I require LOTS of alone time. I don't think I need more or less; my problem is the time I spend alone just needs to be far more productive.

I spend so much time alone right now that even more time alone would not be beneficial in any way I think. I'm taking steps to be more social--even spent this past weekend with two friends in Jersey City. I would never have done that a few years ago.

People get on my nerves...alone time is what I prefer...
cause I can act as strange as I want 2 and won't raise no eyebrows

I spend a ton of time alone and it still doesn't always feel like enough. People exhaust me. A lot of times, when I feel like I need social interaction, I'll go out and walk through the city, or go out dancing or whatever, and not talk to anybody the whole time. Just being around people is plenty. When I do go out with friends, I'm prone to disappearing.

Sometimes I fantasize about going a year without hearing the sound of my own voice.

Depends on the line of work I'm in and how involved I have been at the university, but in general I wouldn't prefer to spend more than 2-3 evenings a week with other people. In fact, there have been periods when I haven't spoken to anyone in weeks (I think the record would be about 4 weeks in 2000 or so). I just need to spend a whole lot of time alone in order to make music, to write and to read - if I'll read approx. 6000-7000 pages of theoretical literature per year and it takes approx. an hour for me to read 20 pages, so obviously that's going to take a lot of time. I like to take long walks too, like 4-5 hours long and just think about stuff. My romantical relationships have all been very short in overall.

That's not to say that I wouldn't like my friends (I've had great ones), or that I would be a rather social individual when I am surrouned by people. And That's not to say either that I wouldn't want to have a family (& pretty soon too for that matter). Things will probably have to change in that regard.

GO AWAY.
Naaah come back

Imago said:

meat

Right now I have a really good balance between alone time, boyfriend time, and friends time. Life is pretty friggin' sweet right now.

I really enjoy being alone, probably because I'm the only child so I'm used to it. Sometimes people just annoy me. Most of the time, I really just need my music and I'm good- no human interaction necessary.

johnart said:

Yes! Do not just drop by and expect me to go do something with you! hate it!

I don't need either.
I need to make better use of time spent alone & make better use of time spent with people.

thekidsgirl said:

I will fly on the 20th ! He was so happy when I told him .

sextonseven said:

You'd better be social when you are here with me .

Serious said:

I will be if you don't decide to suddenly move to another country by then.

sextonseven said:

If I'd decide that then you'd have go to another family reunion and stay a little longer .

Serious said:

yayyy! The 20th is right around the corner!

thekidsgirl said:

It is ! I can't wait to see him again . He wanted me to come earlier as he wants to see me as soon as possible, but I have loads of things to do before I go, so I chose the 20th .

I crave alone time. But, after a while I miss social interaction so I guess it's about even.

Are you the type of person that craves company or solitude? "Crave" ? Not overly so but I do desrie both in balanced doses ~ so I create that for myself

Does being with other people drain you or energise you? Again, both can happen and when I get the "drained" situation, I look a bit deeper into the why of that so that I can adjust the when and wheres

Do you feel the need to be alone to be able to recharge? Yes, I enjoy alone quiet time to rechange and relax so I make sure I do that for myself when I need to


quiet edit
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ZombieKitten said:

>at this time ZombiZombie,I need to be with God (Deus) and with Nettterumani
>and sleep

a(deus)...in English, good-bye

[Edited 8/31/09 16:29pm]

sextonseven said:

MORE

I've been married for 18 years, so obviously I've felt lonely a lot. I think I've grown used to it because I've realized recently that I really prefer being alone.

I don't really like doing things with other people. I don't like company coming over. I can't stand chatting on the phone. I just really prefer being alone or at the very least with just my husband and kids.

johnart said:

:boffit:

evenstar3 said:

dustysgirl said:

that is my experience too
not alone, but lonely
more so now than when I was single
I also have got so used to it it's become my normal state and I now prefer it

novabrkr said:

You sound so dreamy. I love the term, romantical relationships.
[Edited 8/31/09 19:41pm]

I dunno. I try to strike a balance. It's all about the homeostasis.

ZombieKitten said:

thought u needed one kid ...and a grab a cold one(if u drink)

CalhounSq said:

Exactly. My alone time is carefully planned and I guard it like a hawk.

My work is all about tending to the needs of family and patients (Love my Job), Guide and train our exceptional volunteers, greet and meet outside contributers, special guests/celebrities... you name it. I do all this with a very positive upbeat step. But it can get a little overwhelming, due to how much I give of myself... I am very attentive to most people I interact with, including my family (my aunt and uncle who I tend to on many of my days off), which gives me one day (on a weekend) maybe all to myself... if I am lucky, maybe two-three times a month.

So when I get a day, all to myself... heaven permit, certain people better be sure it is an emergency for the call or unannounced visit (which I don't get these too often unless it is my sister, and she knows better now)

As for the relationship I am in... I seriously love his company, but his schedule is even crazier than mine, way...

I have yet to tire of his presence (I have known him for years), which is a beautiful thing really.

However, I feel my work is my social time, it holds a great amount of inspiration each day for me, it get's overwhelming emotionally sometimes due to the stress of the family or patients or workload (which I take in and feel immensely). But coming home to silence, calm and peace... refuels me to some degree to give again the next day.

I don't feel I would give at the same degree if I had the care of children or more constant family waiting when I get home, I would definitely have to conserve more for a immediate family (such as my own child) if that time ever comes. I know this.

Ps~ I don't like clubbing, or big crowds for the most part. If I choose to be around people I usually make sure they are of positive mind, good energy and I can learn something of good interest from them. That sounds so snotty, but it is true.

nyse said:

I would, but I shouldn't