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Alej said: I don't think I'm attractive at all, but if I were attractive, I probably wouldn't be as shy and paranoid
yeah, same here. although at the same time, i wouldn't want to change anything about myself either. whatever you look like, there will always be people who go "ewww, what the hell is that?" and at the same time there will be people who go "hmmm, i'll have some of that". it's all so relative. and true love lives on lollipops and crisps | |
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IDontBelieveYouHeardMe said: It depends....
Not trying to blow my own trumpet or anything, but to hell with false modesty. I am what might be described as "above average" (or so I am often told); however, no matter how many people tell me I'm handsome/hot/fit...or whatever, and despite knowing this is objectively true, I still find faults in myself. I'm probably just a perfectionist. But on the whole, I have a lot of confidence in the way I look. Surprisingly, getting hooked up with the opposite sex is not necessarily as easy as people would imagine. This is, I think, because (again, I've been told this quite a few times by women), women often assume nice looking guys must already be "taken", or, so some women have told me, they are prefer (or are willing) to settle for someone they don't think will always be on the lookout for someone prettier than they are (ie: their own insecurities coming into play). Career-wise - I don't think it would help a great deal, simply because my work depends almost exclusively on intellect. Nevertheless, entry is very competitive, so I don't discount the possibility that I got my foot in the door becuase, in part, I made some sort of an impression based on looks. I've just re-read the above, and it all seems a bit conceited. Ah, what the hell! I love honesty.  | |
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IstenSzek said: Alej said: I don't think I'm attractive at all, but if I were attractive, I probably wouldn't be as shy and paranoid
yeah, same here. although at the same time, i wouldn't want to change anything about myself either. whatever you look like, there will always be people who go "ewww, what the hell is that?" and at the same time there will be people who go "hmmm, i'll have some of that". it's all so relative. Sure, but that's easy to say when you're as good looking a fellow as you. When the proportion of folks swings one way or the other there’s a marked difference in everything from whether or not someone holds a door open for you to whether or not you get a job. |
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i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives. To make a thief, make an owner; to create crime, create laws. | |
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I think if I were attractive, I would have gotten a job again by now and a girlfriend. | |
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Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
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Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
Sure, I agree...I guess some people peeked as a kid...most kids are pretty cute. | |
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rushing07 said: Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
Hahaha...exactly. | |
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Moderately more attractive? Sure. That sort of thing usually helps one establish a sympathetic, if unspoken, rapport with folk -- and that's an aid in most settings.
Drop-dead gorgeous? No. I suspect it'd be a distraction both to myself and to those with whom I'd work in what I'll likely be doing (part academic/part pastoral). And it could even be a full-on liability on the "churchy" end of things, as I'll probably be in contact with folk of very delicate emotional/spiritual needs. We've routinely seen that transference fed by physical attraction can be very destructive in that environment. [Edited 1/6/10 6:44am] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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would it really be of any benefit to you in your current life?
i don't think so. my insecurities mostly have to do with other annoying stuff than my looks (which i do dislike things about, just not to the level of losing sleep over them). | |
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I don't know. I sometimes think I'd just be DANGEROUS if I were a pretty girl. I get in plenty of trouble as an ugly chick, so I can't even imagine.
Professionally, though, I think it would be helpful. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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vivid said: zaza said: I know I'm not attractive. I have big shadows under the eyes, I'm tall, skinny.. But I know that if I was attractive, it wouldn't make me a better person. Maybe I'd have a lot of girlfriends etc., but for me is much more important to have a "clean soul".
Yeah, you are. And you study philosophy - it doesnt' get any hotter than that! Really?
I got my BA in phil, and thinking back to the grad students hanging out in the department office. . . um. . . no. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
>it is true even in only one day we can have several facial and corporal expressions... the body reflects the emotion of the soul | |
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JustErin said: Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
Sure, I agree...I guess some people peeked as a kid...most kids are pretty cute. Most, maybe but there's some ugly ass kids runnin around. | |
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ingamilo said: the body reflects the emotion of the soul
Stephen smells bullshit. | |
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johnart said: JustErin said: Sure, I agree...I guess some people peeked as a kid...most kids are pretty cute. Most, maybe but there's some ugly ass kids runnin around. But there are far more ugly adults than ugly kids. | |
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tackam said: vivid said: Yeah, you are. And you study philosophy - it doesnt' get any hotter than that! Really?
