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PrintableThis is a HUGE issue for me psychologically. I have a serious focus problem and when there is alot of clutter around I can't figure out what to do first. My house can get disgusting but it's not due to not wanting to let go of stuff it's due to having important pictures, papers mixed in with unimportant stuff a nd then when I start going through it I get distracted. Add to that that my 8 year old daughter wants to save everything and our studio apartment is tiny and you can see I have a fight on my hands. I actually take meds for it. I finally found someone who really listened to me and she diagnosed me with ADD. It has helped but it is still a fight.
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Vendetta1 said: The music that I own and my guitar make me very, very happy.
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I looked at this and said, "A Kid? I'd hope you wouldn't consider it a material possession"  I need some caffeine...
Raised by a someone who grew up during the depression (or maybe her mom was) where everything can be reused and nothing goes to waste, I hate it. I find now that I'm married to someone like this and keeping that reality show "Horders" on the television helps. While it's an extreme, it's real, I've lived it. We donate to Salvation Army once every other month to keep it under control. | |
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Deadflow3r said: This is a HUGE issue for me psychologically. I have a serious focus problem and when there is alot of clutter around I can't figure out what to do first. My house can get disgusting but it's not due to not wanting to let go of stuff it's due to having important pictures, papers mixed in with unimportant stuff a nd then when I start going through it I get distracted. Add to that that my 8 year old daughter wants to save everything and our studio apartment is tiny and you can see I have a fight on my hands. I actually take meds for it. I finally found someone who really listened to me and she diagnosed me with ADD. It has helped but it is still a fight.
Sounds like there's definitely some OCD in your makeup. Set aside a certain amount of time every day (e.g. 30 mins.) to go through these piles with no distractions. If you absolutely must keep something, digitize it. Make this a habit (when something comes into your possession that you want to keep, immediately scan it and put it into its proper folder on your computer; discard the original). Back up your PC every day. Explain to your daughter that she should only hang to things that are absolutely essential (you must break her of this habit). In reality, few things in life are irreplaceable and few things need to be replaced. Uncluttering your home will help unclutter your mind and you'll have that "bare" space that will aid in easing your anxiety. [Edited 2/3/10 11:16am] | |
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I'd be sad without it.   ACRYLIC
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Ace said: Deadflow3r said: This is a HUGE issue for me psychologically. I have a serious focus problem and when there is alot of clutter around I can't figure out what to do first. My house can get disgusting but it's not due to not wanting to let go of stuff it's due to having important pictures, papers mixed in with unimportant stuff a nd then when I start going through it I get distracted. Add to that that my 8 year old daughter wants to save everything and our studio apartment is tiny and you can see I have a fight on my hands. I actually take meds for it. I finally found someone who really listened to me and she diagnosed me with ADD. It has helped but it is still a fight.
Sounds like there's definitely some OCD in your makeup. Set aside a certain amount of time every day (e.g. 30 mins.) to go through these piles with no distractions. If you absolutely must keep something, digitize it. Make this a habit (when something comes into your possession that you want to keep, immediately scan it and put it into its proper folder on your computer; discard the original). Back up your PC every day. Explain to your daughter that she should only hang to things that are absolutely essential (you must break her of this habit). In reality, few things in life are irreplaceable and few things need to be replaced. Uncluttering your home will help unclutter your mind and you'll have that "bare" space that will aid in easing your anxiety. my hoarder friend's problem is that she believes amongst the piles of garbage/paper/stuff in her apartment, there are important papers. Except of course should she need them one day, she has no hope in hell of wading through it all to find it. 
she gets extremely anxious if I pick up anything in there. she is raising a 2 year old in the middle of it  | |
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I got rid of a lot of things when I moved into a small apartment. For years I'd noticed that I didn't miss the things I got rid of, so I stepped up the effort during the last year.
I finally got to the point where I was basically aware of each possession, and finally I had a single regret for something I got rid of. So I figure I got down to one possession too few My Legacy
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NDRU said: I got rid of a lot of things when I moved into a small apartment. For years I'd noticed that I didn't miss the things I got rid of, so I stepped up the effort during the last year.
I finally got to the point where I was basically aware of each possession, and finally I had a single regret for something I got rid of. So I figure I got down to one possession too few I threw away all my robot boxes a few weeks ago, and yesterday I regretted throwing away this one, which I could have hung up on my wall
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ZombieKitten said: NDRU said: I got rid of a lot of things when I moved into a small apartment. For years I'd noticed that I didn't miss the things I got rid of, so I stepped up the effort during the last year.
I finally got to the point where I was basically aware of each possession, and finally I had a single regret for something I got rid of. So I figure I got down to one possession too few I threw away all my robot boxes a few weeks ago, and yesterday I regretted throwing away this one, which I could have hung up on my wall
although now I look at it again, I think the typography on it is awful I can't even read it!My Legacy
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NDRU said: I can't even read it!never mind my regret!  | |
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Slave2daGroove said: Vendetta1 said: The music that I own and my guitar make me very, very happy.
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ZombieKitten said: Ace said: Sounds like there's definitely some OCD in your makeup. Set aside a certain amount of time every day (e.g. 30 mins.) to go through these piles with no distractions. If you absolutely must keep something, digitize it. Make this a habit (when something comes into your possession that you want to keep, immediately scan it and put it into its proper folder on your computer; discard the original). Back up your PC every day. Explain to your daughter that she should only hang to things that are absolutely essential (you must break her of this habit). In reality, few things in life are irreplaceable and few things need to be replaced. Uncluttering your home will help unclutter your mind and you'll have that "bare" space that will aid in easing your anxiety. my hoarder friend's problem is that she believes amongst the piles of garbage/paper/stuff in her apartment, there are important papers. Except of course should she need them one day, she has no hope in hell of wading through it all to find it.
she gets extremely anxious if I pick up anything in there. she is raising a 2 year old in the middle of it Could she be my cousin? I have 5th cousins living in Australia. When My grandfather imigrated here from Ireland, his brother Michael O'Shea (I think he was a Michael) went to Australia instead. Tell your friend someone feels her pain. Oh, as of now I do not have a computer at home. Seriously thinking of making it a must-have for this reason. Also paying bills on-line and canceling magazine subscriptions would help alot. I am on disability because I am BiPolar aswell. I am trying very hard to get my act together. Sometimes when I seek help people talk to me as if I am stupid. I do not have a stupid brain, just a crazy one. [Edited 2/4/10 6:45am] There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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Deadflow3r said: ZombieKitten said: my hoarder friend's problem is that she believes amongst the piles of garbage/paper/stuff in her apartment, there are important papers. Except of course should she need them one day, she has no hope in hell of wading through it all to find it.
she gets extremely anxious if I pick up anything in there. she is raising a 2 year old in the middle of it Could she be my cousin? I have 5th cousins living in Australia. When My grandfather imigrated here from Ireland, his brother Michael O'Shea (I think he was a Michael) went to Australia instead. Tell your friend someone feels her pain. Oh, as of now I do not have a computer at home. Seriously thinking of making it a must-have for this reason. Also paying bills on-line and canceling magazine subscriptions would help alot. I am on disability because I am BiPolar aswell. I am trying very hard to get my act together. Sometimes when I seek help people talk to me as if I am stupid. I do not have a stupid brain, just a crazy one.
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