Somebody please explain this: Is this classified as abused women?

I haven't posted in a long time but I have just seen something that won't leave my mind. It was disturbing.

I was headed to my car in the Mall Parking lot and I saw this woman aggressively verbally attacking her boyfriend. This was a big man. And she was just screaming at him and pushing him. She even dared him to hit her. It probably was her husband but they were young...not sure.

And I couldn't help but to wonder if this guy had snapped on her and knocked the crap out of her. I'm not saying that's the right thing to do. But I know a few guys you just can't approach like that.

My question is...I know this wouldn't be the normal abused woman scenario. But what if she had pushed this guy too far? She even cursed the police out for trying to stop her. She was calling him a punk....and all that stuff.

How do women look at this? I was just thinking that I bet this happens a lot. And sometimes I bet the woman gets jabbed in the chest or something.

Comments please...

p.s.
This is sort of explained quickly. I just don't have the privacy to say exactly what I want to....
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[Edited 11/9/09 12:26pm]

Oh boy....here we go.

JustErin said:

Why do you say that?

chocolate1 said:

Because of how threads like this have gone in the past.

JustErin said:

Oh, okay. Yeah.

But honestly- in a case like that, if she's "man enough" to keep goading him, then it sounds like she deserved to get knocked back a peg. Verbal abuse, hitting him, AND public humiliation... she went for the Triple Crown!
If he had put the Holy Smackdown on her, then everyone would be all over him...

But I wasn't there, so....

A man that can't handle himself without beating on a woman isn't a man.

If you got stuck with a crazy bitch, be smart enough to go get another one.

Mars23 said:

So it's okay for her to just beat on him?
I'm not saying he should beat her, but she had no right to hit him either. That's a double standard.
A man who hits a woman for no reason is not a man. A man who hits a "crazy bitch"- as you put it- is defending himself, IMO.


If I get mad enough to raise my hand to ANYbody- male or female- I need to remember if I swing, there is the real possibility I will get hit back.

chocolate1 said:

That all depends on how much hitting is going on. [b]If she slaps him a couple times and he beats the shit out of her, giving her bruises and such, that's not self defense. There's a difference between defending yourself from physical harm and defending your ego and severly injuring someone because you're mad they hit you.

But I do agree that anyone who raises their hand to someone should be expecting to be hit back.[/b]
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Mars23 said:

So it's okay for her to just beat on him?
I'm not saying he should beat her, but she had no right to hit him either. That's a double standard.
A man who hits a woman for no reason is not a man. A man who hits a "crazy bitch"- as you put it- is defending himself, IMO.


If I get mad enough to raise my hand to ANYbody- male or female- I need to remember if I swing, there is the real possibility I will get hit back.

chocolate1 said:

Why put words in my mouth?

Read what I said, then tell me where it reads that it is OK for a woman to beat on a man. To the contrary, I recommended getting a different woman. Perhaps you took that to mean it was OK for a woman to beat on a man.

At first glance, it sounds like an abused man. Men can be abused too you know.

she deserved to get knocked back a peg

I don't advocate violence, ever, but some people do seem to provoke it. Sounds like a woman that WILL get hit, even if hitting her is the wrong thing to do.

Mars23 said:

So it's okay for her to just beat on him?
I'm not saying he should beat her, but she had no right to hit him either. That's a double standard.
A man who hits a woman for no reason is not a man. A man who hits a "crazy bitch"- as you put it- is defending himself, IMO.


If I get mad enough to raise my hand to ANYbody- male or female- I need to remember if I swing, there is the real possibility I will get hit back.

Oh boy....here we go.

I'm not saying at all he should hit her but she was going the hell off. Now, I was wondering what if this dude was drunk as hell and just lost it.

I think what you were trying to say is... no one at the store said anything when she was yelling, but if he had been verbally abusive, someone would have stepped in.

I think people step in when they suspect an argument will escalate to a physical altercation, and strangers still have the general expectation that verbal abuse won't escalate to injury when it is a smaller woman vs a larger man, so no one steps in. No one expects it to get "worse".

Cinnie said:

Yup, that's what I was saying. She was very small too. I was just amazed at her attitude. Now, I do have a friend who takes verbal abuse from his wife to a high extent. But I bet it's nowhere near this.

I think what you were trying to say is... no one at the store said anything when she was yelling, but if he had been verbally abusive, someone would have stepped in.

I think people step in when they suspect an argument will escalate to a physical altercation, and strangers still have the general expectation that verbal abuse won't escalate to injury when it is a smaller woman vs a larger man, so no one steps in. No one expects it to get "worse".

AlienX2050 said:

do you also suspect she would not have dared do this in a place that's not so public? do you think she knows she can get away with it (possible it's a regular occurrence between these two?)

she probably just found out he cheated on her.

ZombieKitten said:

I assume when this type of thing happens in public that it must be a regular occurrence. My GF & I are way too private to argue in public, and we barely ever argue in private!