if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
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Fury said:

depends on their attitude about said job...

if they're always pissin' and moanin' about it then tread carefully...

if they can't shut up about how AWESOME it is, then join the party and have a ball!

Hell no, it seems to be that I prefer they do next to nothing broke as heck for me to seriously fall for them! LOL.

Career and financial ambition is very unattractive to me.

RenHoek said:

exactly!

If someone's happy with what they do the rest doesn't matter. Or only matters to a certain degree anyway.

i'm asking because i have several employees who have been with our company for 10-15 years and make virtually the same salary as when they started (not a lot). so if i'm looking to be serious with someone, does knowing that there will probably be a whole lot of things that get short-changed because of the other person's complacency? i'm talking about things like buying a house together, getting a car, taking a trip or hell even going to a nice restaurant

Do you mean lack of ambition or drive compared to someone who is maybe older and is settled and probably content?
Surely a job is a good thing?

muirdo said:

say somebody makes $8 an hour since they were 20 years old and they are now 30 years old at the same salary. so yeah having the job is nice, but should the lack of upward mobility be a deterrent?

it's funny you bring this up, cause this dude from high school was all over me and texting me like crazy and just coming on way too hard, then I found out he doesn't have a job and was bumming newport cigarettes on Lke Street, I ask myself why do I attract these winners

I am not huge into finances myself but at least be able to support yourself,

are you being serious about the same exact salary?


hmm, first I'd wonder what kind of job doesn't have cost of living increases from time to time?

Fury said:

I guess it depends on if those things are important to you. I know people who don't find those things all that important. I would say a lot of people do, sure, but not everyone.

Fury said:

I totally see your point but sometimes thats the only option people have.
So I guess im saying it doesn't matter to me lol

morningsong said:

there are A LOT of jobs out there, unfortunately that are like that. just a few years ago the federal minimum wage was $5.55. it's at $6.55 now and goes up next week to $7.25 next week. so if you were making 8 bucks 10 years ago, you were doing better than a lot of people. but now you'll only be making .75 more than the minimum wage. hard to plan a future around that without impeccable credit

Yes.

muirdo said:

don't get me wrong, i'll date anybody who's remotely sane and i've dated some ladies who were making $$$$$ but had horrible personalities.

Fury said:

Wow. That's different to me, never had a job that didn't at least have cost of living increases for years on end. Must be "going to be obsolete soon" positions.


Honestly, for me, that person would have to bring a heck a lot of other valuable qualities to the table before I'd seriously get tangled up with them. AND they would really have to LOVE that job, no buckets full of complaining about. Outside of that, there's something wrong there.

Fury said:

I think if one is happy in the job that they are doing and enjoy it then I guess they don't mind the same pay.

Fury said:

You just reminded me of this twat



lol not you, your post.

muirdo said:

that fucker is crazeeee. if your mom has cancer, it's okay if you don't call

luv4u said:

For casual dating, for me, it's not that important cuz if we're casual I ain't trynta engage in too much conversation with a dude. But for a serious relantionship, I will not consider anyone that has little or no ambition or hustle to match or exceed my own. I'm goal oriented and would be very unhappy with a partner who isn't as well. Been there, done that, don't need to do it again.

Honestly, I just want someone who wants something in life. Be passionate, have a goal. You don't have to be at the finish line yet, but have one in mind & be working to get there. I find that without that, I lose respect for a mf real quick That's one thing I'd like to have in common w/ my bf/hubby...

no, I'm looking at their girth

No, not at all.

Nope, couldn't care less, as long as they're happy.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

They have to have an end goal in sight, with a purpose, and a plan.

This is a question more so aimed at women because history has shown that most men aren't caught up with how much a woman makes nor her upside potential. Women are "taught" to have this approach to finding a mate much more than men are. Men with great jobs can date a waitress while you will rarely find a woman with a corporate gig "dating down" with a waiter.

Fury said:

For 5 years? No, they are stuck in being comfortable. To me it doesn't show that the person has ambition or the drive to go farther in their career. The stagnant thing would bother me. If they feel that way in their career, ain't no telling how stagnant they are in their personal lives.

MuthaFunka said:

Thats because MOST men in "lower" levels of careers than woman are intimidated by them. I've met plenty of men who felt challenged by the fact that I made more money by them, and I don't even give up that information. They "assume" this by the way I handle myself, my independence. But right now my boyfriend makes less than me, and he has enough confidence in himself to not let it intimidate him. He's secure within himself and thats why we fit together. Back in the day, its taught that the man of the house ALWAYS brings in the most of money in the household.

So this just comes to show that its really not what the man does in his career or how much money he makes, it really has to do with his insecurities. I'd date a confident waiter any day over an insecure investment banker.

missfee said:

Exactly. You're the exception rather than the rule.