I got my BA in phil, and thinking back to the grad students hanging out in the department office. . . um. . . no. There is plenty of talent on my course, and that's before they open their mouths. I like 'em smart as well as strong. | |
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ZombieKitten said: would it really be of any benefit to you in your current life?
None at all and not something that comes to mind often either for me | |
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Cuddles said: i think everyone is attractive at different time periods/ages of their lives.
I'm not sure that is true. I knew lots of ugly children who grew up to be ugly teenagers and then ugly adults. True, some people are ugly ducklings who then turn into swans. And some people who are pretty average looking have a period in their 20s or 30s where they make the best of what they've got, but then they go downhill from their mid-30s onwards. Me - I was a very pretty child (mistaken for a girl all the time in fact). Then I was a bit of a buck-toothed ugly duckling during my early teens (I also got teased for my "rubber lips"), but then all of a sudden at the age of around 16 or so, things fell into shape. I've looked more or less the same since then (just with a bit less hair, unfortunately), and I still have pretty much the same physique I had when I was in my late teens. My mentality hasn't changed much either, and I still feel about 19 in my head. Frankly, I think I probably went straight from 'adolescence' to 'mid-life crisis' with no intervening period of adulthood. Susan - turn the guitar up a little bit.... | |
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JustErin said: johnart said: Most, maybe but there's some ugly ass kids runnin around. But there are far more ugly adults than ugly kids. That's because the cute kids haven't discovered alcohol, cigarettes and crack and that tooth decay causing heroine. Give them a few years. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: johnart said:  As self-proclaimed fairy godfather of Alej, I'd like to know your intentions.....and please have him home by 11:00.   |
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Who needs looks when ya got great boobs!! I got that covered!! I would like a bigger ass, however  "Bring friends, bring your children and bring foot spray 'cause it's gon' be funky." ~ Prince
A kiss on the lips, is betta than a knife in the back ~ Sheila E Darkness isn't the absence of light, it's the absence of U ~ Prince | |
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I think virtually all of us could be more attractive, and yes I think it might just benefit us.
A huge change from ugly duckling to swan might just come with some unexpected negative side effects, though. My Legacy
http://prince.org/msg/8/192731 | |
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NDRU said: I think virtually all of us could be more attractive, and yes I think it might just benefit us.
I know you're saying could, but I still disagree, I feel fine about me and yes there was a time when I didn't but now that I've learned I'd say I wouldn't change a thing. Any change would affect the quality of who I am in the first place, and then when you realize the outside is a reflection of the inside it all falls into place. If outer change is necessary to benefit in whatever field in life, i'd rather not live. Thus, I always believe in that I'm fine the way I was created. If that makes sense. | |
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Some may not feel that way about themselves or might find many features unattractive, I been there but feel so much better now. | |
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NMuzakNSoul said: NDRU said: I think virtually all of us could be more attractive, and yes I think it might just benefit us.
I know you're saying could, but I still disagree, I feel fine about me and yes there was a time when I didn't but now that I've learned I'd say I wouldn't change a thing. Any change would affect the quality of who I am in the first place, and then when you realize the outside is a reflection of the inside it all falls into place. If outer change is necessary to benefit in whatever field in life, i'd rather not live. Thus, I always believe in that I'm fine the way I was created. If that makes sense. it makes sense, but I think most of us could make a physical change as small as eating more salads or a mental change like smiling more often, and those things wouldn't affect us negatively. But on a bigger level, I agree with you. I don't think huge changes would necessarily be for the best in many people. It might change who you are, as you said. My Legacy
http://prince.org/msg/8/192731 | |
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ZombieKitten said: would it really be of any benefit to you in your current life?
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Alej said: I don't think I'm attractive at all, but if I were attractive, I probably wouldn't be as shy and paranoid
. [Edited 1/5/10 19:13pm] same here  unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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