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does a person have to have a financial/career upside for you to be serious about them? if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation? [Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] | |
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Fury said: if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
[Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] depends on their attitude about said job... if they're always pissin' and moanin' about it then tread carefully... if they can't shut up about how AWESOME it is, then join the party and have a ball! A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon | |
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Hell no, it seems to be that I prefer they do next to nothing broke as heck for me to seriously fall for them! LOL.
Career and financial ambition is very unattractive to me. | |
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Ex-Moderator | RenHoek said: Fury said: if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
[Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] depends on their attitude about said job... if they're always pissin' and moanin' about it then tread carefully... if they can't shut up about how AWESOME it is, then join the party and have a ball! exactly! If someone's happy with what they do the rest doesn't matter. Or only matters to a certain degree anyway. |
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i'm asking because i have several employees who have been with our company for 10-15 years and make virtually the same salary as when they started (not a lot). so if i'm looking to be serious with someone, does knowing that there will probably be a whole lot of things that get short-changed because of the other person's complacency? i'm talking about things like buying a house together, getting a car, taking a trip or hell even going to a nice restaurant | |
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Do you mean lack of ambition or drive compared to someone who is maybe older and is settled and probably content? Surely a job is a good thing? Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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muirdo said: Do you mean lack of ambition or drive compared to someone who is maybe older and is settled and probably content?
Surely a job is a good thing? say somebody makes $8 an hour since they were 20 years old and they are now 30 years old at the same salary. so yeah having the job is nice, but should the lack of upward mobility be a deterrent? | |
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it's funny you bring this up, cause this dude from high school was all over me and texting me like crazy and just coming on way too hard, then I found out he doesn't have a job and was bumming newport cigarettes on Lke Street, I ask myself why do I attract these winners
I am not huge into finances myself but at least be able to support yourself, | |
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are you being serious about the same exact salary?
hmm, first I'd wonder what kind of job doesn't have cost of living increases from time to time? | |
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Ex-Moderator | Fury said: i'm asking because i have several employees who have been with our company for 10-15 years and make virtually the same salary as when they started (not a lot). so if i'm looking to be serious with someone, does knowing that there will probably be a whole lot of things that get short-changed because of the other person's complacency? i'm talking about things like buying a house together, getting a car, taking a trip or hell even going to a nice restaurant
I guess it depends on if those things are important to you. I know people who don't find those things all that important. I would say a lot of people do, sure, but not everyone. |
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Fury said: muirdo said: Do you mean lack of ambition or drive compared to someone who is maybe older and is settled and probably content? Surely a job is a good thing? say somebody makes $8 an hour since they were 20 years old and they are now 30 years old at the same salary. so yeah having the job is nice, but should the lack of upward mobility be a deterrent? I totally see your point but sometimes thats the only option people have. So I guess im saying it doesn't matter to me lol Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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morningsong said: are you being serious about the same exact salary?
hmm, first I'd wonder what kind of job doesn't have cost of living increases from time to time? there are A LOT of jobs out there, unfortunately that are like that. just a few years ago the federal minimum wage was $5.55. it's at $6.55 now and goes up next week to $7.25 next week. so if you were making 8 bucks 10 years ago, you were doing better than a lot of people. but now you'll only be making .75 more than the minimum wage. hard to plan a future around that without impeccable credit | |
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muirdo said: Fury said: say somebody makes $8 an hour since they were 20 years old and they are now 30 years old at the same salary. so yeah having the job is nice, but should the lack of upward mobility be a deterrent? I totally see your point but sometimes thats the only option people have. So I guess im saying it doesn't matter to me lol don't get me wrong, i'll date anybody who's remotely sane and i've dated some ladies who were making $$$$$ but had horrible personalities. | |
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Fury said: morningsong said: are you being serious about the same exact salary?
