I met someone yesterday that was a friend of a friend... needless to say I'm really big on first impressions.. I try not to be and try to always give that person a second chance .. but usually the 1st is the most important to me.. I like to think that most of the time I'm a good judge of character... but back to my story well this person I met was just a little over the top asked me within the first 5 minutes of talking to her if my mom and dad were divorced or still together, where I worked, and how much I made at my job.. I was really upset and very put off ... it makes me revert back to how important first impressions can sometimes be...

So I wanna ask you guys ..

Do you think first impression are important>?

Do you always make your decision on first impression?

Do you tend to just feel out the situation a couple more times?

Do you feel like normally your a good judge of character?

I do judge on overal apeal , its a feeling . you dont need to say a word.

i dont think its always fair.

i personally have a huge problem with first impressions and ive worked on it with a social skills class. when people meet me and im not at ease, i tend to take a cocky pose. and that scares people. once they got to know me , they know its cool.

so i think they do count since all of us judge people that way

I feel first impressions count big time. On that same note I am always willing to give a person a second chance to change my mind.

Do you think first impression are important? I think they hold value but are not a make it or break it factor overall

Do you always make your decision on first impression? No and I can almost say never

Do you tend to just feel out the situation a couple more times? If I have that gut desire yes ...

Do you feel like normally your a good judge of character? Yes, more times than not I am

Do you think first impression are important>?

For me, yes. They are very important and always seem to leave a lasting impression overall.

Do you always make your decision on first impression?
Most of the time, yes. And no--they're never 100% accurate.

Do you tend to just feel out the situation a couple more times?
YES, but a person makes first impression way before I make a final judgement---I know it doesn't sound intuitive but I make my final judgement quite sometime after they make their first impression. I can't explain

Do you feel like normally your a good judge of character?
You know, if you asked in 2007, I would have said yes. After my disasterous 2008 relationship, I'd say no...I'm easily fooled by douchebags.

First impressions are important, and I'm guilty of making snap judgements about folks.

BUT! U can't always go with the first impression...that person might just be havin a bad day or whateva. It just depends...

I trust my second impression and gut feeling.

I trust my groin feeling

Cinnie said:

MacDaddy said:

Yup

TheVoid said:

and that's not a bad thing at all.cause that could turn into the cute story of how so and so met. like "remember when we met and yo weave fell off tho,gurl? lol it was too cute"

motownlover said:

Co-sign with everything you said,,,esp the highlighted part.

I've always gave an aloof, cocky and VERY serious impression to strangers myself, I swear its unintentional, but people don't know that and 9 times out of 10, it can throw them off,,,,esp when they see me laughing once in awhile

Almost all of my friends admitted to me later that they thought I was a "snooty bitch" at first only to find out that I'm the complete opposite. If I had a way to control first impressions, I'd pay my rent money to do so,,,,because I've ran against some squares who took the 1st impression and took it to heart STUBBORNLY, to this day.

Do you feel like normally your a good judge of character?

No. One of the weaknesses that I'm trying to lose.

Thats exactly WHY I'm an easy target for leechers who have a keen talent at taking advantages of other people.

I wouldn't have friends if I had to rely on my first impressions. Being that I'm mostly quiet and quite shy I have had loads of people tell me they thought I was arrogant or stuck-up when they first met me. Or if I'm lost in thought about something, people often ask me if I'm angry.

So no, I don't go solely off of first impressions.

yes, first impressions are VERY important.

so, for my first impression i would like to do imago:

Hay evreyboody, look at I. Me Dan. Blah blah blah, fart noise.

this brings to mind a 2nd question: do women really decide whether or not they'll sleep with a man within the first minute of meeting them?

gay folks or anybody else are free to respond.

whistle said:

I don't. That's just silly.

whistle said:

gay folks = yes.

Some women = yes


Most women = no. I think most of the women I know want to find out if your'e a creep or not first.


Straight guys.... I'm going to say no, because they don't decide anything. The answer was 'yes' before they even laid eyes on you ladies.

whistle said:

NO

Mach said:

I know on first meeting with some dudes they will never get the goodies

BklynBabe said:

Now that's a FACT for sure !

BklynBabe said:

co-sign

insatiable3 said:

Yes I do believe first impressions are important BUT I tend to give people second and third chances for redemption.
I have learned though that I usually remember something that I waved off before and later it came back to bite me.
I like people, I like to talk and learn and get to know them.
I think I am a pretty good judge of character, sometimes i give people just enough rope to hang themselves.

Do you think first impression are important? In my case, they hold some merit, but they're not determining factors of how I read people. I judge people over time by how they act, not by what they say in the first few minutes of meeting me.

Do you always make your decision on first impression? No. But I usually get a "feeling" about that person...might change over time if need be.

Do you tend to just feel out the situation a couple more times? If it's worth it.

Do you feel like normally your a good judge of character? I would say so.