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PrintableTheVoid said: funkylust said: Has anyone got any advice for me?
I have had a nearly 2 year break from my partner and things were getting rough at the end there and we broke it off but left the door open to try again later when the time is right. Well the time is right now, and we are both excited to give it another shot. I am excited but also nervous. I don't want to fall into the same habits as before, I want it to be a truly new start. Has anyone been through this? Any tips or stories? [Edited 1/19/10 20:21pm] oh lawd, Imma give my two cents on this shit. One of my exes and I broke up and got back together several times. And always, you fall back into your same old patterns eventually. I never worked. I finally left feeling like a failure. One of my other exes after that fell back into his old patterns of douchbaggery, and it fell apart from there. I wish I was just brave enough to open my eyes and see what was happening, because in the end, it was expensive and a complete waste of both our times. People seem to have patterns they fall back into before they finally get it right, if they ever do. Unless something remarkable changed in your life, or you've matured to the point of obvious and dramatic changes....IN ADDITION TO dramatic changes in the circumstances that came between you, it'll fail. One thing I've learned. Innocence is lost. You'd be a fool to completely trust the person again. Yep, it's all about the patterns. | |
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I'm in this situation now and although it was difficult at first it's wonderful now. Both of us were at fault and both of us had problems which we tried to work out individually and now are working them out together.
If you haven't seen the full truth of why it didn't work out before and know exactly what to do do make sure it doesn't happen again then don't do it. If you have faith and confidence that the two of you can do it and also have it in you to get over new problems together, then do it. I don't regret it at all....you never know until you try. "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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TheVoid said: funkylust said: Has anyone got any advice for me?
I have had a nearly 2 year break from my partner and things were getting rough at the end there and we broke it off but left the door open to try again later when the time is right. Well the time is right now, and we are both excited to give it another shot. I am excited but also nervous. I don't want to fall into the same habits as before, I want it to be a truly new start. Has anyone been through this? Any tips or stories? [Edited 1/19/10 20:21pm] oh lawd, Imma give my two cents on this shit. One of my exes and I broke up and got back together several times. And always, you fall back into your same old patterns eventually. I never worked. I finally left feeling like a failure. One of my other exes after that fell back into his old patterns of douchbaggery, and it fell apart from there. I wish I was just brave enough to open my eyes and see what was happening, because in the end, it was expensive and a complete waste of both our times. People seem to have patterns they fall back into before they finally get it right, if they ever do. Unless something remarkable changed in your life, or you've matured to the point of obvious and dramatic changes....IN ADDITION TO dramatic changes in the circumstances that came between you, it'll fail. One thing I've learned. Innocence is lost. You'd be a fool to completely trust the person again. I still hold out hope that you'll re-boo me.  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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connorhawke said: I'm in this situation now and although it was difficult at first it's wonderful now. Both of us were at fault and both of us had problems which we tried to work out individually and now are working them out together.
If you haven't seen the full truth of why it didn't work out before and know exactly what to do do make sure it doesn't happen again then don't do it. If you have faith and confidence that the two of you can do it and also have it in you to get over new problems together, then do it. I don't regret it at all....you never know until you try. 
The problems of the past or old habits will come up and kick you in the teeth from time to time. You have to be very conscious of not falling into those old habits or having those old reactions. That said, can it be done? My husband and I are proof. Is it easy? Hell no. At times it feels damn near impossible. Only you know if it's worth it. Best of luck to you! | |
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