CalhounSq said:

- But my buddy DID date this chck that asked "Does the fashion police really exist?" and we were like 'Damn, she stoooopid' .

RenHoek said:

Oh shit!

Rhonda dating sites can be good or bad. If you make a new friend then hey it wasn't so bad, right? It doesn't make you look desperate and lots of people do it.

I myself like to just make new friends and make an attempt at hanging around with different people all the time. That way you meet more of their friends and possibly cute ones! I also like the fact that you can get dirt on the cute ones through your friends...it's not like meeting a stranger at a bar. I typically date friends of friends all the time, I'm more comfortable with it when I know they aren't douche bags.

You'll find someone, you are beautiful and smart.

CarrieLee said:

That's the only way to do it, imo.

Dating can be great fun.

TheResurrection said:

I'm suprised no one has said anything about this point yet because its a bunch of foolishness. You're flyy and you know it.

Your UPdated AD:

I'm NOT smart.

I can't fool folks by taking really good pics.

I'm a freaky chick, if you're into that sorta thing.

I don't have a job.


I've been a stripper.


I'm a former crack user.


Some big words really confuse me.


I can read picture books.

My parents knew each other years after having sex and having me.





I "put myself out there".



this should work

JustErin said:

I just figured this out like this year. That's how to do it for sure. Now I have someone's housemate trying to hang out with me.

REDFEATHERS said:

you've have always been truly helpful.

ppl still date ?

fingertips said:

Um, yes. What are they supposed to do instead?

JustErin said:

I thought kids these days just hook up?

ZombieKitten said:

No.

TheRessurection said:


I think what your friend is saying, make sure you allocate enough time to meet people. Chances of fate or meeting someone when you least expect it, ain't gonna never happen if you don't leave your home on a regular bases. One weekend out of a month, isn't going to cut for example.

Here are some suggestions:

Go out a least once every work week, I don't care if your bone tired pick one day to hang out to do whatever: Pick a trendy neighborhood, shop, window shop, go to a coffee/tea shops, outdoor cafes, record shops and bookstores. If you have the time and/or resources during the work week go somewhere out for lunch.... needless to say where there's a lot of foot traffic and others like you are taking lunch. When you can, walk were you need to go.

Read up on what's going on culturally in you city, book readings, lectures at a universities or libraries, neighborhood music concets, or local concerts held by churches, music (jazz, folk, classical etc,etc) societies, movie festivals/screenings, parades and neighborhood ethnic festivals. Pick something you've always wanted to do and do somethings just for the experience: join a travel club, checkout art gallery openings, voice/instrument lessons, cooking class, computer/repair class, chess, museums, photographyy, poetry slams, pool, tennis, swimming, lessons, miniature golf/golf cart parks.... Go to your local area biking/running/walking and trails/tracks. More often than not, go by yourself, and take the initiative to start conversation.


When you get married send me an invite and I'll buy you a gift.

TheResurrection said:

thats my favorite line

chillichocaholic said:

watch the men come running now..

TheResurrection said:

I try my best..
I really should be working at Relate or an Agony Aunt or something..

purpleizpassion said:

We all saw through that bull, so no real need to comment. Who doesn't know how sexy she is?

TheResurrection said:

oh my goodness, be my bff. tiny is not cute, and i'm not hating. she looks like she got smacked in the chin with a 2x4, and there are people who think she IS cute. i wish i could see it. NOT HATING.

so anyway, i haven't read this thread, and i don't know much about dating sites. i do know this: people on peacock display for dating are being fake. people just posting on a messageboard will show you more of their personality and brain that would, under normal circumstance, take you a long time to find. so if the internet is your thing, find an interesting poster.

CalhounSq said:

Men don't care, they just look at the picture.

CarrieLee said:

PunkMistress said:

You might be on to something there.....

paintedlady said:

For real, I have a profile with nothing but a rap verse in it, and they all reply because of the pic

paintedlady said:

Hey! Some of us do more than glance at the picture. We read the blurbs, too.

Not, er, not that I frequent dating sites...

ThreadBare said:

[Edited 7/7/09 17:05pm]

TheResurrection said:

Well, you are probably scaring away the grammar fanatics by confusing "new" with "knew". j/k.

But seriously, I have always been skeptical of online dating. My friend uses it a lot, but she is more interested in just hooking up than finding a relationship.

I have always been terrified of dating, I find it really stressful and nerve-wracking. I pretty much ascribe to the laissez-faire method. I figured if I was meant to meet someone I would; but going out looking frantically for a boyfriend would only appear desperate and I refused to do that. I think there is a fine balance b/t putting oneself out there and appearing desperate. I also think, as Carrie & Erin said, meeting people through friends is a better option.

Also, as others have suggested, maybe try joining groups that focus on things you're interested in. A lot of museums have membership levels for younger, single, professionals. That might be a good way to meet people. There are a lot of museums in Chicago - not just art museums, but the Shedd Aquarium, Adler Planetarium, the Field Museum, Science & Industry, etc.

CarrieMpls said:

But by saying - believing - that you are a person who isn't made to be in a relationship, aren't you sort of closing yourself off from really being open to one when you least expect it? I mean, have you maybe mentally resigned yourself to believe you're a person who will never be in a relationship and by doing so, subconsciously removed yourself from the possibility? (I don't know if I'm doing a good job of explaining what I'm trying to say...)

DevotedPuppy said:

In other words what u think and put out in the universe is what u get back. SO if deep down in ure subconcious u think u will never find anyone....u wont

DevotedPuppy said:

I get what you mean, it becomes a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy.
And yeah, I’m sure there’s some or even a lot of that. But I just can’t care anymore. Life goes on.
I have very occasional pangs of wishing I could find a relationship, but when I weigh it out in my head logically, I just don’t see the pros outweighing the cons.

AlexdeParis said:

omgosh.

Ask thready. He just saw me. I'm average. (no pressure ThreadB )


I'm sure this dating thing will work out....one day.

Thanks for the advice I'm sure not to take.

Paintedlady

TheResurrection said:

ThreadBare said Tiny wasn't ugly and thus can no longer be trusted.