If you're single - do you do it now? If you're married - have you ever?

A post on another thread made me think of this...

thesexofit said he hates when girls won’t ever ask a guy out.

Looking back, I don’t think I have ever asked a guy out on a date.

But I have often made the first move or been the one to stick my neck out and say “I like you”, even if in a roundabout kinda way.

Never did and never will....I think it's more romantic if they do it.

I've been asked out. I have a raincheck on a date pending right now.

If only though it could soon be someone I find really attractive and click with socially...

I'd take a girl much more seriously if they asked me out. I think the romantic cultural hoops (like guys pursuing the girl traditonally) are mostly disfunctional within the reality of a real long term relationship. They're mostly good for infatuations and short term fun or more superficial connections from what I see around me.

I really like going to concerts, so I have asked guys to join me.

One time, I was whining about the possibility of being rejected, and a male friend pointed out that they go thru that all the time. He even brought up how women who are with their friends have no problem dissing them...

I have been told by platonic male friends, tho, that being asked out by a woman can be seen as too aggressive...

I love being sought after - makes me feel all
But I find I'm usually the more aggressive of either party..

When I was single I did.

Don't know if I would now though.

Who am I kidding. I probably would. If he's tasty I'd ask.

CarrieMpls said:

Yes I have/did and I still do ... I I prefer it that way

my wife proposed to me... does that count?

As a man, I have been invited places, and have gotten comments that were basically like being hit on, but I don't think I have ever been asked out by a woman.

Okay, there is one time I can remember where an older woman introduced herself & gave me her card, that's it!

RenHoek said:

RenHoek said:

YES it does

I proposed to Michael too

Why asking out when there's so many other ways to express oneself

MarySharon said:

true, women often initiate relationships, they just don't seem to do the actual "asking out." They just make their feelings known.

I've never been on a proper date, is that what you mean? like asked a guy out on a date?

No, but then I've never been asked out either

ZombieKitten said:

well that's just insane! It must be one of those situations supermodels always describe of how guys never ask them out.

I think I said I'd ask you out if our lives were different, but they're not

NDRU said:

The problem is that I've never really been single

but had you asked me out, I would most definitely have said yes

ZombieKitten said:

So how did you & leo get together, you threw your room key onstage?

NDRU said:

no, my friend and I, and another random guy, accompanied him to a "party" after a gig

party in his pants

i asked my husband out on a date, and i think if i had never done that, we would of never married, because he was too shy to ask me! best thing i ever did in my life!
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ZombieKitten said:

I have probably asked you this, but did he ask you to marry him or did it just happen? Let me guess, he nonchalantly said "so you wanna get married, eh?

NDRU said:

he said "I reckon we get married in November" it wasn't even a question

Yes, I used to.

ZombieKitten said:

well it's better than my friend who called me to say "I knocked my bitch up and now I have to marry her" (his bitch was laughing in the background, at least )

ZombieKitten said:

that is the Australian version of romance, is it not?

NDRU said:

omg

I never expected to get married to be honest, I thought we'd buy a house, have a couple of kids and that's it!

whistle said:

neither of us are Australian, but we try

ZombieKitten said:

eh? the master is a foreigner too?

I have asked guys out. And I usually make the first move.

I go after what I want and I dont like wasting time.

My current boyfriend-I had to ask him to kiss me first. He said he would have waited for the 4th date to kiss me to avoid rejection. He wanted to make sure I really liked him.

I'd rather ask someone out and get everything out in the open. Because that person may want to ask me out but he's too chicken too.

ZombieKitten said:

I reckon you do!

whistle said: