vainandy said:

Harlepolis said:

Voluntary work. Any type.

You have no idea how it trivialises the feeling of loneliness or(in my case) depression.

Every summer(and sometimes every two months depending on how free I'm), I work for a local hospital for the elderly. Its a very private matter to me, and I haven't told anybody about it except my husband.

The work is exhausting and without any pay,,,but then again the satisfaction that comes afterward is pricless and extremely worth it.

I've thought about that too. I thought about volunteering for some organization that fights for gay rights but I don't think there are any in my area....serious ones, that is.

I love old people too but I don't think I could stand cleaning up after them and changing them.

It doesn't have to be restricted on the elderly though. I'm sure there're many voluntary organizations in your region you could assign yourself into.

Music, tears and love.

chocolate1 said:

I've been going thru that for a while...

The problem is that at my age, my friends are mostly married and/or have kids (a couple have grandkids), so they're busy.

The last guy I was with was always too "busy" to do a lot of things with me, so even though I had someone, I was still alone.

I met a nice guy recently, but he works 2 jobs, 6 days a week. I'd be alone again- so no.

I go to the movies, dinner and things by myself, but I also try to ask friends to go to concerts and such...

Damn u just described MY LIFE

I'm normally a loner, but it would be nice to have friends 2 go do things with every now and then...

It gets old doing things by yourself all the time.

Alcohol! It will always be your friend.

JustErin said:

Alcohol! It will always be your friend.

actually it's not really, although it makes an evening pass faster

music & comedy helps me

I suggest finding a group activity.

I started going to Tai Chi classes this year. It's completely different from everything else I'm involved in and it's been good fun. The teachers and other students have always been welcoming and encouraging and there's no pressure to get all the moves right all the time. Best of all, it's relatively cheap During the tea breaks, people make an effort to get to know each other. So after a few weeks, the classes also feel like catch-ups with your mates.

For all I know, you find the idea of Tai Chi completely boring. But my point is, by finding an activity that involves others who are interested in the same thing, you're getting out of the house, meeting others and you'll probably find that you don't think about loneliness as much.

Oh, and don't worry about going to the cinema by yourself. People go there to look at a screen, not at others in the audience.

united1878 said:

I suggest finding a group activity.

I started going to Tai Chi classes this year. It's completely different from everything else I'm involved in and it's been good fun. The teachers and other students have always been welcoming and encouraging and there's no pressure to get all the moves right all the time. Best of all, it's relatively cheap During the tea breaks, people make an effort to get to know each other. So after a few weeks, the classes also feel like catch-ups with your mates.

For all I know, you find the idea of Tai Chi completely boring. But my point is, by finding an activity that involves others who are interested in the same thing, you're getting out of the house, meeting others and you'll probably find that you don't think about loneliness as much.

Oh, and don't worry about going to the cinema by yourself. People go there to look at a screen, not at others in the audience.

some people go there to have a good old chat

i invent imaginary friends.

ZombieKitten said:

united1878 said:

I suggest finding a group activity.

I started going to Tai Chi classes this year. It's completely different from everything else I'm involved in and it's been good fun. The teachers and other students have always been welcoming and encouraging and there's no pressure to get all the moves right all the time. Best of all, it's relatively cheap During the tea breaks, people make an effort to get to know each other. So after a few weeks, the classes also feel like catch-ups with your mates.

For all I know, you find the idea of Tai Chi completely boring. But my point is, by finding an activity that involves others who are interested in the same thing, you're getting out of the house, meeting others and you'll probably find that you don't think about loneliness as much.

Oh, and don't worry about going to the cinema by yourself. People go there to look at a screen, not at others in the audience.

some people go there to have a good old chat

Oh, don't get me started on them

united1878 said:

ZombieKitten said:

some people go there to have a good old chat

Oh, don't get me started on them

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

ZombieKitten said:

united1878 said:

Oh, don't get me started on them

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

Then: [img:$uid]http://i558.photobucket.com/albums/ss26/CSBDan/Smilies/1sm258fight.gif[/img:$uid]

chocolate1 said:

ZombieKitten said:

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

Then: [img:$uid]http://i558.photobucket.com/albums/ss26/CSBDan/Smilies/1sm258fight.gif[/img:$uid]

I was so afraid those people would be waiting outside to ambush us after but they ran away as soon as the credits started rolling.

ZombieKitten said:

chocolate1 said:

Then: [img:$uid]http://i558.photobucket.com/albums/ss26/CSBDan/Smilies/1sm258fight.gif[/img:$uid]

I was so afraid those people would be waiting outside to ambush us after but they ran away as soon as the credits started rolling.

You guys were lucky...People can be so mean.

But I guess what they were thinking, too.

ZombieKitten said:

united1878 said:

Oh, don't get me started on them

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

Well, props to him for doing something we've all wanted to do at some point.

Anyway, this thread was originally about something else, wasn't it?

Aaaah brother....I know what you're going thru....lonliness is both a blessing and a curse...mostly a curse.

I deal with it with music and art. Music is the cure all for everything sometimes...

