Having trouble deciding between possible love with one man and some damn (I mean damn) good sex with another.

The possible love, is great in all other areas, but the sex is so so. However, there is potential there for something great and sex can always get better when you get comfortable enough to ask/tell someone how to please you.

The damn good sex, well - i don't sleep around much, but i'm not exactly an amatuer, and this man is really gifted. It's not likely that true or even a lasting relationship will develop because outside of the bedroom, not much of a connection.

How do you leave some damn good sex like that? How do you walk away from possible love? How do you decide!!!???

Don't judge me either, i practice safe sex and have not talked about "exclusive relationship" with either.


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Go with the love... always go with the love. And if the sex is so-so, teach them.

Go with the love... when you fall for someone, things that seemed mediocre before become spectacular. You look at him/her like and forget the flaws...

If you can realize that outside the bed, nothing's happening, it will only turn to resentment.

I'd just go grab a burger or something...

you about 4 hoes short of a Tiger Woods special.....

you slacker!

I think all peeps should gimme me love and sex as a priority.

Love, love, love.

thejason said:

Not judging you but....

If he grows to love you... do you think you can love him in return? What is it about the guy that you think you can learn to love? Why are you pursuing a relationship with this person? Is it security? Are you ready to get married, have children? What are the reasons you think this guy is the one?

Don't answer here, just a few things to think about in your pursuit of happiness, IF that is the goal.

If love is the priority then why crave another? I don't think another man would be an issue if you did actually had deep feelings for the the first guy...no matter how great the sex was.

There's your answer... I'd get my fuck on... great sex never got boring for me.


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Again... I will emphasize, there's no need to answer those personal questions in a public forum... just a few rhetorical questions for you to ponder on.

It does bring up a good question as to why women choose the men they are with, why women call it "love", and why women try to love men.

I don't have any answers, just follow your heart.
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If the 'Love" is possible then keep the good sex because at least you're certain about that!

It is possible to have both, you know. With the same person, even.
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go with love You can teach him what you want done and how you like it. Also the passion is best if there is love.

After some thought I had to come back and say....

Is there a ring on your finger? No? Well, then there's no need to decide, you are in your perfect rights to keep both. Save devotion for a man that proposes to you.

Until then... have fun and stay healthy!

I say get rid of both- if you're really looking for a serious relationship sleeping around is just distracting (this is just in my experience though, might not be true for you), and I'd never be able to truly fall in love with someone I didn't have stellar sexual chemistry with, as bad as that sounds It'd be like settling, which I'd never wanna do.

I'm gonna be a contrarian and say go for the hot sex. Rock that boat for as long as you can.

Love is overrated. Love will mess you up worse than anything. Love oughtta come with a warning label. And when you're in love, you have to do all kinds of degrading stuff, like put up with his stupid friends and family and go see movies that are just plain awful. Love'll make you sit through Transformers 2. Good sex will put a bounce in your step, a smile on your face, and make you look 10 years younger. Best of all, good sex goes home and lets you sleep nice and comfy in your bed, all relaxed and peaced out.

Efan said:

Alej said:

Cinnie said:

The Beatles

Alej said:

That's how I read your reply.

AND WHAT U GOT AGAINST DA BEATLEZZ

Cinnie said:

Nothing against them, I just don't like their music

Alej said:

:sacreligous:

You answered your own question - you dont have much of a connection with Mr Goodsex . Mr Truelove wins

I know if I was in this situation I would be trying my damndest to FIND a connection.

BlackAdder7 said:

"possible" love isn't exactly bankable either. you just might find out he hates the beatles.

if you have doubts, just stick with sex for now

Cinnie said:

!!!

Efan said:

that was a genius reply and i would love to agree with it. right now i think i do

Cinnie said:

or that U2 is his favorite band!