exactly, we tell them everyday, and that's part of what drives me nuts. The only time shit is done is if we specifically tell them. Every 10 minutes. It's exhausting living their lives for them, know what I mean?

The two little ones (9 and 10) share a room, and literally had everything but their clothes taken out of their room a few months ago. Shit just APPEARS.

I just want some help. I just want them to care enough to not make more work for ME to do. That's where I really get angry. I feel I do SO damned much for them, which I freely give, and in return it's a virtual "here's some more for you to do Dad, cause we don't care enough to bother with it"


In effect, they're telling me they don't care. That's factual no matter how they try to spin it.

You're just starting. double

When my sisters and I were kids, my mom had a simple rule: no privileges until the chores were done. That meant no TV until the kitchen was cleaned up after a meal. No playing on Saturday 'til your room was clean (or until the bathrooms were clean or the living room was vacuumed and dusted, etc).

We had no TV or computers or anything like that in our rooms. If we felt like bucking her, we had to go sit there with nothing to do 'til we came around.

My parents did not argue with their kids. They were boss and we did it their way. They did not give alternatives.

HEY! Our leaves no mess!

Just one word...








meconium...

this works on ONE of my kids, and it's unfair on him that he is the only one that cleans up the other one simply goes without whatever priviliges there are

Yeah, my kids are little grubby shits too. They'd live like the kids on "Lord of the Flies" if they could.

I think I'm too soft on them.

you might as well do like I do, when it's dinnertime, just throw a couple of chops out on the back lawn

Org parenting advice!
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I childproofed my home, but STILL they get in