PRNelson said:

How do you let things be in regards to difficult aspects of your life? I'm referring to life situation that cannot be resolved or changed.. Aspects of your existence you just have to deal with no matter how much it impacts upon you, your health and general happiness. How do you personally let it be?

booze it up and letitgo.

I suck at it!

Way too anxious, stressed, worried, depressed....it is ruining my health-mental and physical.

I try meditation and all that but it's my nature.

mother mary comes to me, speaking words of wisdom.

you just do. Endure.

I just letitgo...

Take Andy's advice and just say, "So what."

PRNelson said:

How do you let things be in regards to difficult aspects of your life? I'm referring to life situation that cannot be resolved or changed.. Aspects of your existence you just have to deal with no matter how much it impacts upon you, your health and general happiness. How do you personally let it be?

P.S., PRNelson: If this is about the Ed McPherson lawsuit, just cough up the dough, already.

It all about how you look at your situation... when you been handed something that's not ideal, then make the best of it.

You take the shit and use it to help you to push through and make life more exciting.

Now that you have the lemons (BS situation), get some sugar (positivity) and some water (You're still breathing = life), NOW make some lemonaide!

Tribulation is life's unique way of making us better people, use this to redefine success in YOUR life. Do what works for you and forget what others think you should be doing. Happiness is what you make it.

In regards to family members... people don't change, you have zero control over that.

Two solutions:

1. Deal with them and learn to love them for who they are, they will need to change for themselves, and do not enable any negative behavior.

or

2. Redifine your family lines.... sometimes to live a healthy life, you must let go of toxic people who are abusive. Forgive and forget them ( for a long season of healing). Cut off ties and seek healthier relationships until you are healed and wise enough to not allow the same hurts to happen again.

As hard as it gets...i try not to deal with stuff - just to keep the peace

but sometimes i get reminders

then i cry..........uncontrollably

and i take it out on others JUST by being THE BITCH

because Bitches r hard - and they don't let shit get to them

and they also don't have feelings.

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PRNelson said:

How do you let things be in regards to difficult aspects of your life? I'm referring to life situation that cannot be resolved or changed.. Aspects of your existence you just have to deal with no matter how much it impacts upon you, your health and general happiness. How do you personally let it be?

this too, shall pass ... .

One word: Averto.

One shall always strive for the better, but trying to change the i-n-e-v-i-t-a-b-l-e only costs substance and power, which could instead be invested where enhancement is possible and due, and should be e-v-i-t-e-d.

Inbetween the Alpha and the Omega, therein lies the only VERITAS, which can be attained by AVERTing all the things that ever made you cry and being OUVERT towards all the new things coming your way. Averto is the truth, as simple as that. It is meant to be a greeting of open arms, a hail, - "Ave".

Do whatever feels best in life. Don't think about the future, but even more so, don't think about the past.

It's a hard step. I think people don't let things go (it's not always that simple), because there's a sense of injustice, or dismissal toward the person, and they don't feel they've gotten their due. Now, that "due" could be anything from karma being a bitch, them inflicting the revenge on the offending party, or just a simple talk and apology - whatever form it takes, it's usually not manifested at all for the offended to "let it go". No one wants to be dismissed, or jilted, but when they are, what recourse do they really have? The person doing the offending usually don't give a flip, which leaves the offended in a dangling position of unease and aborted business. To truly "just let it go" takes work (depending on the level of the offense), and if it's severe enough, could take years. If you never get that resolution, you have to eventually realize you never will. Let THAT be your resolution. You resolve to know there is no resolution. It's like agreeing to disagree. The other person has moved on, so why are you stuck in the starting position still? You're the only dog in that race, and sometimes it's better to just go home, lick your wounds, and carry on. We waste a lot of life time on the grudges, the hatred, the stalking, the battering, the vengeful tactics - when ultimately we can look at the person who offended us, say "Eh, your loss, pal", and go forward.

I give myself permission to stew about it for exactly 24 hours and then I force myself let it go.

If I forget, my sweetie is there to give me a swift kick.