ZombieKitten said:

You are clearly insane.

Vendetta1 said:

quite possibly!

ZombieKitten said:

I think you are one of the most beautiful women I've seen and the fact that you seem to be a genuine soul makes you more beautiful. I have such a crush.

Vendetta1 said:

omg

Vendetta1 said:

Damn Ivy you seriously have the hots for practically everyone in GD.

hokie said:

no, only ME

ZombieKitten said:

hokie said:

When I submitted it, I was thinking: folks are gonna think I am super horny.

You guys shouldn't be so fucking hot.

I'll be honest and admit that it's important to me..more important than it should be. I've always had low self-esteem and an irrational need for approval or validation or whatever based on my physical appearance.

I'm better nowadays about keeping things in perspective than I was 20 years ago, but I'm not past it, like I know I should be at this age.

Very important. It affects my whole day and behaviour whether I think I look good or not and whether people take notice. It's a terrible way to be.

I used to think it was important, now that I'm fat I could careless

I'd like for people, male of female, to be impressed by my appearance just because I put a lot of effort into my outfits. Not meaning I'd want them to want to throw me down and turn me out, but since I never step outside looking like no slob, it'd be nice for people to acknowledge I look pretty damn snazzy. I have 0 desire for a boyfriend at all, but it's nice to be appreciated.

I'm fine unless i feel i got competition.

Yes, it's important. As many dancers I've been "trained" to think this way (eat the audience or the audience will eat you). Now that I retired I still appreciate the attention, Saying that I don't give a damn would be a lie.

Yet in some case, life taught me it's better being ignored than getting harassed because of so called popularity.

omg, this is a shallow thread....

It's not important AT ALL...

Erin, why do you need every man on the planet to want you for you to feel good about yourself?

And if I were to introduce you to my SO, would you feel the need to flirt with him to see if you could entice him in some way? Like it's some kind of game? Or do you respect boudaries?

GetAwayFromMe said:

JustErin said:

If I have no interest in them at all then I am in no way interested wether they want me or desire me

As for "by the oppisit sex" overall - It's not overly important to me really - sure it's nice if some random guy shows he may be but it is not something I set out looking for or ever need/desire.

MY Man now I know I am wanted and desired and well THAT's all that really matters to be - fills the voids that may cause it to be needed from others I guess

and that's bout as honest as I can be on the subject

Alej said:

My post or her insecurity?

GetAwayFromMe said:

forget it

JustErin said:

If I'm not interested in them then I dont want to be desired or wanted by them

GetAwayFromMe said:

I don't flirt with people unless I want to have sex with them - so no, I would not be flirting with your SO - and yes, I respect boundaries.

And I don't think this is a shallow thread at all.

JustErin said:

Yeah you don't necessarily have to flirt with someone to get them to want you.

JustErin said:

Not true. You flirt with me but you don't want to have sex with me, even org-wise.

Arnotts said:

I should have to flirt at all to get someone to want me.

Fauxie said:

You think I flirt with you? Have you seen my posts to violator?? That's flirting.

Vendetta1 said:

I've got it going on....

Didn't you say that?

hokie said:

Oh yes.

I mostly focus in on the people to whom I am sexually attracted. But as I mature (whatever that means ) I do enjoy being attractive to the opposite sex more and more. I never felt attractive until the last few years, and I have to admit I do enjoy it.

I'm sorry, but anyone who says they TOTALLY don't care about being wanted is full of it.
Everyone cares to some degree.
One may not make it a priority, but if one is not at least flattered by being wanted...something's wrong.

johnart said:

What is so hard to believe about it? I really don't care. I care about finishing school. I care about work and my kids. Whether people find me attractive or not is not on the list.