prb said:

I still hope it was just because she was angry..but that gives no sense, so I guess there must be something else..

zaza said:

give her a day or 2 to calm down (if she is angry about something) then try again.
if she doesnt answer, maybe you need to let her make the next move.

Good luck

prb said:

Oh my... I'm in no way able to think and give advice about such things right now as I'm so tired and sooo confused myself, so I just wanted to give you a and tell you to try to calm down and be patient

You're young zaza, so I know it hurts really badly at that age.


But in my opinion someone who breaks up with you without even trying to work thing out is yesterday's news. I mean, she didn't even try and resolve the issue. She simply broke up with you. I don't think it's worth salvaging.

thejason said:

Ditto on the above Za - It won't make any sense right now, which is why you're going to do whatever you feel you have to do.

Advice is useless most of the time, but for what it's worth, I'd try to take a deep breath and just do nothing. Wait for eveything inside and out to calm down a tad, and then take a good look around. You'll see everything for what it is.

Hey ZaZa..sorry to hear this mate. It's sad that it has to end this way.

Everyone will say it hurts so much at this age, but it hurts no matter what age you are.

The only advise I can give you is: give it time, and accept all the emotions you'll go through.

JustErin said:

Best relationship advice ever.

Genesia said:

Yep. I'll second that.

Thank you all for advice.. It looks like it will be ok. We need to take some time..I'll let you know.

This is going nowhere..

zaza said:

What part is going nowhere? Is she giving you the cold shoulder? Won't talk? What's up?

Poiple said:

I slept only two-three hours..then when she WASN'T WAITING for me, I waited for her..she was trying to be arrogant, I told her why I sent that message to that man, she was angry, I cried, I told her my poem, I cried, ..., I cried, ..., I cried, I slipped on the floor, she laughed..then it was alright. She said she has to think about it, but maybe in week she will be with me again.. But my friend told me Jane told her (damn, this post is full of TOLD ) she said that to me because she didn't want to hurt me that much in a short time..

This is my final statement for her: She would FORGIVE me and give me another chance or ..story continues tomorrow..

Again, I'm sorry this post is a little bit confusing..

zaza, it's definitely time to KICK IT TO THE CURB. In the meantime, here's Fat Albert (smile, my friend).

Poiple said:

If she really loves me..maybe I'll get another chance. But I doubt about it.

So not only does she not love you, she doesn't want to be with you at all.

Time to find another girl.

JustErin said:

That will be hard..I want girl who doesn't smoke, drink etc.

zaza said:

So you'd rather stay with a girl that doesn't drink or smoke or want you...?

Whether you'll get back together or not you can at least learn from the experience. Like the old saying: "If it doesn't kill you, it can only make you stronger". Experience is key here, because even if she breaks up with you for good you can use what you learned from that experience when you hook up with some other girl. Plus the fact that you're still quite young.

For comparison, I'm 27 years old and I've never even HAD a girlfriend, therefore lacking important experience compared to my peers when I'll hopefully eventually hook up with some girl.

JustErin said:

I think Jane wants me..but she's weird sometimes. Very stiff-necked.. Well, I don't case that much about it..if she would be with me again - fine. If not - another experience..but it hurts

purplehippieonthe1 said:

Awww But you're right, I told her to give it another chance, because it was just some stupid mistake I made..and I know I won't do that again.

zaza said:

It sounds like Jane is trying to help you, but dont make the mistake of rebounding with her because you are hurting.
i know its easy for all of us to say but there are plenty more in the sea, give yourself time
the right one is out there for you...

Im not understanding your whole stance on the drinking and smoking thing... I get the smoking cuz it stinks and all but just because a girl has partied and drank doesnt mean shes a raging alcholic fluzey...

Most girls your age drink cuz theres nothing else to do but party and thats usually where all the guys are... So you really shouldnt make that a requirement high on your list unless its a problem for that person... I mean by all means go after what you want, but you are really narrowing down your playing field...

I partied alot when I was single, but after I met my husband I didnt want to anymore... I wanted to spend my time with him and not be out partying...

IDK, thats just my opinion...

I hope things work out for you!

zaza said:

TheVoid doesnt smoke or drink.

BlackAdder7 said:

JustErin said:

Preach, woman!

She sent me this yesterday evening:

"Jan, I accept your apologise, but give me some time. I'll stay at home this week, we will see on Tuesday. Until Tuesday I need some time to think about things, it's not because of that message, it's because of that weekend at my parents too. I was under pressure..that's why I need some time to think about that."

"So will you let me know on Tuesday? Do I have any chance to be with you again?"

"Definitely, there's chance..Don't be sad, go to bed. I need to think about it."

BlackAdder7 said:

Poiple said:

OH!!!! I'm such a spaz.

I always read that as Fatal Bert.

florescent said: