Pee in the soundhole!
Pee in the soundhole!!

Then the last 4 months,My advice to feel better sooner? Delete his phone number from your phone, remove him from facebook. Tell your friends not to tell you if they see him. Don't see him, don't go to places he goes. Go to the gym, or eat healthy, take your pain and hurt out on that, and it'll make you feel better about yourself.

Oh and my number 1 rule? Say YES to everything.....

What happened today has a history of happening to me. This isn't the first time I've been treated this way. I honestly don't know if it's because of me or if it's because of the sort of person I attract. It feels horrible though.

Okay...the song I was listening to earlier today....
Brandy....Brokenhearted

"I am only brokenhearted. Life's not over. I can start again."

And it is so true. Get your cry on, and then let go, and live your life!


(and yes I know it's easier said than done....but I've been there a few times and I wish I had let go a long time ago and saved myself worse heartache than the initial heartache.)

If I was a pettier person, I would be inclined to post links to his myspace music page and non-private Facebook page and request all of you to bombard him with hate and/or really annoying spam.

But, no.

no advice, luv, but to say that I've been there.
It feels like it's never going to pass, but it always does.
Go from sad to angry as fast as you can. Once at anger, you'll
move on to indifference in no time.
ok, I guess that was advice, but it's certainly not good advice.

Hang in there.

It's shit, it hurts and there's nothing that anyone can do or say to make it any better.

Being practical (cos guys are better at solutions in this situations, while girls are great for sypmathy and 'there. there'), I've found that it takes half the time that you were seeing someone to fully get over them.

Say you were seeing someone for 2 years, you feel absolutely shit for 4 months, thinking 'why me', depressed, miserable.
The next 4 months, is a little bit better. Not a lot, you still think about them every day, but not stewing on things all the time. You also might go a bit bitter now, and use your anger. All that 'I don't give a shit' Attitude, when clearly you still do. This is a great time for rebound sex. It's inevitable at some point, youre definately not gonna have a relationship with him, so shag him senseless and enjoy it!

Then the last 4 months, you think about him less and less. You start to not care too much. Every now and again, you get a reminded, but you go a bit meloncholy about the whole thing, and you realse it's time to start moving on.

I've been in a few relationships that have ended badly, and it's always stood true for me, when I've been hurt.

My advice to feel better sooner? Delete his phone number from your phone, remove him from facebook. Tell your friends not to tell you if they see him. Don't see him, don't go to places he goes. Go to the gym, or eat healthy, take your pain and hurt out on that, and it'll make you feel better about yourself.

Don't wallow in self pity, even though it's so easy to do.

Oh and my number 1 rule? Say YES to everything. If someone asks you out, invites you somewhere, asks if you want to go shopping, whatever... Say yes to it. Even if you really can't be arsed and so don't want to go... Never say no, always yes. It helps so much. Speeds the healing process...

Hope this is of some use. Oh and just so you know, my last relationship ended really badly, took a year to get over her, but 3 months after that, I'm SO happy and partnered up with the best person ever. I really can't see what I saw in her anymore.

Time heals, and you can speed things along by doing the above.

I don't really want to get into it here though.

Please help?

sammij said:

I hope so.

It's just so hard not to take it personally. Like I said, this exact scenario has played out with several different people. I want to know who I pissed off in a former life to have this broken record of complete inconsideration keep playing over and over. Did I do this to someone?

meow85 said:

Pumpkin, you ARE pretty. Um... EXTREMELY pretty actually, like (don't get mad at me for saying this but) L Word pretty... fuggidabout him. He clearly don't know nothin about cute

meow85 said:

well if you can't physically do it - writing out what you'd like to have done is quite cathartic!

and while you mention that the intent wasn't to hurt you (but that they were clearly not considering your heart) - be certain that karma will put everything in it's place

Ottensen said:

Ummm, chica? She said "pettier" not "prettier"

You are 110% correct tho!

Nikademus said:

Chile, I'm old, need glasses, and was distracted by my own crap when I read her post this morning Anyjoo, let's continue to harp on how pretty Meow is and that she will indeed get over douchefu...I mean, that boy

Nikademus said:

Chile, I'm old, need glasses, and was distracted by my own crap when I read her post this morning Anyjoo, let's continue to harp on how pretty Meow is and that she will indeed get over douchefu...I mean, that boy

Ottensen said:

I nearly got on my soap box too

Ottensen said:

I nearly got on my soap box too

how are you feeling love?

sammij said:

Getting better, thank you.

sammij said:

Getting better, thank you.

meow85 said:

Good
If I was a few provinces closer I definitely would've been there to hug you real-time-style.