SirPsycho said:

wait...re-read the post


i have a feminine nature but i dont necessarily look like one, so i guess i dont count.

I prefer men who are small and have a nice mixture of both masculine and feminine "features". Although lateley I am more and more attracted to men who are more masculine.

Cinnie said:

Er, no.

The "look" with gay men seems to be swimmer's build, but bald like a 10 year old boy. True girliness is not encouraged as desirable.

Serious said:

Little guys!



I used to go out with a guy who was 6'4''. I liked him and all, but the size difference made me uncomfortable. I know a lot of women LOVE a big guy, but to me it felt like being a small child again and standing next to a grown person, Not exactly a sexy feeling.

CJanssen said:

Me too. Since I swing both ways too I don't know whether it's just my fondness for girls that's bleeding over into my guy-liking or not.

What really interests me are women who identify as straight and dig the pretty in a man.

meow85 said:

hairless swimmer's build is pretty damn "girlish" to me, if we're having this discussion.

meow85 said:

For the Petite Men!

Yep, tall men and those taller than me make me really uncomfortable. I agree. What a turn off.

I am heterosexual but I have always been attracted to Pretty men. I've never thought much about it, I just like what I like.

This thread is nothing without pictures

Girly men are perfect partners, say women

By Aislinn Simpson
Last Updated: 1:37AM BST 09 Aug 2007

Women searching for the perfect partner avoid macho men in favour of feminine-looking types whom they see as more committed and better parents, research has found.

Men with masculine features, such as a square jaw, larger nose or smaller eyes were perceived to be less faithful, more detached and worse fathers. Those with fuller lips and wide eyes were seen as being more caring, nurturing and less likely to stray.

Psychologists from Durham and St Andrews Universities asked more than 400 people to look at pictures of male faces that were digitally altered to look more masculine or feminine. They were then asked to predict personality traits, such as sexual behaviour and parenting skills, based on the images.

The results, published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, revealed that as well as preferring more feminine faces, participants chose healthier ones - such as those with better complexions - as more representative of positive traits, while older faces were preferred over younger ones.

And they could answer some questions when it comes to celebrity pairings. The jazz singer Michael Buble's round cheeks and eyes may indicate that his girlfriend, the Devil Wears Prada actress Emily Blunt, is looking to settle down. The actress Gwyneth Paltrow's choice of the scruffy Coldplay singer Chris Martin could be explained by his big blue eyes and bee-stung lips.

The chef Jamie Oliver's button nose and baby face may show that his wife, Jools, was spot on when she chose to start a family with him - not only does he seem a model father but he has also taken charge of the eating habits of others' children as well.

One of the authors of the report, Prof David Perrett, from St Andrews University, said a healthy face can override "negative" masculine features to make men more appealing. This would explain why the singer Charlotte Church chose the rugged Welsh rugby player Gavin Henson to father her child.

"Our research also found that it is men's health that conveys all-round good qualities for partnership and personality," he said.

The study, supported by the Medical Research Council and the Economic and Social Research Council, backs up research of masculinity and personality perceptions and could help relationship counsellors and psychologists.

The lead author, Dr Lynda Boothroyd, a Durham University psychology lecturer, said: "This research shows a high amount of agreement between women about what they see, personality wise, when asked to 'judge a book by its cover'.

"They may well use that impression of someone to decide whether or not to engage with that person. That decision-making process all depends on what a woman is looking for in a relationship at that time of her life."

SirPsycho said:

So are you one of them sensitive dudes that get offended easily n' shit? I used to know a lot of artist type dudes and if I did't say what they wanted to hear, we were arguing like we're lovers..... Lot of musician types were like that; to me, anyway.

KatSkrizzle said:

oh no...im not that bad...all my exes and female friends say i "think" like a woman tho/ share similar sensabilities....or "get" women more than most men they know or somethin like that..

meow85 said:

I like girly men too. Brian Molko is one of my favourites!!



For me, I think it has something to do with presuming girly looking guys will be more caring, sensitive or emotional - things not usually associated (rightly or wrongly) with macho type guys. I realise that "judging a book by its cover" isn't a good or accurate way of telling someones personality, it's just what I find attractive.

I remember reading an article about this topic: http://www.telegraph.co.u...women.html

What really interests me are women who identify as straight and dig the pretty in a man.

meow85 said:

I like girly men too. Brian Molko is one of my favourites!!



For me, I think it has something to do with presuming girly looking guys will be more caring, sensitive or emotional - things not usually associated (rightly or wrongly) with macho type guys. I realise that "judging a book by its cover" isn't a good or accurate way of telling someones personality, it's just what I find attractive.

I remember reading an article about this topic: http://www.telegraph.co.u...women.html

SirPsycho said:

A lot of my friends, even relatives, say I should have been born a guy. I think a lot like a guy, but I am very feminine (girly). Go figure.

So...explain this to me.


You know the evolutionary theories of sexual attraction that say heterosexual women tend to look for a particular male body type and personality because of their evolved needs? And that type is, according to those evolutionary behaviourists that put forth this theory, large and with noticeably masculine secondary sex traits.

My question is, what about those heterosexual (and for the sake of the argument, though I realize that's probably beginning to delve into other theories, bisexual) women who find smaller, more effeminate men sexy?

Think Prince, Bowie, Jonathan Rhys Meyers in Velvet Goldmine, Brian Molko, Marilyn Manson, Gackt, and various others. All these men have legions of women trying to get in their well-fitting pants, but at best they only kinda fit into the so-called masculine ideal. I don't think it's an issue of money or fame either, because I've seen this pattern happen in real life often enough too. As long as the fella in question is at least partially interested in women while he's donning M.A.C. and lace, somewhere some woman's going to want to jump his skinny lil bones.

I can admit I am occasionally one of these girls who digs boys who look like girls, but that doesn't mean it makes any more sense to me.

How is this explained? Does anyone know?

meow85 said:

It's 'cause they look like they can fuck.

Most of the boys you mentioned might look like girls, but they don't look like librarians or frigid bitches. They look like freaks who can throw the cock like nobody's business.

That's why.

So it's still about wanting them to plant their hot seed in your fertile soil, just with makeup.

FunkMistress said:

You crack me up Erin

mdiver said:

I mean, just look at how crazy the little woman is over YOU, Petunia!

FunkMistress said:

It still amazes me

Have a great day you 2

meow85 said:

It's 'cause they look like they can fuck.

Most of the boys you mentioned might look like girls, but they don't look like librarians or frigid bitches. They look like freaks who can throw the cock like nobody's business.

That's why.

So it's still about wanting them to plant their hot seed in your fertile soil, just with makeup.

Cuddles said:

baby dykes can be HOT.

when i was in texas, there was one i was madly in love with, who felt the same way about me in reverse. i wished she had a penis, she wished i had a vagina