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The unlikelyhood of finding someone who is 100% perfect. Is accepting that fact "settling" or just being realistic? Discuss
and because it makes me very happy to see
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Well there always a perfect mess. But I find that when you love someone, you love them warts and all. The term perfect never enter my mind. 99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment | |
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So hovering pussy makes you happy? Good to know. 99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment | |
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You can always find something that you don't like in someone and I think it's always there. However, if there's something you don't like that would an honest problem in the relationship, or if the the bad out-weighs the good, or if you go into a relationship thinking that's best you're gonna get (when you know they're not) then you're settling. | |
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it's same as learning to pick your battles
I know a couple that fought all the time, like tooth and nail. They noticed that it was always about stupid insignificant things. They vowed to never let those things get in their way again and haven't fought since. | |
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:falloaff: at the picture. I never saw that brfore. I like it.
You know nobodys perfect. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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I know that, always known that - just surprised at people my age even who are still waiting for that "perfect" person to come along! | |
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I need to learn that......badly . With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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And the photo is awesome . With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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perfection is different is everyone's eyes. | |
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I know I'm not perfect and hope to find someone who will accept me flaws and all, so I don't expect to find anyone perfect. However, I usually feel like I'm settling when I start to realize I'm putting up with TOO MANY things and feel like I'm making excuses for the person's actions.
Also, at what point do you say to yourself, "I never wanted ___, but this will have to do." just to have someone?
Oh, and, I'm not a big fan of cats.... those floaters are freaking me out! "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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Like JustErin? I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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I'm glad you asked this because I've wondered about this question myself. People always say "don't settle" but in essence, isn't that what you are doing anyway? The meaning of "settling down" means that you are settling for that one person who still has faults but you love them despite their faults. You accept their faults whether you can deal with them or not....so you are settling for this person who does things you can't stand yet there could be another person out there with less faults. I look at it this way:
Finding someone who isn't perfect is thinking realistic...however, everyone who is in a monogamous relationship with significant other has settled for a person that they either are deeply in love with or has settled with someone that they tolerate. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Living life IS settling. Those who are looking for perfection in someone are fooling themselves, as they are not perfect. I honestly think perfect is a dirty word as it's an impossibility....really.
Seriously, even Da Vinci had bad days, I'm sure "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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Moderator | Nothing wrong with raising the bar. Make a list of what you want. What are you looking for etc. Just remember to be realistic.
There is no such thing as someone being 100% perfect. Don't be in a rush to find that someone. Let them find you. And make sure they love you for you. Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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There really is no such thing as Perfect...and besides i like quirky imperfections in a person
Just like those hovering pussies...perfectly legless! | |
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Ex-Moderator | No one is “perfect”. In fact, my current beau has told me a few times that I am perfect and it makes me uncomfortable. I am most certainly not perfect and he’s in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line if he thinks that I am. Love is about accepting someone for who they are, faults and all. It’s loving someone despite the imperfections.
But accepting that no one is perfect does not mean you are “settling” either. Settling is more about not being in love but deciding to make a go of it anyway. You may even love the person but not be “in love”. Maybe someone just wants babies or maybe someone wants financial security or maybe someone’s tired of looking and dating and just wants someone to come home to and finds someone they care enough about and trust that they get along with well enough and decide this is good enough. I don’t even think that there’s necessarily anything wrong with that. It’s just a little sad if it’s one-sided, though. |
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I've heard that if you can accept at someone's imperfections, perfectly, that you can find happiness.
... or some shit like that. Shit, girl, I settle. I do nothing professionally. I only do things for fun. johnart: Acrylic's old bras is where tits of all sizes go to frolic after they die. Tit Heaven. | |
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What CarrieMpls said.
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Beyond that...if someone loved you in spite of your faults, would you think they were settling? We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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What worked/works in my life is trust in my understanding that we are all perfectly imperfect and that THAT is really how we are supposed to be
Our flaws make us as much of who we are as do the things we have mastered ( perfected) I mean really ... how boring would a perfect person and perfect relationship be
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Like the Grace Jones song, I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you! Some things you will tolerate for love that you will not usually tolerate. If you feel you need to radically change someone or change for someone it's a problem. It's all about compatibility and communication and when you achieve that it can feel perfect. | |
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Proud Succubi Bitch! | |
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Zombie, we found you on the ORG, and your are 100% perfect! And I don't settle!
I think that depends on one's personal standard. Some people have incredibly high standards, and some have really low. It is all relative. | |
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She doesn't strike me as fussy actually | |
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that's just ORGPERFECT
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i think the beauty of people is that of our little quirks and that the fact that we are not perfect but in fact different and from this differences we sometimes have similar things that can brings us together. | |
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Reality. Until you can build a man like Dr. Frankenfurter, nobody will ever be perfect 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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You're pretty frackin awesome! | |
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