I have a girlfriend..I was at her parents house for the first time this weekend..they're great, but it was somehow strange..today, she totally ignored me..messages, whatever..then she added to her friendlist on facebook one man who wants to fuck her (she didn't want to). I called her about it and she told me it's just because of her friend.. I sent him a message in which I stated to not write her any messages like "I want you to come to my house.." like he did before.. And whe she heard about that, she's got totally upset and she broke up with me ON FUCKING FACEBOOK! I want to talk about it with her tomorrow.. I don't know what shall I do..It's crazy.. Help me..what shall I do?
[Edited 4/1/10 4:49am]

I'm sorry for my English, but I'm nervous right now..

move on. Leave her alone.

She broke up with you on Facebook?!? Sorry, but she didn't love you to start with. If she did, she wouldn't have done it on f'in Facebook. Move on, zaza, move on.

Poiple said:

I think it's just because she's angry..
[Edited 3/29/10 10:06am]

zaza said:

Maybe so, probably so. But even so, she shouldn't break up with you on such a public forum as Facebook. That's inexcusible no matter how you look at it.

maybe let her calm down a little for a few days and see what happens?

zaza said:

Regardless of her anger, she lacks respect for you an seems to be immature. Move on, find a person who will respect you enough to talk about things that bother them face to face instead of taking passive aggressive measures.

I think zaza wants to protect his friend, not his girlfriend or ex, from an internet predator

kimrachell said:

I hope so..it was strange during that weekend. Her parents are great, but I wasn't allowed to talk with her in the front of her dad..so when she was a little bit weird today, I thought it's because of that.. But when I called her today, she said to me it's ok..but then when I sent that message to that fucker, it went wrong way..

I would just leave her alone... why keep bugging her? Why try to talk now? She broke up with you and you need to move on, if you don't then she will accuse you of stalking or bugging her.

I know it hurts but you need to move on. In time, maybe sooner than you think, you'll meet another who is worth your time. Take this time to reflect and learn, later if she comes to you THEN you can talk to her because she WILL want to talk then. Right now... she doesn't want to talk or have anything to do with you it seems, so just let her alone.

PANDURITO said:

Zaza is not her father.

paintedlady said:

But she broke up with me just because of that one message..She's going to talk about it with me tomorrow..but I don't know how to save this relationship..

zaza said:

When he wrote her messages about coming to see him before, did she? Why did he want her to come see him? Would she really do that while dating you if she knew he was after only one thing? If she did visit him while dating you, did you suspect something may have happened between them? If you can answer "yes" to any of these, you didn't need her anyway.

Poiple said:

He wanted to sleep with her even when he found out she's my girlfriend.. I trust her, I just send him "Hi, as Jane's boyfriend I'd like to ask you to not write her such a messages like "come to my house" etc. I know you're clever, so I guess this wouldn't be any problem ". That motherfucker laughed into my face..

zaza said:

Do you think she would act on or accept his invitations? You say you trust her, but it sounds as if you have doubts whether she would be faithful to you. If she would be faithful to you, then she shouldn't be upset that you sent him a note asking him to leave her alone. You could explain to her that you know his past actions and motives, and you were trying to keep her from a potentially very bad situation, especially since you are/were her boyfriend.
[Edited 3/29/10 10:28am]

Poiple said:

No, she didn't..that's why it's all strange. Great advice, by the way..thank you!

zaza said:

Sorry, you quickly replied before my edit above, but I'm not sure it would have changed your response! Good luck to you, my friend, on this one.

Other dude seems sleezy and she seems to want to accept his invitation, I would move on and leave her alone. She doesn't seem to want what you want. Her abrupt break-up with you was her out to go ahead and do what is in her heart to do.

move on.

paintedlady said:

I think something must happened that weekend..I wasn't allowed to talk with her! This is crazy..

zaza said:

I have a gut feeling that she isn't being completely honest with you... her breaking things off send a strong message.
I am sorry you had the rug pulled from under you like that, but use this as a learning experience and allow yourself the time to heal.

If it were me... I wouldn't want anything to do with her. I would just move on and meet someone worth my time and efforts. But that's just me, you do what you need to do.

zaza, you're young and I know that this is confusing and shitty for you...but move on...seriously...easier said than done, I know...but just do it...save yourself the drama and hassle that I think would come with this girl if you continued any type of relationship with her...

paintedlady said:

It was everything alright until this weekend..Maybe it's because of her parents, who knows.. It's everything pretty fast and I can't believe my eyes..I hope she will meet with me tomorrow..It's not clever to finish these kind of things when you are angry..I'll see tomorrow..I love her, but this is strange..it was all sudden..

thejason said:

It's pretty confusing, you're right..

Leave her alone move on and upwards ~ millions of fish in the ocean

Mach said:

But this is wonderful fish..she's great. Clever, beautiful, she told me how good I'm, when I told her last week I don't care about her virginity and I don't want to sleep with her more than 6 months, she was really happy..and now this

Oh zaza

sometimes love is so confusing and frustrating! I have to agree with the others here tho... She seems kind of immature to do this on FB, not to mention the silly reason for it...

The whole incident with her parents was just kind of weird anyway... I dont think you want to be with a girl who is so bullied by her family that you cant even speak to her in front of her father... WTH is up with that anyway??

Go ahead and talk to her to understand what is going on, but dont try and make her be your girlfriend again, you deserve sooooo much better than that! I dont want to bad mouth her because I know you said you loved her but I also agree that there would be too much drama and a real mature relationship doesnt really have that... Real love should be free flowing and easy, not constant worrying and fighting...

tinaz said:

Thank you, honey I'll see tomorrow..

zaza said:

I understand and wish you the best


I'm past that I guess and in my mid 40's and have zero interest or tolerence for the games of love

* You can't talk to her at her parents' house!?!
* She gets pissy on you for telling some jerk to give your relationship space!?!
* She breaks up with you... on friggin' Facebook!?!



My little brother: bid this chick a hearty goodbye and thank you She's doing you a favor by removing ridiculous complications from your life. Some more compatible -- and far more mature -- girl is out there wanting you. You better go get her.