CarrieMpls said:

Seriously? You really don't respect them because they don't believe what you believe?

I've tried to be with people who have different beliefs than I do, but they haven't lasted. I'll try to understand other points of view, as long as they are willing to hear me out and respect that we are different. I can't stand when someone thinks his way is the only way and puts me down for my opinions/views.

nyse said:

all those things?!?

no chance

how about this one:

you believe in saving and they believe in spending
(that usually NEVER works)

Cinnie said:

I think there must be an element of acceptance, an "I see why you think that" what would you call that, tolerance? but I think you could kill each other trying to convince the other you are right and they are wrong

lazycrockett said:

James and Mary are, fundamentally, the same kind of people - which gives them a pretty good understanding of each other. (I actually worked with Mary back in the day, when she was Lee Atwater's chief of staff.) They're both wicked smart, highly driven people, who are united in one very important thing - their devotion to family.

I believe I could be in a long term relationship with someone who believes the exact opposite...which means they would NOT believe they could be in a long term relationship with someone who believes the exact opposite. Which means it would not work. But now that I no longer believe it could work...maybe it could.

Pretty tricky question.

'Could you be in a long term relationship with someone who believes the exact opposite?'


Yes.

It's seems some take a you're with me or against me stance. I don't understand this way of thinking; just because someone doesn't share your point of view doesn't make them less worthy of respect.

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Most of those would be deal breakers for me. I don't care much about my partner's eating habits though.

Those exsamples i gave do not actualy apply to my train of thought...
they are just food for thought...

It looks like the org is on the fence when it comes to this subject.
I need some more imput from you girls/guys.

I'd be able to see past all of it except the 'child rearing' stuff. (I think that term is so lame)

Unless ofcourse all your kids are already grown

nyse said:

It's very possible to see past those things. There are couples who do that all the time.




I could never, in a million years, do it. How I could be in a long term relationship with someone I thought was stupid (and you would have to be stupid to vote on issues differently than me, let's face it.), I don't know.

chocolate1 said:

Not when it comes to certain things, like homophobia, racism, misogyny, etc. I have no respect for beliefs like that.

CarrieMpls said:

Oh, thanks. When I first read it, I thought
But that makes sense.

CarrieMpls said:

Member when I first started posting here n we got into a huge debate bout my brothers tshirt?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Yes. Weren't you mad that he wore some tshirt over to your house?

I'm already in one, and very happy at that

Our differences are what balance this relationship,,,,I truly think I'd be in hell had I met my "male match", and he'd enudre a monotones life had he met his
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Yes. I was having a party at my house n I asked him before hand to please not where any of his satanic garb n he wore sum shirt about worshipping the devil or something.

Ohhhh brother.

My husband eats meat and I don't. I love seafood, and he gags at the thought of it.

I'm ridiculously optimistic and he sees the worst case scenario in everything.

I think there is good in everyone and everyone can be saved. He believes people mostly suck and can't be changed.

We're opposites in some ways, and perfectly matched in others. It makes our relationship fun, interesting and awesome.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

That man is fit for the pit

PunkMistress said:

Seafood is meat.

Dave1992 said:

Yeah, yeah, I know.

I also taste meat after I cook it for others to check the seasoning, so I don't call myself a vegetarian or anything.

PunkMistress said:

Those are the kind of opposites that compliment each other. That kinda stuff can work out wonderfully. And clearly it has.

The exact opposite? Of course not, that wouldn't make sense...though I like healthy arguments as much as anyone...
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CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, I think it would be much different if we had opposite views on child rearing, for example.

We definitely have our differences on that (we had a whole family discussion the other night w/ the kids about our different views on piercings/tattoos while they live in our home), but for the most part we are in line as far as expectations, discipline and love for our kids.

Our religious/spiritual views can be very opposite at times, but it helps that we're both fairly agnostic. Neither of us is ideologically cemented to one view or another. It leads to some cool conversations.