It just cracks me up that women spend hundreds to thousands of dollars for designer handbags. Dudes can give a shit less what kind of handbag you are carrying. I think women spend too much time trying to impress other women than men. Besides most of these women will have an expensive handbag but no money to put in it. Just an observation by the Starman.

I don't know what that has to do with anything.

Perhaps you’ll find this shocking, but attracting men is the last thing a woman thinks about when selecting a handbag.

When doing most things in life as well.

And why would we?

Please.

You think men do things like spend tens of thousands of dollars on tacky, overpriced cars... ride loud motorcycles... buy gigantic houses and all sorts of toys they can barely afford... lose their shirts in risky investments... wear all designer clothes or baggy gear, grills and $100+ sneakers... brag, spit and/or curse in public... join frats, country clubs and gangs... try to assert their alpha maleness throughout life to the point they wind up emotionally isolated, sick, dead or in jail... instigate wars... devote themselves to pointless sports... or practically live in gyms with other sweaty, half-naked men trying to get musclebound to attract women? Think again.
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We dont do it for men...we do it to make other bitches jealous!

I love my coach handbags, and my husband can not tell the difference between my good ones...and the ones from Ross his Mom get's me.

I have been!

Right, women don't dress/accessorize for men, they dress for other women.
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I wish I had the money my wife has spent on these during the course of our marriage.

CarrieMpls said:

I gotta disagree a bit with this statement Carrie. Most of it may just be embedded, but a lot of things women do can be attributed to this. Now I sound like a giant misogynist.


Hopefully Erin can give examples so I don't get lambasted for being a pig.










Back on topic though, spending that much for a bag is just excessive and wasteful, IMO.

tinaz said:

true, true , true

JerseyKRS said:

Hmmmm…

Perhaps there are some women who do that. Maybe even most.
But I can think of very few things I do in life specifically to attract men.

I dunno.
Have you asked Dan?

Lammastide said:

that's done to attract men.

CarrieMpls said:

I see what you're saying and I think you understand what I'm saying, also.

CarrieMpls said:

But you do try to be attractive in general, right? For someone? Maybe not all men or random gross men, but maybe one particular man (even if he's only hypothetical)?

Just playing devil/jersey's advocate
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NDRU said:

When I have a fella, I suppose there is an effort made to be attractive specifically to/for him on occasion.
But in general, it’s not a thought in my mind. Like, ever.
Certainly I like to be well dressed, presentable, etc. but I do all of that for me. And I think that’s fairly evident considering my taste is pretty different than what would typically be considered attractive by the men in mainstream america.

CarrieMpls said:

I understand, you're not out to get catcalls. If anything you may be trying to avoid them.

I think we all base our appearance on what WE think looks nice/cool/attractive/etc. If a woman dresses like a stripper it's most likely because she thinks it looks pretty, too.

Your own look is based more in what you call "presentable" because that is the type of person that is more attractive to you perhaps?

WHAT????


honey, the only reason i buy an expensive handbag is to please MYSELF.
Not for a man & surely NOT for another woman.

BTW..id rather spend my $$ on other things, but if bags are your one guilty pleasure..than knock yourself out~~

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, how conceited of men to think that a woman would by things just to attract a man. A lot of those show off guys with the big cars are sleeping in them.

sonic said:

My guilty pleasures are designer jeans and shoes

CarrieMpls said:

somebody just jealous.

ehuffnsd said:

My point is I think it's ALL done to attract other men on some level (or at least to impress them)... even by straight men.
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Lammastide said:

totally agree!

This thread is goofy. If a man likes my purse, we ain't fuckin' 'cause he ain't interested in what I got!

I don't think women give a flying fuck if men like our bags/accessories/whatever, we care if WE like all that stuff (& that everything goes well w/ the whole package) I think most often it's about feeling good & looking good. Attraction is a by-product of that, not the entire point imo...

CalhounSq said:

bingo!

Men compliment me and also my designer bags (oh yes they love my Pradas and LV) but I don't dress to impress no-one....except myself. I couldn't give 2 shits what women think of me either, those that do mind don't matter to me.

I'll only add that while I think impressing me is secondary at best on a women's list of objectives, I do appreciate a sense of self-satisfaction, aesthetic and personal style, which is their primary concern, I suspect. And the price tag is the least to me. If a chick is rocking a $500 Louis or a $15 Target handbag and she's making that thing work -- not the other way around -- I notice.

People can't seriously be saying that women do not do things to impress men?

Women in general are definitely doing things to impress other women when it comes to material shit, but overall most things women do in terms of appearance is to attract men and be better than their competition.

JustErin said:

But if the entire point was to attract men, we wouldn't have to put much thought into a "look" at all - we'd just make sure our tits were always out & our asses were always showing But most of us (you included, dammit!) know it's about more than that. Yea, we wanna look good to them, but first & foremost we wanna look good, period

CalhounSq said:

But I think it ties in to what kind of person you want to be attractive to. I have never dated a girl like you describe who dresses very slutty (though that does get my attention, I admit it).

So if a girl wants anything other than a double take from me she should be more conservative.

A better example is people who dress very punk. It's not the normal standard of beauty, but they attract other people with mowhawks, piercings, tattoos, etc.