But recently, to combat my lonliness I've made a ton of internet friends. A lot of them are on the org. And I love them all very much. I'm a friend to whoever needs me. So if you'll let me, I'll be your friend

Happy 25th, bro.

united1878 said:

ZombieKitten said:

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

Well, props to him for doing something we've all wanted to do at some point.

Anyway, this thread was originally about something else, wasn't it?

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CHIC0 said:

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this is a very lonely post I feel its pain

ZombieKitten said:

united1878 said:

Oh, don't get me started on them

you've seen my husband, tall bald guy. When we saw Avatar, this couple were having a normal volume conversation 3 rows behind us, for about 15 minutes. We had turned around and given them stern looks, and then he turned around and threw his empty coke cup at them and told them to "shut the fuck up!"

I wished the floor would swallow me up right then

A similar thing happened to me many years ago. A friend and I were seeing a movie and there was only one other couple in the place. We were seated in the middle, they were 2 rows back and on the aisle. They would not SHUT UP. I mean, we could hear every bit of their conversation. After several crusty looks from us and they didn't stop I finally got up, walked all the way down their row from the other end and sat next to them, and asked them, politely, to stop talking, that they were ruining the movie for us. The woman practically yelled at me that I was now ruining it for her! And I calmly said something to the effect of, "at least that's all of us now" and went back to my seat.

They didn't utter a word after that.

Bigger response than I expected. Thanks to everyone for contributing

As for whether it's loneliness or deppression... well I feel depressed because I'm so lonely. Losing my only really close friend from being too needy didn't help either . I have since gone to a psychologist who did help me quite a bit. It basically just helped me see how I got to the point I am now. Also it taught me how to be a better person in a friendship or relationship. He did give me similar tips as you guys did. I just need to find my way to break out of this. My shyness when first coming into contact with others doesn't help. Just gotta keep trying I guess.

SherryJackson said:

Aaaah brother....I know what you're going thru....lonliness is both a blessing and a curse...mostly a curse.

I deal with it with music and art. Music is the cure all for everything sometimes...

But recently, to combat my lonliness I've made a ton of internet friends. A lot of them are on the org. And I love them all very much. I'm a friend to whoever needs me. So if you'll let me, I'll be your friend

Happy 25th, bro.

I'd like that . Helps that you have great taste in music (for the most part )

WildStyle said:

Bigger response than I expected. Thanks to everyone for contributing

As for whether it's loneliness or deppression... well I feel depressed because I'm so lonely. Losing my only really close friend from being too needy didn't help either . I have since gone to a psychologist who did help me quite a bit. It basically just helped me see how I got to the point I am now. Also it taught me how to be a better person in a friendship or relationship. He did give me similar tips as you guys did. I just need to find my way to break out of this. My shyness when first coming into contact with others doesn't help. Just gotta keep trying I guess.

SherryJackson said:

Aaaah brother....I know what you're going thru....lonliness is both a blessing and a curse...mostly a curse.

I deal with it with music and art. Music is the cure all for everything sometimes...

But recently, to combat my lonliness I've made a ton of internet friends. A lot of them are on the org. And I love them all very much. I'm a friend to whoever needs me. So if you'll let me, I'll be your friend

Happy 25th, bro.

I'd like that . Helps that you have great taste in music (for the most part )

I was thinking about it.

I try to find things to do, but sometimes I feel lonely in the middle of a crowd.

Sometimes it's not about being alone, but also feeling like you're a part of things....

WildStyle said:

Anybody have any idea what I'm talking about? And what are some of the things you do to deal with loneliness?

I don't get lonely, anymore; I crave solitude. If I did get lonely, there's always the internets!

Ace said:

I don't get lonely, anymore; I crave solitude. If I did get lonely, there's always the internets!

I've been like that lately.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

chocolate1 said:

Then: [img:$uid]http://i558.photobucket.com/albums/ss26/CSBDan/Smilies/1sm258fight.gif[/img:$uid]

I was so afraid those people would be waiting outside to ambush us after but they ran away as soon as the credits started rolling.

Actually, something similar happened to a co-worker of mine.

Years ago she was at the movies with her then-husband. Some idiots behind them were goofing around and throwing popcorn at people. He ex turned around and got into a cursing match with them.

After the movie ended, the idiots ambushed them!

More specifically, the head idiot was a roided-out off duty cop who pounced on her ex and basically used his face as a punching bag.

The cops came, but unfortunately, it was a "he said, she said" situation (no impartial witnesses) so the roid head barely got a slap on the wrists.

My friend and her ex did get to be on the Montel show though (I don't know if it was about abusive cops or roid rage or what).

WildStyle said:

I've been suffering from loneliness ever since my mid to late teens. I'm turning 25 in two days and the feeling is just intensefying as I get older. I'm facing the serious possibility of just having to learn to deal with it for the rest of my life because it doesn't seem like it will ever change.

Anybody have any idea what I'm talking about? And what are some of the things you do to deal with loneliness?

I know how you feel. Been in the situation myself. However, think of how many people are surrounded by a$sholes in their homes and lives and wish that they were alone.

Acrylic said:

Sub PR for House Party and KFC with some Jack In The Box and that's me

Write songs, exercise, listen to my iPod. I've been in a lonely mood for some time (I go through one ever so often)