I imagine a lot of these women are married to men they would not have chosen for themselves. UGH.

ZombieKitten said:

Imagine the age differences as well, some as young as I am are married to men as old as 70 or more.

sammij said:

or even younger

sammij said:

I know that its about control and cultural differences. It was just an subjective statement, the way I would feel if I had to sleep with someone for money, including my own husband. He shouldn't deny her anything, including money and food, regardless. Get to the root of the problem, and find out why she's denying him sex, that's all.

angel345 said:

And I suspect, in this instance, one of the reasons why they deny their husbands sex is because their husbands abuse and beat them...

sammij said:

Those women got it bad in the Middle East. Like you said, it's not fair, but all I can say who said life is fair. Sad for them

angel345 said:

But putting it that way just seems like the best thing to do is just to turn away and let it be.
And I don't think that should happen...

sammij said:

he's denying her as a person...no attention, lies, deceit on the flip side, lavishing whoever when he's about twn. doesn't sound like he takes her places and yet she stays demorialized?

sammij said:

No, that's not what I'm saying. What I am saying is life is not all peaches and cream. It's not always right and fair. To be frank, I don't know what should be done.

the question is, from whence are they allowed such control? where and how did they loose the respect they had for mom?

and why is she denied a job to make her own money ..damn!

myfavorite said:

Again, it has to do with cultural differences. What they deemed socially or religiously correct may be wrong in other cultures. However, I do believe in my soul that our Creator would not want a man to mistreat a woman, and vice versa.

myfavorite said:

control!

its very sad.

sinisterpentatonic said:

[snip - CarrieMpls]

these women need to leave their country ...disguise themselves as men and bounce...no wonder some are setting themselves on fire...

Unreal.

Imago said:

Imago said:

How you doin'!

But if a person's religious or spiritual beliefs dictate that each person in the relationship is delegated those archtypical roles...and they are steadfast in those beliefs, it leaves little for the rest of us to say or do about it

so in other words..who gives a shyt??!

peacenlovealways said:

OoOoOOoo....orgnote me.

heybaby said:

you complete me.

sammij said:

sinisterpentatonic said:

Okay...?

But anyway I was reading some more about it. It's truly ridiculous and shady. There are many more stories of countries where women are viewed as much less than a man. As for me I believe in and support equality for all.

Check this.

Bowing to international pressure and unprecedented protests by hundreds of women on the streets of Kabul, the Afghan government promised in April to review a new law imposing severe restrictions on women in Shiite Muslim families.

Last week, though, Human Rights Watch discovered that a revised version of the Shiite Personal Status Law had been quietly put into effect at the end of July — meaning that Shiite men in Afghanistan now have the legal right to starve their wives if their sexual demands are not met and that Shiite women must obtain permission from their husbands to even leave their houses, “except in extreme circumstances.”
[Edited 8/19/09 7:50am]

NMuzakNSoul said:

ok, so are you trying to bust me out or something?

i was making a lighthearted joke about something that is truly f'd up. in no way am i condoning this behavior.

sinisterpentatonic said:

You really could've fooled me. (just sent you an orgnote before reading this.) I still don't get how that was lighthearted anyway.

sinisterpentatonic said:

Nah, only the okay? was directed at you, text doesn't always reveal everything so I couldn't tell. The rest of my post has nothing to do with you.

Another example of the Pimps Up Hos Down mentality. These men are all about SELF.

yo broke ass...i'm ion a quest for credibility dammit! ! ! god knows i've gave enough out! ! ! ! !

Humans over-complicate EVERY THING.