Serious said:

Yes, it would be a pity to go there while you're away.

Dave1992 said:

Who says you are invited to the party

Aelis said:

That's not gonna happen

Serious said:

Serious said:

Cinnie said:

Serious said:

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Dave1992 said:

In 99% of cases, long term relationships are way overrated...

JoeTyler said:

How so?

Serious said:

Nah, just personal opinion; to think that you could spend at least 60 years with someone is just overwhelming , I mean, it just can't work...

JoeTyler said:

Sure it can.
And it does.

That doesn’t mean everyone should choose to try. If it’s not your thing, then it’s not your thing but it can and does work for other people.

JoeTyler said:

I could totally imagine that. Why not? Like Carrie said it's not for everybody though.

JoeTyler said:

My grandparents have been together for 65 years, and my parents for 30. They're all happy. It can work, apparently. *I* can't seem to make it fly, but it's not impossible!

CarrieMpls said:

Great take on it! I learned it a little later in life--but I'm perfectly happy doing what I want to do and if I happen to meet somebody along the way in the future on my path that's only an added bonus. But not required.

Fucked many, loved few!



Just kidding.

I've been in 3 serious relationships, one was for 10 years. The rest were just flings and having sex with friends.

I've had my heart seriously destroyed once, but no...it doesn't affect me now in how I look at other potential boyfriends.

There are so many people to choose from I'm in no rush to settle down with someone these days.

Zero.

JoeTyler said:

That's exactly what I intend to do, and I don't see any reason why I won't.

ya me either about settling down lol
[Edited 4/1/10 23:50pm]

I never have been in love, but I stepped in it once.

zaza said:

I think the barrier exists in the beginning when you meet someone new after you've had your heart broken a couple of times, but as long as you don't dwell on the past and realize that not everyone is out here to "get" you, then you are able to open up and shut that barrier down. When you have a good person who is willing to love you and care for you the way you deserve, holding the barrier up will do nothing but mess it up for you...then it will be you who let the good one get away.

I've had two major relationships, and I'm now on my third. The first was with my high school boyfriend, the first guy I fell in love with. The break up was sad but not really terrible since I was interested in meeting other guys when I realized that our relationship wasn't going to last. We naturally grew apart.

My 2nd major relationship lasted off and on for 4 years. I can honestly say that I felt at the time that this guy was my soulmate for life, especially how we kept finding our way back to each other, but he wasn't ready for the type commitment that a relationship requires when you want to give yourself to the one you love and whom you can't live without. I think he was afraid of commitment and kept feeling like he would be missing out on other things had he done right by me. So I finally got smart and cut the relationship off for once and for all. I can honestly say that out of all my relationships, this breakup was the one that really took over me. I was truly hurt and loved him deeply. But just when I felt that I wouldn't even meet anyone that I would even compare to the way I loved him.....

I then met my current boyfriend who is definitely the love of my life. He loves, wants, and cares for me in ways that no man that I've been with has. He has no problem telling me how he feels about me, he has no problem being there for me, and he has no problem with letting me know that he will protect me at all costs. He is extremely supportive of everything I do, as well as letting me know when I'm wrong when I think I'm right at things. I've never experienced this type of love before and I'm loving every minute of it.

So I'm a testimony to having a broken heart but then having the courage to let my barriers go when it was time to let someone who was worth it, into my heart.
[Edited 4/2/10 5:13am]

Sometimes I wish I could be like Samantha from Sex & City, who doesn't believe in relationships and just has lots of casual sex, but unfortunately that's not me. Having said that I am very wary of relationships. Ever since I was 15 years old, and I am now 40, I have been let down time and time again. Maybe it is just me or probably I am just have a knack of selecting the wrong type, but like someone said before I am learning to feel good about myself, by just being by myself. As long as I am healthy, my son is healthy, I have a roof over my head and I have a job I am contented. If I ever find mutual love that will be wonderful but if I don't that's cool too.

JustErin said:

awesome quote

JustErin said:

I think I'm heading down this road.

Had a hand full of girls, but nothing really serious

3 serious relationships and too many non serious ones to mention. the 70's and early 80's were still a bit into the free love era so you found them, fucked them and left them.

yroseoft said:

How were the 90s and 00s?

Cinnie said:

full of talk about AIDS and such...besides serious relationship from 90-2006

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