ThreadBare said:

After that scene I needed a cigarette and I don't even smoke!

Wow.
If he's willing to sign over the kids in return for no financial responsibility that's very telling of his character.

Hugs to you and the kids!

KidaDynamite said:

she owned many a heart, after that scene.

I'm president of the Tennessee chapter of the "I hate Courtney B. Vance" club.

This is what i want but I'm so scared I wouldn't know where to start or where to go. I know my family won't support me (and we're not talking financially). I'm at the Trapped stage and looking forward to your "I'm Free" stage.
Good Luck with every thing!

ThreadBare said:

Aww!

Don't hate 'cause the man has game.

KidaDynamite said:

If he really had game, he would've gotten her to get that Storm role. but that's OK. I'm not bitter.

ThreadBare said:

She would'a made a kick-ass Storm!

chocolatehandles said:

It's hard u have to be completly ready for it tho n it takes time to get to that point.

ThreadBare said:

She auditioned for Storm?

KidaDynamite said:

Not that I know of. That role would've been perfect for her, though.

ThreadBare said:

Oh.

I agree.

The thread title is hot. I just wanna say I agree with it often.

SELF-LOVE MAN!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Yes it does. You have to realise that it really doesn't matter what the world around you thinks of you. In the end it's about you and your happiness.

Friends, family, colleagues, the neighbours; they'll all have something to say about it. Everyone will know best. But fuck that. If you're in a bad relationship you need to get out. You need to be ready to accept the shit you'll be going through though.

It will be hard, you'll get lonely, desperate sometimes even, wanting him or her back. But always remember WHAT is is/was that made you unhappy. It can be really liberating and a huge relief eventually. Once you get to that stage you will also find the courage and energy to take on whatever lies ahead and deal with all the stuff that now makes you feel like you just want to disappear into thin air.

I’m going through something similar, although for completely different reasons. I wish you a clear head!

I congratulate you for liberating yourself! You'll be just fine. :hugs:








However, I can't but ask if you got to keep your stage name, Tina.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Good for you Danni
He will regret this one time
You are a great mother and a strong woman

Don't sign away the money/property! That's a foolish mistake! There is no guarantee it will change his behavior! There is a way of getting him to lay off and getting that security for your children.

Has your lawyer advised you to do this?!

Ace said:

That is wat I'm being told by other people irl. That u can't enforce ones behavior, notarized, court orders, whatever....which I'm already experiencing....court orders don't mean SHIT, their as worthless as the paper they come on.

The lawyer? My retainer ran out and I can't pay a lawyer anymore.

I agree totally with ACE - think about it danni - there is a reason his name is ACE and not ACEHOLE .... his key point is - DONT SELL YOURSELF SHORT CUS IT WILL NOT CHANGE HIS BEHAVIOR ...

TotalANXiousNESS said:

WHATEVER YOU DO: DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING WITHOUT A LAWYER!!!

Dani, signing this is gonna fuck you. Trust me!

Ace said:

How do I make this bullshit w the kids stop? He's fucking w their heads so bad....every time we switch the kids off he pulls these crazy ass stunts, I mean if I posted sum of the shit u's would die. My 4 and 6 yr old got a ride home from daddy's in the back of a police car last time they had a visit.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Dammit...

PunkMistress said:

exactly...

I am a single mom who left my "fiance" with our one month child and never (almost) looked back. Moved from LA (the state) to MA and was glad to be free of the drug infested deadbeat but I also did not find the support I thought I would.
Is it even possible to sign over responsibility for your own kids? If this man ever comes into money I'd want your kids to have a big chunk of it. Also if you end up so bad that you need to file for any type of financial assistance you may need to give up the daddy's info.
How nutty is this guy? Are you afraid that he will physically harm any of you? I want the guy to pay for his own kids but I have heard horror stories of what nutty men will do when they have visitation. In my city alone a father beat his son to death on FATHER'S DAY just this past year. He just got visitation rights too. He told the mother that he wanted to be more than just a paycheck to his son, he wanted to spend quality time with the little guy. Beat the boy to death.
If I had known the mother before she sent her son to be with the father for father's day I'd have probably told her that it was great that her son would get to know the dad. My point I guess is that It's difficult to know what is the RIGHT thing to do from the outside.
My only advice, does your area have "attorney of the day" at your local courthouse? Use them. Use every avenue of free advice and look for more. Cover your tush!!!!

If he agreed to that shit then you know you made the right decision. Dayum shame somebody can be so uncaring and slimy. Only good things will come to you and your kids now. Out with the negative...in with the positive.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

oh no! that's truly sad! i hope this will all work out for your kids sake...

Thanx guys for all your advice and support.

It's actually really hard to come by.

LET

THIS

WOMAN

BE

FREE



AND THE KIDS TOO!



Baby, you can DO THIS. You can have a life of your own. Everyone knows it, you should too.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Oh my



By the way...best thread title, ever!

pplrain said:

Yes, but if it really doesn't work it's better to get divorced than to be two miserable parents. I am a perfectly fine adult and haven't suffered one bit from not constantly having both parents around. I still have both of them in my life

i get the feeling this dude either has or will have kids with another woman. crappy ass guys like that never seem to bag it. maybe bill maher was right when he said "marriage and kids is their thing" meaning us women.

i digress.


carry on.