I used to look for someone exciting, but age and experience has reordered by priorities to someone reliable and perhaps a bit boring.

Is this the dawn of wisdom?
or
Is this the onset of old age?

I always liked a hardbody, rough 'n tumble guy.
That hasn't changed.
Now I just like 'em with a brain too.

Mm, I'd say my taste has expanded. I used to only be attracted to super femme/andro guys and butch girls. I can totally go for the manly men these days. Still not very into girly girls, but further that direction than I used to be.

For the most part, I've just confirmed my need for brilliant and funny and kind.

well ever since I saw that photo of mcmeekle the other day, my whole world has turned upside down!

ZombieKitten said:

He was hot wasnt he!

I dont think what I look for has changed... but then ive been married 23 years this may so what do I know...

tackam said:

Yeah, that's pretty much me too.

tinaz said:

and hopefully still is!!

I went for looks and IF he had a personality that was OK too.
Now I go for substance... funny, warm, genuine and a strong back.



Having a big dick helps too.

Probably. Whatever challenge you may encounter in your daily life, if you feel like you can't handle it on your own you wish for someone to help you. Someone you can trust and someone who will be there for you and who will want and need your love and help in return.


Right now, I would love to have someone who is intelligent, mature, inspiring, kind, sensitive, funny, beautiful and a bit erotic. I think.

No. I just don't mind them a little older. But I've always needed them hot, super confident, intelligent and funny.

I used to look for pretty eyes and smile, young, small, and a nice ass. After I got third degree burns from THAT one, all I want now is faithful, honest, and loving.

I keep looking for "more", somehow. First I just wanted someone who is beautiful and can make me laugh. Then, when I met a few guys and got some experience, I started to notice those who have all that and who are very successful in something and have different opinions than the majority. Then I realized I could never be happy with someone who doesn't appreciate music. He does not have to be a musician, although I can't seem to get certain young musicians out of my head . It's certainly not just because they are musicians, but that is a huge thing that certainly does impress me.
So now I'm strongly attracted to elegant, handsome, confident, sensitive, intelligent, deep and madly talented (especially music-wise) young men with a good sense of humour.
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I wish I could just laugh too! I could until recently, now I can't even smile

Maybe I don't deserve all that, but I don't think I'm far from the qualities I dare to look for

Aelis said:

Woman! You're still young. It's too early not to smile!


Listen to an old, experienced man like me. I know what I'm talking about.

It has changed for me. Where I used to go for excitement, I'm now more interested in strength (emotional/mental) and maturity. I'm also a sucker for good manners.

Dave1992 said:

I absolutely hate when you tell me that

Yeah, after 79 years of life you are certainly more wise than I am!

YES!

I refuse to consider anyone seriously who can not look 10 years or more down the road. If your biggest worries are what you're planning to do this weekend, there's really no hope for us.

I used to look for fun, witty, and exciting.

Now, I'm more interested in mature, future-thinking, and compassionate.

Aelis said:

I used to hate that too, when I was as young as you.

TheVoid said:

MrsMdiver said:

I know



Sorry, but I've been down the road with someone who couldn't look past the weekend, and I've learned my lesson. If you're behind the steering wheel, and you can't see the cliff ahead, I'll drive myself thanks.

Dave1992 said:

This sounds scary

TheVoid said:

I have been with both extremes. Someone somewhere in the middle is nice.

MrsMdiver said:

Val, you're a smart woman, and very wise for your age.
Why you chose British, I'll never know.

I support you no matter what.

GROUP. HUG.

TheVoid said:

It certainly wasn't the food.

Dave1992 said:

Of course I haven't stopped smiling and laughing and enjoying life, I just don't feel like smiling when I think of these things.

I want someone who wouldn't treat me like a piece of shit..

zaza said:

well, when i was younger i always dated men older than i was. usually 9 or 10 years older than me. because i thought i was so mature and guys my age weren't on my level. so after dating a few guys that broke my heart. i took a few years off from dating, and i didn't really know what i was looking for anymore. but i was thinking i would always end up being married to a guy older than myself. so i always laugh over the fact that i ended up getting married to a guy 5 years younger than me, and i'm super happy & i think he's way more mature than i am.