I got a 'promotion' at work that has turned into a nightmare. I can't get anyone to teach me the required skills I need to do what they're expecting of me because management is a fucking joke. I'm sending out resumes for a new jobs but haven't been hired anywhere else yet.

My personal life is a fucking mess.

I cry every fucking day. I want to give up.

Mock me now, because I'm stupid for feeling like this, I know.

evenstar3 said:

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Sorry bout that all

Its the real world welcome to it. This too shall pass.
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We all go through our own shitty times... remember yourself, and try your best.
Life may suck right now, but try to keep focused on the positive and push your way through. Take a deep breath, think about a solution and if someone gives you undeserved crap, then fukkem. Do something to decompress every night also, like a long bath, running, yoga, or writing in a journal or heck even prayer and meditation. Find a positive outlet, look for a solution, focus on that and take no prisoners if they get in your way.

I know how you feel. Hang in there girl, things never stay down for too long

Don't despair. Just keep thinking to yourself; "It's just a job". Seriously.

I went through a VERY stressful time with my last boss (before he sold the company). I was holding down the fort after his whole office quit on him (he was a dick) and I allowed the stress to get to me. Came to a point where I would wake up every morning and vomit in the toilet just thinking of all the shit I had to do in the office. I even lost some hair.

My wife helped me realize that it was just a paycheck, and that the world wasn't going to stop revolving if I missed a deadline or two. Especially since I was doing it for a paycheck and nothing else. She kept telling me; "one day he's going to sell his business and you'll have nothing to show for your work except an ulcer. Which is pretty much what happened (the selling part, not the ulcer).

Keep your chin up. And one word of advice; when you go on an interview, do NOT badmouth your current boss/company. Sell yourself as someone with alot to offer who isn't being challenged or has no room for growth. POSITIVE, never negative.

!!!!!

I'm there right now myself.

stick in it... 2 the end... my friend...
dont give up, don't cry...

Damn girl! I've never read you this down, seriously!!

What kind of skills are you needing to learn, maybe the all-knowing org can help...

Karmatornado's right, this too shall pass...

Don't give up! I know you are smart (art history majors are )-- you can figure out how to do what you need to for this new position. They wouldn't have given you a promotion if they didn't think you could do it. Don't let them get the best of you. And like Purple Jedi said, it's just a job. Like him, I had a job, with a terrible boss, that was making me physically ill. It's not worth it. Do the best you can, but realize the world is not going to end of you make a mistake, or miss a deadline.

Make sure to take a lunch break and a few "mental health" breaks. When things at my job get on my nerves, I go out and walk around the block or go window shopping for a bit to clear my head.

Don't have much advice for the personal life since I don't know the details; but here is a quote that I tell myself when I feel sad or depressed: "Be patient towards all that is unsolved in your heart." I believe everything happens for a reason, you may just have to be patient before it all makes sense.

Ugh....


Girl, I have been there, I think most of us have.
It sucks.

Sadly, when I was going through it, I was not as remarkably beautiful and as smart as you.

Do not give up, which I know you and that would not happen anyways.





Just a suckie patch and things will change for you.




Lots of love to you from both of us.

Sounds slightly familliar.

1. don't give up.
2. do make sure to take care of yourself healthwise.
3. spend a little extra time getting to know your new responsibilities, review files and see what/how your predecessor did--should help take the stress off you.
4. continue looking for a better job and consider doing something entirely different, if possible.
5. ignore the haters and be glad you're not them.
6. recognize that one day this experience will be a memory, only and he nightmare will disappear.
7. pray for strength and guidance everyday.

Good luck to you, I've been there too.

Been there.




Wait, you said "emo," not Nemo...

ThreadBare said:

efffin' priceless!

At least you're hot

My job was like that when I got promoted as a specialist for Jones of N.J. fashions. Just do the best that you can and watch what the other people in your field do. Eventually you'll catch on. If the oppurtunity does come to ask questions by all means do it! Congrats.
Never let em see you sweat.
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Don't give up. It'll get better.
I know the feeling. I can't stand my supervisor. It was so bad the kids hated her.
I put off my surgery for a year because I was afraid of not having my class when I came back.

Walk in there everyday with a smile on your face and do what U need to do... do some research to acquire the proper skills. If U feel like crying, do it at home- then go shopping! (That's what I do! )

Something better will come along- but times are too hard to quit without prospects.

Take care!

ThreadBare said:

Best.

Post.

Ever.




but it is very appropriate....just keep swimming...try and stick it out while you are looking for another job. You may finally get the training you need, or get a great new job that you would never hav looked for if you current employers did the right thing...and that would be their lose.

Things happen for a reason hun, im a firm believer of this.

evenstar3 said:

That's EXACTLY how my job is now. My mom keeps telling me to be glad that I have a job, but that isn't the issue, I'm glad I have a job but its all the disorganized bullshit that I have to go through everyday. My whole department is a joke. The managers aren't on the same page and there is one who is the most incompetent manager I have encountered in my whole career. And yes I've been sending out resumes and been on interviews since May and I'm still trying to get something else. I come into work everyday knowing that I don't belong there because I'm not a "yes" person, I don't turn a blind eye to bullshit and I've stated my concerns to mgmt. The result? Nothing. Nothing changed, they treated it just like I had said nothing, but yet they wonder why our employee turnover rate is sky high? It's rediculous. I get frustrated with the job search, but you have to keep looking. It's hard looking for a job during times like these, but its not IMPOSSIBLE to find one. In the meantime, I just keep thinking that its a paycheck and not my career job, so that keeps the stress off. I often talk with other professionals too who are in the career field of what I want to do, and their tips and guidance helps as well.

Just keep on applying, I'm sure you will find something sooner than you think.

As for your personal life, keep a positive mind. Bad times don't last always.

evenstar3 said:

Of course you're not stupid.

Remember - there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain

We could take this thread more seriously if you made it a picture thread....

At least you're wicked hot.

You could be miserable and ugly!

Seriously, though, sometimes life just fucking sucks. SUUUUUCKS!

And people telling you how tough and smart and beautiful you are (like I just did ), somehow just makes it even worse. Like you're not allowed to feel this way because you already have so much going for you.

Well, you're allowed. Let's go break stuff.

Hey! Are you a winner or a loser? Are you going to let the assholes win?!?

Of course not! You're a winner! I've never met you personally but I've read enough of your posts over the years to feel comfortable saying that.

You are better than them. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

PunkMistress said:

Exactly!

evenstar3 said:

I think for the most part, most people don't always love their job. There are postives and negatives with every job. I wouldn't quit this job until you have another one. You definitely have more negotiating power when it comes to salary, benefits, etc when you already have a job. Hang in there .