Tainted said:

OMG she sayin all that on the view???

tinaz said:

Naw, back in her comedy days she did an entire skit on her sex life with her hubby. She was pretty graphic.

I personally think there's MORE to it than what she gave out.

Because I simply don't believe the broad.

noimageatall said:

E.X.A.C.T.L.Y. If that's her thing then fine, I don't have nothing to do with it, but why take the relationship into the institution of marriage where clearly he is committing adultry, whether it's okay with her or not??? I don't get it. If you want an open marriage then why get married? Just stay best friends living together in a committed relationship and let him screw around on you all he wants to. But if he pulls a Matthew Knowles and gets kids outside the marriage or brings home an STD to her, would he still get a pass from her then??? Just saying.
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missfee said:

Thats why the whole thing smells like bullshit to me.

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Graycap23 said:

"'Deluded' ain't just a river in Egypt."

This happens more than you think, especially in long term marriages. For some it's the lying not the act itself that's damaging to the marriage or relationship, I tend to agree. To each it's own.



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Graycap23 said:

i can't open the link, is s/he with charlie sheen or brooke mueller?

TD3 said:

OR maybe Monique is just "beard" like somebody mentioned in another forum.

Oh, for fuck's sake, you guys.

Did y'all grow up in a convent? Plenty of happy and secure relationships DO NOT include monogamy. Sexual fauthfulness is a good idea for some people, and not such a good idea for others. Quit acting like one dick/one pussy is the only healthy option.

meow85 said:

I mean that's all and dandy, but in my definition of a MARRIAGE, that DOES mean monogamy in the eyes of GOD. So if she wanted it OPEN then she shouldn't have gotten married. That is my point. And yes in my eyes, only one dick/pussy IS THE HEALTHIEST OPTION, because it ELIMINATES the kids outside of the marriage and the STD's. Maybe YOU don't mind that kind of stuff, but I do. Mind you, I couldn't give a damn what she does with her life....but when it comes down to marriage, I take it seriously.
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Harlepolis said:

I ain't heard none of this: 'Enquiring' minds want to know'.


Ruby Davis gave an interview not long after Ossie Davis passed to Essence. She had spoken of a period of time where they had mutually agreed to have an 'open marriage'. Their thoughts were, both were going to meet (during the course of work) other people and be sexually attracted to them. I don't think Ruby said who long they had an open relationship but she said, Ossie was the one who suggest they stop. I think many people are shocked Monique would be so blunt/honest about it, most people fear being judged.


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If that's her thing, more power to her. I would never marry a man and knowingly let him cheat on me. I would rather into a friends with benefits thing and we each go out and do our thing separately.

Can I ask what the big hangup is for you guys with the hairy leg thing? I don't shave my legs. Does that supposedly say something about a woman?

missfee said:

In YOUR eyes, is the part that you're missing.

Plenty of people do not see things from the same perspective as you do. Monogamy is not a prerequisite for everyone to take their relationship "seriously". Plenty of people who are far more serious about their relationship with their partner than the general public are non-monogamous.
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Vendetta1 said:

If both partners are aware of the non-monogamy and okay with the situation, how is it cheating? By definition wouldn't the honesty and openness negate any claim that the behaviour is cheating?

It means you're an unwomanly, ugly beast whose man will cheat on you, and a reprehensible human being. Clearly. Just ask some of the fine folk of the Org.
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meow85 said:

Let me be clearer, I would not enter into a marriage where anyone felt the need to fuck other people. I'm not a huge fan or believer in monogamy but If I were to ever marry, I'd never give my okay for my husband to fuck other people.

And the other part:

Vendetta1 said:

Fair enough. Everyone's got their own comfort zone when it comes to relationships and IMO whatever that zone is it's better to set rules or boundaries with honesty rather than sneaking around behind your spouse's back.

In theory I fully support honest non-monogamy but in practice so much would hinge on circumstantial and personal points that, at best, it might be more trouble than it's worth.
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TD3 said:

Shit, most of these celebrity-types are freaks.

uPtoWnNY said:

Most people anywhere are freaks.

Tainted said:

that was a diffrent Hubby, The Husband your referring to name is Mark and she divorced him in 2001, she's only been married to Sidney since 2006
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uPtoWnNY said:

Ummm, but come on... she just lost between 40-60 lbs. this year, Uptown...and the public backlash she received (from those in the black community for selling out against black women's natural meatiness) is where the real joke lies.

I'm not into the Magilla Gorilla look on her legs, but health wise I think she's handling her weight loss approach correctly (slowly but surely). 40+ lbs ain't nothing to sneeze at.

banks said:

Exactly. That was the one who took all her money in the divorce (hrough alimony) and inspired her stand up "I Could Have Been Your Cell Mate"

meow85 said:

Umm yeah I do KNOW that there maybe people who have different opinions than me, that is why I continously said in my statement "I", you know...as in MY OPINION, FOR MYSELF????, duh. At the same time THERE ARE PLENTY of people who DO agree with me, that REAL serious relationships require monogamy between both partners. I rarely come encounter with people who say that "people who are far more serious about their relationship with their partner than the general public are non-monogamous", that's just crazy TO ME. So u saying that most "serious" relationships don't require any kind of commitment? So real relationships involve partners sleeping with other people and the significant other accepts it? Listen, if you require that, then go right ahead, have all the STD's and kids you want, I don't really care how you live your life, but I'm not going to accept my husband sleeping with other women, PERIOD. So just respect the fact THAT I DO HAVE AN OPINION. You DON'T, I repeat, DO NOT have to agree with me just like I DON'T have to agree with you. Thank you and have a nice day.
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Vendetta1 said:

Exactly.
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Monique is giving 60's style code all over this Baba Waba special.

I watched the interview tonight. I took what she said to mean, "I don't fuck around, but my husband - who is a best friend that I've known for years - does" and I totally took it as he has sex with men.

As for the whole open marriage idea, that's the only kind of marriage I would be in.

meow85 said:

Plenty of people also believe that marriage has NOTHING to do with God.

Marriage to many is simply a partnership in love, in which to support and provide for each other and sometimes raise children together. Going outside of a marriage for sex doesn't mean that they love the person they are married to any less because to many - myself included, love and sex have nothing to do with each other.

In my opinion, an open marriage is the most honest, healthy type of marriage.

JustErin said:

I hope you're not trying to paint the authencity of all marriages out there with one broad brush stroke.

Regardless of what your spiritual beliefs are, how can you say this if you've never even been married?

I suppose it might be what's right for you, but many of us don't feel that way at all. I support anyone's right to have any type of marriage that floats their boat, but for me, monogamy works best and is as healthy and honest and authentic as any other relationship out there. Just sayin', Sistah.

JustErin said:

That's what I took from the interview,too:




I guess with this people can stop speculating, because she pretty much laid it all out there on the table.