I want to throw a discus directly into his drumset.

meow85 said:

Kill it with fire!

Nikademus said:

I have the urge to quietly slip into his home with a pair of wire cutters and snip the strings on his guitar.

I just want to break something I know he loves.
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meow85 said:

or just stab the fuck out of it

sammij said:

Kicking it down the stairs would be really satisfying.

meow85 said:

Pee on his guitar strings! And don't tell him you did!

meow85 said:

well if you can't physically do it - writing out what you'd like to have done is quite cathartic!

and while you mention that the intent wasn't to hurt you (but that they were clearly not considering your heart) - be certain that karma will put everything in it's place

Nikademus said:

Pee in the soundhole!
Pee in the soundhole!!

Nikademus said:

After a hearty meal of asparagus!

meow85 said:

ol' boy must've done you HELLA wrong!!

men...

sammij said:

I hope so.

It's just so hard not to take it personally. Like I said, this exact scenario has played out with several different people. I want to know who I pissed off in a former life to have this broken record of complete inconsideration keep playing over and over. Did I do this to someone?

sammij said:

That oughtta make it sound lovely.

RenHoek said:

He did.

I'd say I've given up on men and was going to date women exclusively from now on but I already know the ladies can be just as bad.

I would never intentionally damage personal property or sabotage someone's life, no matter how mad I am -and I AM. But I've stopped crying for now, and now I am in vengeance mode.



I would like to trash the shit out of all his instruments. Just completely fucking destroy them. He loves music and he's a talented musician. I'd like to take that away from him, even temporarily.

I want to steal his cat. Inconsiderate people do not deserve kitties.

I want to tell his boss he was drunk at work last Monday just to see if he gets fired.

I want to tell him that not only has he hurt me, but I want him to know that he completely and totally broke his best friend's heart without even realizing it. This guy and he are very close, an unbeknownst to him his best friend had been head over heels for him forever. I want to make him feel like shit for that, too.

Going through the motions and experiencing them fully has got to be the best thing to do for your heart
I strongly endorse it


As for it being a repeat scenario in your life - I've definitely asked myself the same questions recently...
And I think it has a lot to do with the quote in Ivy's sig - once you put someone up on a pedestal - or even up above YOU as top priority, knowing or at least assuming that you are nothing more than an option/blip/afterthought to them - that's when you've officially placed yourself on the chopping block.

It's when you forget about you - that's when you're the most vulnerable...
So try to move forward by putting your best interests first - above everyone and everything else.

Eventually you'll know the difference for when that's needed and when your focus can be shifted onto someone else.

Just make sure they're worth it.

meow85 said:

I know this feeling well. Sometimes it is easier to take someone being an out right asshole, than to have done something to hurt you without even considering how you would feel!

I hate feeling like someone I care very much for, doesn't think twice about me.


Try to focus your energy on other things and create some distance between you and your mate for now, so you can think with a clear head.

ya i feel like going down to where he works and that but it ain't worth it

lol
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it's very much like grieving but I would suggest accepting the bad feelings and take it in with the good ones, balance them both out and they will heal in time

Been there, thrown shit out the second story window.

All I can say is....

haha ya these are good quotes
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So.. a drummer, eh?

You can never trust a drummer, which is why I've always preferred to use these.

love is as delicate as a summer rose, however rains and rainbows determine how brilliant the color will be. "wait on the rainbow."

i feel you are beautiful, because it takes courage to open your heart and let people step inside to send you their love. i truly respect you for that

If I was a pettier person, I would be inclined to post links to his myspace music page and non-private Facebook page and request all of you to bombard him with hate and/or really annoying spam.

But, no.

meow, even if you get the urge, whether you do it or not, don't feel guilty for your bad feelings, you have a right to be pissed with whatever it was. Strong love can also equal strong hate sometimes, I learned that in the past year and am still struggling

alphastreet said:

I know I do, but thanks.

If anything, that has helped me through the day. I know for sure in this instance I don't bear any of the responsibility for what happened, so I don't need to beat myself up over it.

awwwww hun...I know how you feel

Hey! I just noticed you have a birthday in a week! Here's to hoping that you will have a great weekend celebrating that milestone! Party in spite of...

Whenever I'm going thru something ugly, my friend Ann always says, "Boys Suck!" and we both start giggling.

Feel better hon!

It hurts terribly, I just hope you will feel better soon .

It's shit, it hurts and there's nothing that anyone can do or say to make it any better.

Being practical (cos guys are better at solutions in this situations, while girls are great for sypmathy and 'there. there'), I've found that it takes half the time that you were seeing someone to fully get over them.

Say you were seeing someone for 2 years, you feel absolutely shit for 4 months, thinking 'why me', depressed, miserable.
The next 4 months, is a little bit better. Not a lot, you still think about them every day, but not stewing on things all the time. You also might go a bit bitter now, and use your anger. All that 'I don't give a shit' Attitude, when clearly you still do. This is a great time for rebound sex. It's inevitable at some point, youre definately not gonna have a relationship with him, so shag him senseless and enjoy it!

Then the last 4 months, you think about him less and less. You start to not care too much. Every now and again, you get a reminded, but you go a bit meloncholy about the whole thing, and you realse it's time to start moving on.

I've been in a few relationships that have ended badly, and it's always stood true for me, when I've been hurt.

My advice to feel better sooner? Delete his phone number from your phone, remove him from facebook. Tell your friends not to tell you if they see him. Don't see him, don't go to places he goes. Go to the gym, or eat healthy, take your pain and hurt out on that, and it'll make you feel better about yourself.

Don't wallow in self pity, even though it's so easy to do.

Oh and my number 1 rule? Say YES to everything. If someone asks you out, invites you somewhere, asks if you want to go shopping, whatever... Say yes to it. Even if you really can't be arsed and so don't want to go... Never say no, always yes. It helps so much. Speeds the healing process...

Hope this is of some use. Oh and just so you know, my last relationship ended really badly, took a year to get over her, but 3 months after that, I'm SO happy and partnered up with the best person ever. I really can't see what I saw in her anymore.

Time heals, and you can speed things along by doing the above.

Im sorry Meow