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and because it makes me very happy to see

Well there always a perfect mess.

But I find that when you love someone, you love them warts and all. The term perfect never enter my mind.

So hovering pussy makes you happy? Good to know.

You can always find something that you don't like in someone and I think it's always there. However, if there's something you don't like that would an honest problem in the relationship, or if the the bad out-weighs the good, or if you go into a relationship thinking that's best you're gonna get (when you know they're not) then you're settling.

Aryll said:

You can always find something that you don't like in someone and I think it's always there. However, if there's something you don't like that would an honest problem in the relationship, or if the the bad out-weighs the good, or if you go into a relationship thinking that's best you're gonna get (when you know they're not) then you're settling.

it's same as learning to pick your battles

I know a couple that fought all the time, like tooth and nail. They noticed that it was always about stupid insignificant things. They vowed to never let those things get in their way again and haven't fought since.

:falloaff: at the picture. I never saw that brfore. I like it.

You know nobodys perfect.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

:falloaff: at the picture. I never saw that brfore. I like it.

You know nobodys perfect.

I know that, always known that - just surprised at people my age even who are still waiting for that "perfect" person to come along!

ZombieKitten said:

Aryll said:

You can always find something that you don't like in someone and I think it's always there. However, if there's something you don't like that would an honest problem in the relationship, or if the the bad out-weighs the good, or if you go into a relationship thinking that's best you're gonna get (when you know they're not) then you're settling.

it's same as learning to pick your battles

I know a couple that fought all the time, like tooth and nail. They noticed that it was always about stupid insignificant things. They vowed to never let those things get in their way again and haven't fought since.

I need to learn that......badly .

And the photo is awesome .

perfection is different is everyone's eyes.

I know I'm not perfect and hope to find someone who will accept me flaws and all, so I don't expect to find anyone perfect.

However, I usually feel like I'm settling when I start to realize I'm putting up with TOO MANY things and feel like I'm making excuses for the person's actions.

Also, at what point do you say to yourself, "I never wanted ___, but this will have to do." just to have someone?

Oh, and, I'm not a big fan of cats.... those floaters are freaking me out!

ZombieKitten said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

:falloaff: at the picture. I never saw that brfore. I like it.

You know nobodys perfect.

I know that, always known that - just surprised at people my age even who are still waiting for that "perfect" person to come along!

Like JustErin?

I'm glad you asked this because I've wondered about this question myself. People always say "don't settle" but in essence, isn't that what you are doing anyway? The meaning of "settling down" means that you are settling for that one person who still has faults but you love them despite their faults. You accept their faults whether you can deal with them or not....so you are settling for this person who does things you can't stand yet there could be another person out there with less faults. I look at it this way:

Finding someone who isn't perfect is thinking realistic...however, everyone who is in a monogamous relationship with significant other has settled for a person that they either are deeply in love with or has settled with someone that they tolerate.

Living life IS settling. Those who are looking for perfection in someone are fooling themselves, as they are not perfect. I honestly think perfect is a dirty word as it's an impossibility....really.

Seriously, even Da Vinci had bad days, I'm sure

Nothing wrong with raising the bar. Make a list of what you want. What are you looking for etc. Just remember to be realistic.

There is no such thing as someone being 100% perfect. Don't be in a rush to find that someone. Let them find you. And make sure they love you for you.

There really is no such thing as Perfect...and besides i like quirky imperfections in a person

Just like those hovering pussies...perfectly legless!

No one is “perfect”. In fact, my current beau has told me a few times that I am perfect and it makes me uncomfortable. I am most certainly not perfect and he’s in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line if he thinks that I am. Love is about accepting someone for who they are, faults and all. It’s loving someone despite the imperfections.

But accepting that no one is perfect does not mean you are “settling” either. Settling is more about not being in love but deciding to make a go of it anyway. You may even love the person but not be “in love”. Maybe someone just wants babies or maybe someone wants financial security or maybe someone’s tired of looking and dating and just wants someone to come home to and finds someone they care enough about and trust that they get along with well enough and decide this is good enough. I don’t even think that there’s necessarily anything wrong with that. It’s just a little sad if it’s one-sided, though.

I've heard that if you can accept at someone's imperfections, perfectly, that you can find happiness.

... or some shit like that. Shit, girl, I settle.

What CarrieMpls said.

CarrieMpls said:

No one is “perfect”. In fact, my current beau has told me a few times that I am perfect and it makes me uncomfortable. I am most certainly not perfect and he’s in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line if he thinks that I am. Love is about accepting someone for who they are, faults and all. It’s loving someone despite the imperfections.

But accepting that no one is perfect does not mean you are “settling” either. Settling is more about not being in love but deciding to make a go of it anyway. You may even love the person but not be “in love”. Maybe someone just wants babies or maybe someone wants financial security or maybe someone’s tired of looking and dating and just wants someone to come home to and finds someone they care enough about and trust that they get along with well enough and decide this is good enough. I don’t even think that there’s necessarily anything wrong with that. It’s just a little sad if it’s one-sided, though.

Beyond that...if someone loved you in spite of your faults, would you think they were settling?

What worked/works in my life is trust in my understanding that we are all perfectly imperfect and that THAT is really how we are supposed to be

Our flaws make us as much of who we are as do the things we have mastered ( perfected) I mean really ... how boring would a perfect person and perfect relationship be

BklynBabe said:

Like the Grace Jones song, I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you! Some things you will tolerate for love that you will not usually tolerate. If you feel you need to radically change someone or change for someone it's a problem. It's all about compatibility and communication and when you achieve that it can feel perfect.

Zombie, we found you on the ORG, and your are 100% perfect! And I don't settle!

I think that depends on one's personal standard. Some people have incredibly high standards, and some have really low. It is all relative.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

ZombieKitten said:

I know that, always known that - just surprised at people my age even who are still waiting for that "perfect" person to come along!

Like JustErin?

She doesn't strike me as fussy actually

KatSkrizzle said:

Zombie, we found you on the ORG, and your are 100% perfect! And I don't settle!

that's just ORGPERFECT

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i think the beauty of people is that of our little quirks and that the fact that we are not perfect but in fact different and from this differences we sometimes have similar things that can brings us together.

baroque said:

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i think the beauty of people is that of our little quirks and that the fact that we are not perfect but in fact different and from this differences we sometimes have similar things that can brings us together.

Reality. Until you can build a man like Dr. Frankenfurter, nobody will ever be perfect

ZombieKitten said:

KatSkrizzle said:

Zombie, we found you on the ORG, and your are 100% perfect! And I don't settle!

that's just ORGPERFECT

You're pretty frackin awesome!