MuthaFunka said:

CalhounSq said:

exactly. He must have goals. There's nothing worse than dating a guy who keeps talking about it instead of at least taking some steps on how to get there.

As long as the person isn't a lazy ass I don't care what they do for a living or what they make. The important thing is that they are willing to work and are happy with what they do.

I'd rather have a happy and hardworking but lower class partner than a miserable son of a bitch with country club status.

meow85 said:

Exactly.

missfee said:

so you guys would be content with someone who couldn't help you improve your standard of living? maybe i just hit that curve at age 40 that i just wanted something more tangible in my life than just being content. i'm looking to see if you got a 401k, some health benefits becuase that lets me know you are at least thinking about your future

Fury said:

I don't give a shit about class or status so yeah, contentment is enough for me. And since I live in Canada healthcare's taken care of already no matter my income.

If I did want to improve my lot I'd find a way to do it myself, regardless of my marital status. One should never depend on anyone else, even a spouse, to help you out.

Wow, if it's just comparing a waiter/waitress vs. an investment banker that's a different story. Heck a good waiter/waitress, busdriver, mechanic, gets a salary increase on the regular, heck a really good one can pull in some nice funds. Personally, I can't even get all that kind of picky. But absolute stagnate is extinction, to me. I don't want it.

missfee said:

MuthaFunka said:

That's something I will never understand and it's pretty sad IMO. If I was a man I'd sure not be interested in a woman who'd care more about my status than my personality.

No....just have a goal...and have a hard workers mentality

It is tough when a new mother's maternity leave is over and she MUST return to work while the father raises the baby.

Serious said:

But some men like that. It gives them a sense of power: A woman jocks me because of my job/financial status. Hell, men are taught that these are things needed in order to be a "good man/husband".

Cinnie said:

something to actually think about when you're done theorizing about egos and security

MuthaFunka said:

And I could never be in a relationship with a man like that . People who think they are special because they have a sucessful career and money and brag about it are just embarrassing IMO. Old men with big cars and young ladies .

Serious said:

The American dream

Cinnie said:

Thank God I am not American . And the people there can have the Austrians who represent the American dream like Arnold Schwarzenegger .

Cinnie said:

BTW are you from the US or UK ?

Serious said:

which explains it all

Bev is my neighbour. She used to babysit me, now she babysits me on the org.

Cinnie said:

Ah okay, I just knew you aren't Australian .

Cinnie said:

For how many more years do you think you will need a babysitter ?

Cinnie said:

To me both partners should have the similar goals and same drive. Opposites do not attract when talking about finances and future goals.

Wealth would depend on what age you are, the older women get, the more they look at their own retirement and seek men that have their own retirement plan in action.

When women are young, the future and building a nest egg isn't as pressing, so younger women are more likely to date a man that doesn't earn much. So long as he can make her happy, then she normally is fine.

As for me, I need a man that has his own and has a viable game plan for his own future... I am not and will not take on a moocher. I see a new trend in society, many men that lose jobs rely on women for housing and food. Its crazy that men say "they want a woman that's got her own" just so they can try there best to live off of her.

paintedlady said:

And I've seen plenty of women who put up with those ain't-shit-men. Go figure.

uPtoWnNY said:

Those men are called welfare pimps. A new term in society that is becoming more common because of the rising unemployment rates.
That's just as bad as some of these women that look solely for "sugar daddies".
But as Mutha pointed out, its more acceptable for women to do it.

as long as the person i'm with makes an effort to earn their own money and to be responsible for their own livelihood, as far as i'm concerned their career track is totally their thing to figure out and i'll support whatever they decide to do, whether they want to rule the world or make lattes in a coffee shop. i'd rather be with someone who is happy with their modest job than someone who is absolutely miserable in their high paying career.

Just don't ask me for shit and we'll be all good.

Vendetta1 said:

SomeFoolDramaQueen said:

I love your username.

they have to be able to take care of themselves at the very least