 grandchildren that all live within 20 mins of them. His entire family does it so I guess they think it is alright.

kewlschool said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

What's the big deal? I've been married 21 years and my father-in-law and his wife are coming for a visit in 11 days.

It's their first visit to my home.

Ever.

I'm a little freaked out.

There's still time to move.

Thanks for that!

scandalousalan said:

Here is my advice, and it has worked for me in the past occasions where i have had to entertain family that i do not particularly enjoy socialising with....

Tan a healthy glass of Jack D, and it should be plain sailing from there. I promise you it will work!

Shanti0608 said:

johnart said:

This is some shit which I cannot stand.

Me either. I guess it is because his parents have 4 children and 5 grandchildren that all live within 20 mins of them. His entire family does it so I guess they think it is alright.

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

johnart said:

Shanti0608 said:

Me either. I guess it is because his parents have 4 children and 5 grandchildren that all live within 20 mins of them. His entire family does it so I guess they think it is alright.

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

I would need to make my boundries VERY clear as well ...

My In-laws have never just showed up though ~ they always call 1st BUT if they didn't I would have to ask them to do so

Mach said:

johnart said:

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

I would need to make my boundries VERY clear as well ...

My In-laws have never just showed up though ~ they always call 1st BUT if they didn't I would have to ask them to do so

Mine called once I brought it up. They took to calling like FIVE mins before getting there "Hey watcha doin? We're just down the road!"

I told them that shit don't work. I swear I'm a nice person.

johnart said:

Mach said:

I would need to make my boundries VERY clear as well ...

My In-laws have never just showed up though ~ they always call 1st BUT if they didn't I would have to ask them to do so

Mine called once I brought it up. They took to calling like FIVE mins before getting there "Hey watcha doin? We're just down the road!"

I told them that shit don't work. I swear I'm a nice person.

Good for you ~ that shit would NOT work ( mine live just 3 minutes down the hallow ! )

Nice people ... set nice healthy boundries for themselves so that they can TRUELY be outwardly nice to others

Being nice should in no way make you a doormat

and BTW

LOVE the new artwork HUGE

Trees !!

johnart said:

Shanti0608 said:

Me either. I guess it is because his parents have 4 children and 5 grandchildren that all live within 20 mins of them. His entire family does it so I guess they think it is alright.

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

It is a bit complicated in my situation. If it was my mom or my family that did it, I would have no problem telling them to call first.

Since these are in laws and I am the only one in their family that has a problem with it, I feel that it is easier to just deal with it since hubby is used to it.

I am also living in a house that they are used to just popping in to long before I moved in so it is just habit I suppose.

Shanti0608 said:

johnart said:

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

It is a bit complicated in my situation. If it was my mom or my family that did it, I would have no problem telling them to call first.

Since these are in laws and I am the only one in their family that has a problem with it, I feel that it is easier to just deal with it since hubby is used to it.

I am also living in a house that they are used to just popping in to long before I moved in so it is just habit I suppose.

I am sure they just don't understand that they should repect your privacy more . But that does not make it any less annoying .

Shanti0608 said:

johnart said:

I have outright called family on this crap and warned them. I'm not playin. It's fuckin rude as hell.

It is a bit complicated in my situation. If it was my mom or my family that did it, I would have no problem telling them to call first.

Since these are in laws and I am the only one in their family that has a problem with it, I feel that it is easier to just deal with it since hubby is used to it.

I am also living in a house that they are used to just popping in to long before I moved in so it is just habit I suppose.

You are a grown woman and the lady of your home (as I am here ) and you deserve the common courtesy of advance notice. This is not about family or not or who's blood relative. Both sides (mine and Ron) know how I feel about this. Hey, if we're family I should be able to be open about stuff like that.

johnart said:

Shanti0608 said:

It is a bit complicated in my situation. If it was my mom or my family that did it, I would have no problem telling them to call first.

Since these are in laws and I am the only one in their family that has a problem with it, I feel that it is easier to just deal with it since hubby is used to it.

I am also living in a house that they are used to just popping in to long before I moved in so it is just habit I suppose.

You are a grown woman and the lady of your home (as I am here ) and you deserve the common courtesy of advance notice. This is not about family or not or who's blood relative. Both sides (mine and Ron) know how I feel about this. Hey, if we're family I should be able to be open about stuff like that.

Good points!

We live in the same city as my parents and my in-laws don't live in the States. I think my mother & father called when they wanted to stop by. If our parents stopped by on a whim, my husband and I don't care, our door has always open (literally) to our respective families even when we aren't home.

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johnart said:

Mach said:

I would need to make my boundries VERY clear as well ...

My In-laws have never just showed up though ~ they always call 1st BUT if they didn't I would have to ask them to do so

Mine called once I brought it up. They took to calling like FIVE mins before getting there "Hey watcha doin? We're just down the road!"

I told them that shit don't work. I swear I'm a nice person.

I've witnessed a couple of those..

PositivityNYC said:

johnart said:

Mine called once I brought it up. They took to calling like FIVE mins before getting there "Hey watcha doin? We're just down the road!"

I told them that shit don't work. I swear I'm a nice person.

I've witnessed a couple of those..

Kinda difficult for them to do that now.

johnart said:

PositivityNYC said:

I've witnessed a couple of those..

Kinda difficult for them to do that now.

yeah, but.. now that you have a house guest, you & ron don't have to be there to let them in...

Diana, what do they think about a certain "issue?" I broach this only because you may not want this out in the open. lol