Right, I'm seriously sick of dealing with this shit.

One of my closest friends has two guys in her life. An ex she dumped last fall, and the guy she started seeing right after. She plays them both, won't choose between either, and naturally the whole situation creates a fuckload of drama. The guy she started seeing after dumping her ex & I are pretty close friends, and so I'm dragged into the middle of it all and I'm reeeeally sick of it. Tonight she picked a restaurant to go to purposely to 'bump into' her ex, and then they proceeded to have a screaming, crying fight outside the majority of the time we were there. I love her, I just don't know how to get out of it.

Wtf do I do?

lazy answer #1: cut the bitch off or tell her to act like she got some goddamn sense!
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yeah that's the only answer i've gotten, and i don't wanna cut her off entirely. dammit.

Why did you go with her to the restaurant?

coolcat said:

we all went with friends. i only found out she suggested the place because she saw her ex's truck outside too late.

A close friend, right

Tell her straight that you don't wanna be involved which means you love her and will; be her friend but you won't lie,cover,help or take part in any of this shit. She is flying solo on this bs from now on.

mdiver said:

Agreed. And tell the same thing to her new boy toy, who is also your close friend.

They both know what they've gotten themselves into and choose to perpetuate, so it's not as if they need your support during an uninvited period of trial. A good friend needn't (and shouldn't) pander to their pals' BS. And a good personal steward doesn't make themselves party to that BS hitting the fan.
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mdiver said:

Let us know how you get on

mdiver said:

yeah

Have sex with her current man/your friend. If you're in this far, you may as well get a shag out of it.

It also leaves open a window of opportunity for a future threesome! Foursome even!

That's what I'd do.

evenstar3 said:

Don't involve yourself in this nonsense in any way. Don't speak about it; don't think about it. If you're asked about it by either of your friends, give them your honest opinion and be done with it.

Life's too short to stress about other people's drama.

mcmeekle said:

Well, I wouldn't have sex with her man. I didn't mean that.....

mcmeekle said:

Not without meeting him first.....

Lammastide said:

All very good advice! I would include that maybe it's time for her to grow up, and people aren't toys, and emotions aren't things you play with.

mdiver said:

Good answer, I agree with this!

Tell her the same thing you're telling us. I love you but I don't wanna get in the middle of this. Eventually the guys will be gone, but good friends will still be there.

are you even gonna give a rat's ass about this chick 5 years from now? she sounds like a real bitch.

evenstar3 said:

Show us a picture of your boobs!!!

punkofthemonth said:

Clear, cut, and to the point. I would have said the same thing, minus the b*(&ch part.

She's a psycho, keep away from her or suffer for the drama.

evenstar3 said:

You Tell her exactly that ^



If you do love her and want to continue the friendship you need to set some new boundries for both yourself and her ( and for the dude too )

you're only part of her game because you allow it

Best wishes

mcmeekle said:

people who've made me lol this morning... mcmeekle

Tell her how you feel and say you feel like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place...You don't want to choose sides and you don't want to loose any of their friendships and for her to be like that - she's acting selfish and she's not thinking about your feelings so if she doesn't respect how you feel, then you don't need to be a close friend like that...you can still be a friend but at a distance...and leave it like that...