Vendetta1 said:

I understand the need.... but damn, I wish we didn't have to pump our daughters with these drugs so soon.

It terrifies me that my daughter may not want to use condoms if she is on the pill/shots.

I guess I will have my daughter on the pill at 14 too.

paintedlady said:

The only thing I can do is tell her that, if she is going to have sex, she should make sure the boy uses a condom because pregnancy is not her only worry. I would have never thought I would even have to do this now but the girl will barely keep her room clean. She definitely won't care for a child.

Vendetta1 said:

That's great that you are so honest with your daughter.... I know she now sees your wisdom and has avoided much grief because of it. You rock! I hope to be the same with my girl.

ZombieKitten said:

Our oldest daughter's Biounitmom took her and put her on BC before she was ready too ~ it was really hard on Rhianna

paintedlady said:

I had this conversation recently about a niece of mine...when she was 13 I mentioned the pill to her mom...mom was like OH NO, she is sooo not even close to having sex. I mentioned it again at 14...same thing. This niece talks to me pretty well, I was pretty sure she was not having sex, but knew she was getting close and was probably the last of her friends who hadn't. At 15, I told my niece I would take her if she wanted me to...she was like YES! Feeling like I better not make mom mad I asked her if she would like me to take her and she said yes, to my surprise. It was like she didn't want to or couldn't deal with her little girl having sex so she jumped at the chance for me to do it.
I had this convo with my husband too...he did NOT think it was a good idea, he was concerned about STDs. I spoke with my niece about all that, she seemed very aware of the importance of a condom. My thoughts were, she will use a condom, but she will soon enough get a steady bf and that condom is going to cease to be used. (not right but truth) That's when she will get pregnant. And...she has a steady bf now of 6 months, I am so glad she's on the pill

So as I understand the concern for hormones at such a young age, all I can say is do your research on different methods and hormone levels in each.

Mach said:

What is that? I never heard that term b4. I'm curious how this goes down? did she not tell your daughter what was going to happen? Did she tell her I don't care if you don't want to? I mean I am obviously on the side of putting young girls on the pill...but if the girl doesn't want to...then it's a no. Ultimately it's HER choice. (IMO)

Shorty said:

Biological (unit) Mom ~ it's a family term/joke

Not really sure how it went down - I was not there nor asked or involved

Rhianna was 14-15 ... I am not sure a shy child who wants nothing but to please her "Mom" who left her, has the ability/mentality to say no and mean it or stand behind it

It was not the pill- it was a under the skin implant

I'm not a fan of putting young girls on the pill UNLESS the young girl is having sex and desires to be put on it

in Rhianna's case it was not just about that ... her mother was using the child as a pawn

Mach said:

Ohh! I see.
I personally wouldn't wait till after she starts having sex, that first of fist couple times might just do the trick....but hey..that's just me
That's very sad about Rhianna's situation. I hope she's ok despite all that.

BklynBabe said:

Give him each talk, then. Then either way he's prepared.

Mach said:

I had the good luck of having a nurse for a mother, but not everyone does. Good on you for making the effort to educate your kids properly about sex. Too many still don't.

ZombieKitten said:

That had to have been awkward.

Shorty said:

When I was younger I had a friend who got pregnant her first time. Scared me right off the idea of not using protection.

meow85 said:

Thanx

All of ours are over 18 now ...

meow85 said:

I got pregnant 2 times, both while on BC

Mach said:

I'm the result of a double protection failure. My mom was on the Pill AND my parents were using condoms and I still showed up.

Evidently, women in my family are magically fertile. I always double up with hormonal methods and condoms. I want kids eventually, but good gravy -not today!

meow85 said:

That is exactly how Joshua came about too

meow85 said:

I refused to go. I went myself when I was ready later.

Mach said:

ThreadCula said:

It's a scary thought, eh?

meow85 said:

Part of the reason I got "fixed" right after having Jessica

if the pill didn't cover me ... we already had 4 - no need for more

Awwwww shit.....just the thought.....shit...I gotta leave this thread.....

I have a 13 yr old girl and a 15 year old boy. I've talked to them until they are on the edge of their comfort zone.....so far nobody is looking in that early intimacy direction, it hasn't been a trend in our family, so far they are both still late bloomers. My girl is thankfully still completely grossed out by the topic to the point of near vomit.

My boy...lets just say that as I talked to him about Sex, I told him the truth, we blushed, laughed and I made sure that I showed him some medical photos so he is not delusional about the stuff that can happen. Nobody wants their kid to go in this direction, but if they do, you dont want them to be stupid.

I am not for putting a girl on chemical BC. She too can learn about condoms.

I plan to bring up the subject again and again (you know...a shorter version so its not awkward when the moment arrives). Its not a one time conversation

and as long as they are young enough to need to ask me if its okay.....it will NOT be okay
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For me, I took my son to the doctor at 14 and gave him a vasectomy, and told him when he's old enough and has the money, he can reverse it! JUST KIDDING! I have a 15 year old young man and a young lady who just turned 11 a few weeks ago. For my son, we have talked about it, and I have encouraged him to be open and not be afraid to ask questions. I have, however, made it clear my opinion that I think he should wait until he is older. Both my husband and I have been honest to a point about our past experiences, but we have been together now for 20 years, and I think that nowadays, that seems to be more rare. Don't get me wrong, everyday is certainly not a bed of roses, but my kids get to see how a couple in love "should" be and see how a family should be, and hopefully that translates into good character/morals. (Please understand this is my opinion, I certainly believe 100% that single parents can do this just as well, I just think this an advantage of long term couples, in a healthy relationship, mind you ) My son is a good guy and is sometimes shy, but I always try my best to gear the conversation to his level, that way he can open up, and I let him know he is free to ask questions or come to me without fear of being yelled at or talked down to. He knows I am nosy, but I give him room to do what he needs to do, I let him know that I trust him, and it's up to him to keep my trust. So far, I believe this has worked out, and he is waiting, my God I would hope that he doesn't do anything at 15! My daughter on the other hand I think is too young still for any serious conversations of that nature, but she is aware of it, we have talked in general.