zaza said:

Did she tell you why shes pissed? I think she took the easy way out zaza... Sounds like she gets scared when relationships start heating up and is reaching for any excuse to break it off... And it doesnt have ANYTHING to do with you at all! I think her mom may be right, she seems to do this alot... I was kinda like her until I met my husband, I was terrified of a serious relationship and sex! YES PEOPLE I SAID I WAS SCARED OF SEX... So see, its not you honey, its her... and its not her in a bad way, shes just scared of things even tho she will never admit it....

tinaz said:

Exactly! Hell, if there wasn't her mother, I wouldn't even visit her parents! She (her mother) told me Jane is very shy in these kind of things.. Something happened and I doubt it was JUST that message to that inky-winky.

I replied to her: "If you care for this relationship, you will be there tomorrow.." YES or NO. I wish it was YES..

zaza said:

You think her dad may have said something?

tinaz said:

Her sister told me that everything was alright..

zaza said:

She got scared...

awww zaza just let her be you can do much better I would have been concerned to and probably done the same thing as you.. either let her cool down and talk it out or get your butt back out there and werk that!! i know this probably doesnt help but your young and you still have that time for fun so enjoy life!!

zaza said:

puleez zaza. she's thriving on the drama now because it gives her power over you. you DO NOT need this girl in your life. you wouldn't treat her the way she's treating you.
tell you have a new life mate named...Dan.

After reading all this I actually find myself glad that Zaza came here for advice...

The Org can be such a magical place at times...



and I second TheJason on his advice...

Ok, so I slept for 3 hours now..and when I woke up, I thought for a minute it was just some weird dream..but it wasn't

lol @ BA7
for Kevin and insatiable

It's 4:12am and I can't sleep..it looks like that message was just the "final drop in the glass of water"..it has to be something else, maybe she's scared of being in a serious relationship..I don't know..I just want to see her and talk to her..that's all I can do right now..

zaza said:

Dude, "serious" relationships come after age 23-25 for now enjoy yourself, she's a virgin yousaid? Man, they're skittish... hard to figure out cuz some want to wait and others want to get busy...

RenHoek said:

She was with me because I was special, I was the only one who didn't care about her (beautiful) body at the first place..hell, even on Friday and Saturday was everything alright..

RenHoek said:

Or maybe she's just not that into him. Not trying to be rude here but she's young, maybe she doesn't know how else to tell him...

Not saying it's that, but I'd move on and find a girl that wants to be with you totally.

zaza said:

like I said... skittish...

sorry man...

JustErin said:

Good point, but she was still all into me on Saturday..that's why I'm so shocked, it just came suddenly..

RenHoek said:

JustErin said:

and there's that too...

again, Zaza... there's lot's of good fish in the sea and, personally, I can't recommend getting tied down in a "serious" relationship at a young age. The same situation applies to her... Dude, I know it's hard, BELIEVE ME when I say I know...

Erin's kinda nailed it, at your age and in your place in life I'd try to find a girl that's on your junk like glue... you'll have the time of your life!!

RenHoek said:

She was like that.. We were just like two pieces of jigsaw coming together..that's why I'm so sad.

zaza said:

Here is a piece of advice that is priceless.

When people show you who they really are, believe it. Don't get caught up in how they were, or how you thought they were, or how you wish they would be. It's who they are NOW.

Regardless of her reasons, she's acting like and saying she wants out. If you do care as much as you say you do, let her get out and move on.

JustErin said:

That's not easy right now..At first I have to talk with her..I need to know REAL reasons behind this charade, because I know it's not just because of that message, that's bullshit.

zaza said:

I happen to agree, answers are warranted... but beware, if it sounds like crap... you know the rest I'm sure...

zaza said:

Hell, I know it's not easy, but part of growing up is knowing that you're not always going to get the answers you're looking for.

And speaking from experience, in the end knowing won't change a damn thing.

But hope you get what you need to help you move on a bit easier.

RenHoek said:

I know the rest..I'm not that dumb Thanks Kevin I'm glad you orgers are so helpful at times..

JustErin said:

You're probably right at some points.. Thank you Erin.

Still I can't fall asleep again..and I'm going to the uni at 8:10am, that's about three hours..I'm tired, confused and my head looks like the battle of Endor

Breaking up is HARD and this was probably not easy for her.
Both of you are young and inexperienced, this is new for both of you.
I am sure she doesn't want to hurt you but maybe she doesn't want to be serious with anyone right now.

Time will heal you, you'll see. You must let her alone, please respect her wishes.. if you ever had any respect for her, its the least you can do. Its a matter of principal on your part, and in time it'll preserve your dignity in her eyes.

It sounds like you were smitten with her, and it does hurt, but this is part of growing up.... try to spend your time staying positive with real friends who will support you healing with out her, and in time you'll be better and wiser for it.

paintedlady said:

zaza said:

During my toughest break-up I listened to lots of break-up-kiss-my-ass music and feel-good-because-I-can-get-past-this music.
It actually helped me... use tools to heal you, do what ever takes your mind off her, talk to a friend, that will listen to your banter to get you over the hump.

Stay away from drinking, it doesn't help and go running or hit a gym if you have to. It relieves stress.

Sometimes... just curling up in a soft warm bed and letting a few tears flow is OK too. Night-time is always the hardest during break-ups.

paintedlady said:

I don't drink You're right.

The worst thing is that with every relationship you're giving away little piece of yourself..this might sounds very selfish, but I don't want to "lose myself". I already did and I thought the next time will be better..

not worth it if she breaks up with u on facebook

missmad said:

You're right..and she didn't even told me, I just went to see her profile and it was there..

zaza said:

thats cruel