hmm, first I'd wonder what kind of job doesn't have cost of living increases from time to time? there are A LOT of jobs out there, unfortunately that are like that. just a few years ago the federal minimum wage was $5.55. it's at $6.55 now and goes up next week to $7.25 next week. so if you were making 8 bucks 10 years ago, you were doing better than a lot of people. but now you'll only be making .75 more than the minimum wage. hard to plan a future around that without impeccable credit Wow. That's different to me, never had a job that didn't at least have cost of living increases for years on end. Must be "going to be obsolete soon" positions. Honestly, for me, that person would have to bring a heck a lot of other valuable qualities to the table before I'd seriously get tangled up with them. AND they would really have to LOVE that job, no buckets full of complaining about. Outside of that, there's something wrong there. | |
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Moderator | Fury said: if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
[Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] I think if one is happy in the job that they are doing and enjoy it then I guess they don't mind the same pay. Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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Fury said: muirdo said: I totally see your point but sometimes thats the only option people have. So I guess im saying it doesn't matter to me lol don't get me wrong, i'll date anybody who's remotely sane and i've dated some ladies who were making $$$$$ but had horrible personalities. You just reminded me of this twat lol not you, your post. Fuck the funk - it's time to ditch the worn-out Vegas horns fills, pick up the geee-tar and finally ROCK THE MUTHA-FUCKER!! He hinted at this on Chaos, now it's time to step up and fully DELIVER!!
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muirdo said: Fury said: don't get me wrong, i'll date anybody who's remotely sane and i've dated some ladies who were making $$$$$ but had horrible personalities. You just reminded me of this twat lol not you, your post. that fucker is crazeeee. if your mom has cancer, it's okay if you don't call | |
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luv4u said: Fury said: if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
[Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] I think if one is happy in the job that they are doing and enjoy it then I guess they don't mind the same pay. I swear the words "HATER" is wayyy over-rated...smh | |
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For casual dating, for me, it's not that important cuz if we're casual I ain't trynta engage in too much conversation with a dude. But for a serious relantionship, I will not consider anyone that has little or no ambition or hustle to match or exceed my own. I'm goal oriented and would be very unhappy with a partner who isn't as well. Been there, done that, don't need to do it again. | |
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Honestly, I just want someone who wants something in life. Be passionate, have a goal. You don't have to be at the finish line yet, but have one in mind & be working to get there. I find that without that, I lose respect for a mf real quick That's one thing I'd like to have in common w/ my bf/hubby... | |
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No, not at all. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Nope, couldn't care less, as long as they're happy. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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TotalANXiousNESS said: no, I'm looking at their girth
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They have to have an end goal in sight, with a purpose, and a plan. | |
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This is a question more so aimed at women because history has shown that most men aren't caught up with how much a woman makes nor her upside potential. Women are "taught" to have this approach to finding a mate much more than men are. Men with great jobs can date a waitress while you will rarely find a woman with a corporate gig "dating down" with a waiter. nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
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Fury said: if a person has been in the same job for 5 or so years and is pretty much doing/making the same thing...are you looking at the fact that they are stable or are you looking at stagnation?
[Edited 7/16/09 10:46am] For 5 years? No, they are stuck in being comfortable. To me it doesn't show that the person has ambition or the drive to go farther in their career. The stagnant thing would bother me. If they feel that way in their career, ain't no telling how stagnant they are in their personal lives. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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MuthaFunka said: This is a question more so aimed at women because history has shown that most men aren't caught up with how much a woman makes nor her upside potential. Women are "taught" to have this approach to finding a mate much more than men are. Men with great jobs can date a waitress while you will rarely find a woman with a corporate gig "dating down" with a waiter.
Thats because MOST men in "lower" levels of careers than woman are intimidated by them. I've met plenty of men who felt challenged by the fact that I made more money by them, and I don't even give up that information. They "assume" this by the way I handle myself, my independence. But right now my boyfriend makes less than me, and he has enough confidence in himself to not let it intimidate him. He's secure within himself and thats why we fit together. Back in the day, its taught that the man of the house ALWAYS brings in the most of money in the household. So this just comes to show that its really not what the man does in his career or how much money he makes, it really has to do with his insecurities. I'd date a confident waiter any day over an insecure investment banker. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: MuthaFunka said: This is a question more so aimed at women because history has shown that most men aren't caught up with how much a woman makes nor her upside potential. Women are "taught" to have this approach to finding a mate much more than men are. Men with great jobs can date a waitress while you will rarely find a woman with a corporate gig "dating down" with a waiter.
Thats because MOST men in "lower" levels of careers than woman are intimidated by them. I've met plenty of men who felt challenged by the fact that I made more money by them, and I don't even give up that information. They "assume" this by the way I handle myself, my independence. But right now my boyfriend makes less than me, and he has enough confidence in himself to not let it intimidate him. He's secure within himself and thats why we fit together. Back in the day, its taught that the man of the house ALWAYS brings in the most of money in the household. So this just comes to show that its really not what the man does in his career or how much money he makes, it really has to do with his insecurities. I'd date a confident waiter any day over an insecure investment banker. Exactly. You're the exception rather than the rule. nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
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